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Hey y'all. I was excited to write this FR because it's my first one and I can't wait to write more of these. I hope you can give me some feedback 
Pre-story two years ago- the times before "getting" women
I was on my way home from party at university. The night hadn't go well and I was exhausted. I was waiting for the bus, and a brunette showed up, let's call her P. I had seen her on campus before and knew she was a med. student like myself. I don't quite remember the opening, but somewhere in the conversation I told her I was med. student myself, and she asked if I was being a creep because apparantly she hadn't seen me around before. She needed help to get back home because it was first time she went home with bus at night (she's a foreigner). We got on the bus together, and I would tell her when she should get off and change for another bus that would take her straight to her door, and back then I couldn't wait to get rid of her because I was tired. Our ways seperated, and I haven't seen much to her since then. And when I did, we never talked. She also added me on Facebook for whatever reason.
Thursday: the party
Exams were finally over, and a party was needed to begin the holidays. I arrived at 11 pm, got a few drinks, played table football and beer pong etc. Just socializing. At 1:30 am I was on the dancefloor with the lads, and we did some pretty weird dancemoves. I accidently got seperated from them and caught P looking at me standing a few steps away. I smiled and said hi while waving her over. We stood close and touched each other but I couldn't hear her. I suggested we moved to a couch close by, she complied. I don't remember the conversation completely, but I'll share the important parts of it
1: we talked for two minutes to catch up, and afterwards I asked her what her plans for the holidays are. Telling me that she is going to a festival next week and that she will visit her family, I told her that I'm taking a term off, it's sad that we won't be able to see each other, and because of that we should definitely hang out before she attends that festival. She agreed, and I told her to put her number in my phone.
2: we kept conversating, and I caressed her arm and occassionally her leg as we did. Multiple times we would hold strong eye contact for seconds. When the music was too loud and we had to get closer to each others' ears, we would both use the same "technique": look like we are going for a kiss and then direct our movement towards the ear. Fun and exciting. At one point though, I told her that her eyes are beautiful, and she said you too. We kept strong eye contact after this, and I felt this was a good time to go for the kiss. She resisted, telling me she wasn't quite comfortable while moving her eyes and head towards the dancefloor (which was full of drunk, mutual acquaintances). I got her hint and suggested we moved to another location at the party where it was quite and short on people.
3: at the new spot we talked some more while I kept touching her and maintaining strong eye contact. But I started to sense that she wasn't looking to qualify herself through conversation - in other words, she answered with small sentences. So what I did: I moved her hair behind her ear and whispered she was gorgeous. She said I was really sweet and asked if she could kiss me. I just smiled, looked at her mouth and met it halfway.
We made out for 2-3 minutes. And all of a sudden, she dropped an bomb saying she had a boyfriend. I sensed a shit test here, and to be honest I was caught off guard. I hadn't seen any updates on Facebook about any relationship (unless she is keeping it secret of course, but I have been fooled by this "boyfriend"-test before). I kept that in my mind as I answered, but it could have been more smooth. The conversation went something like this
A host student came to our spot and announced that the party was closing. So we had to end the conversation. I think it went something like this
Follow-up texting
I texted her the following day
When she texted me this I wasn't sure how to deal with it. Due to my inexperience I was still uncertain whether she was testing me or if she was being serious and I decided to make this post to be sure. Initially I wasn't believing that she had given me a hard no, but I still don't understand why she didn't just leave me if she really had a boyfriend, or why she would even answer my text if she was going to turn me down. I have decided to move on, but I still feel I should have persisted more. all in all it was a great experience.
The most important lesson learned: I can move fast if I want to. What separated this case from previous ones was that I was going all in and being in the moment at the same time. I had no expectations whatsoever, I was just experimenting how far I could push it.
what do ya guys think?
a-jay
Pre-story two years ago- the times before "getting" women
I was on my way home from party at university. The night hadn't go well and I was exhausted. I was waiting for the bus, and a brunette showed up, let's call her P. I had seen her on campus before and knew she was a med. student like myself. I don't quite remember the opening, but somewhere in the conversation I told her I was med. student myself, and she asked if I was being a creep because apparantly she hadn't seen me around before. She needed help to get back home because it was first time she went home with bus at night (she's a foreigner). We got on the bus together, and I would tell her when she should get off and change for another bus that would take her straight to her door, and back then I couldn't wait to get rid of her because I was tired. Our ways seperated, and I haven't seen much to her since then. And when I did, we never talked. She also added me on Facebook for whatever reason.
Thursday: the party
Exams were finally over, and a party was needed to begin the holidays. I arrived at 11 pm, got a few drinks, played table football and beer pong etc. Just socializing. At 1:30 am I was on the dancefloor with the lads, and we did some pretty weird dancemoves. I accidently got seperated from them and caught P looking at me standing a few steps away. I smiled and said hi while waving her over. We stood close and touched each other but I couldn't hear her. I suggested we moved to a couch close by, she complied. I don't remember the conversation completely, but I'll share the important parts of it
1: we talked for two minutes to catch up, and afterwards I asked her what her plans for the holidays are. Telling me that she is going to a festival next week and that she will visit her family, I told her that I'm taking a term off, it's sad that we won't be able to see each other, and because of that we should definitely hang out before she attends that festival. She agreed, and I told her to put her number in my phone.
2: we kept conversating, and I caressed her arm and occassionally her leg as we did. Multiple times we would hold strong eye contact for seconds. When the music was too loud and we had to get closer to each others' ears, we would both use the same "technique": look like we are going for a kiss and then direct our movement towards the ear. Fun and exciting.
At one point though, I told her that her eyes are beautiful, and she said you too. We kept strong eye contact after this, and I felt this was a good time to go for the kiss. She resisted, telling me she wasn't quite comfortable while moving her eyes and head towards the dancefloor (which was full of drunk, mutual acquaintances). I got her hint and suggested we moved to another location at the party where it was quite and short on people.3: at the new spot we talked some more while I kept touching her and maintaining strong eye contact. But I started to sense that she wasn't looking to qualify herself through conversation - in other words, she answered with small sentences. So what I did: I moved her hair behind her ear and whispered she was gorgeous. She said I was really sweet and asked if she could kiss me. I just smiled, looked at her mouth and met it halfway.
We made out for 2-3 minutes. And all of a sudden, she dropped an bomb saying she had a boyfriend. I sensed a shit test here, and to be honest I was caught off guard. I hadn't seen any updates on Facebook about any relationship (unless she is keeping it secret of course, but I have been fooled by this "boyfriend"-test before). I kept that in my mind as I answered, but it could have been more smooth. The conversation went something like this
A host student came to our spot and announced that the party was closing. So we had to end the conversation. I think it went something like this
Follow-up texting
I texted her the following day
Me: Hey P. I had a great time yesterday. Hope you made it home safe
Her: Hey! Yeah, I was pretty drunk, but I made it home safe
Me: Great. It was a fun party
Her: As I told you, I have a boyfriend that I'm really fond of, therefore I regret what happened Thursday. It would probably be really inappropriate for us to meet.
When she texted me this I wasn't sure how to deal with it. Due to my inexperience I was still uncertain whether she was testing me or if she was being serious and I decided to make this post to be sure. Initially I wasn't believing that she had given me a hard no, but I still don't understand why she didn't just leave me if she really had a boyfriend, or why she would even answer my text if she was going to turn me down. I have decided to move on, but I still feel I should have persisted more. all in all it was a great experience.
The most important lesson learned: I can move fast if I want to. What separated this case from previous ones was that I was going all in and being in the moment at the same time. I had no expectations whatsoever, I was just experimenting how far I could push it.
what do ya guys think?
a-jay
