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[killerman]

Ok there's this girl I went on a 1st date with last summer. I know for sure this girl is very sexually open as she was touching herself 30 mins into the date while saying "oh look, i'm touching myself" so went to try and fuck her in public place in some garden. The last time I had come to that place I'd managed to fuck this other girl in the same garden so thought I'd try it again. My attempt failed but for the rest of the date we talked about sex, orgies, squirting like we were talking about the weather. However the girl didn't want to meet again. Then about 3 months later I got a random text from her saying "Hey, how are you? I'm in dorset now xx" I didn't want to come across as too needy so instead of saying I was up to come down and see her I responded by saying she could come up to my city when she was free. She didn't text back. Where did I go wrong? What should I have done? Should I have asked if I could come down? Or sent her a 3 or 4 texts before asking to see her?

 

[JimmyB]

I think you made the right move.
What probably happened is by not fully escalating with this girl at the time, you kind of botched it and she went cold.
Now she's texting you to just get a read. She could be texting a bunch of dudes in her phonebook looking for a hit. If you really wanna bang this chick you could consent to going up to Dorset, but idk how far it is and you'd likely get the run around and end up hanging out with her friends or having to work really hard to maybe get laid. If you suggest she come to you and she doesn't respond, she probably isn't super into the whole thing.

 

[killerman]

Ok cool, cheers. You say she was probably texting a bunch of guys to see if she got a hit. Why do you think girls do that? To see which guys respond and pick the most attractive of those guys and fuck him or is it just in order to get an ego boost?

 

[Big Daddy]

For the same reason we as guys should be doing it as well haha

Yeah man, I was pursuing a girl the past months that would talk about having sex but would not come to my place no matter what, so I just threw the ball into her court as you did. Still too soon to see if it's going somewhere, but the close percentages in these cases are generally low.

 

[Hector Papi Castillo]

You jumped at it too quickly; she didn't even say she wanted to see you.

https://www.girlschase.com/content/what- ... back-touch

It doesn't matter if the last time you saw her she literally said "next time I text you, it means I want you to immediately come find me and shove your thick cock into my tight little pussy." She got out of touch and played hard to get. Your interest should have waned then, but it's remained the same and she knows that. You're thirsty. I'm not saying be a dick, definitely be warm, but don't bend over backwards for her without more investment.

Perhaps you could have responded -

"Hey there - what brings you in town?"

Then go from there; you'd probably want her to give a clear sign of interest that she wants to see you or even wait for her to set it up herself.

Also, what's this about her spontaneously fingering herself mid-date? Lol? When that happens, you literally grab her hand, say nothing, and go fuck her.

Hector

 

[killerman]

Thanks Hector, yeah I did come across as too easy and should have made her invest a little more. It is frustrating as she had a great ass/body and from the orgies she told me she'd been in she would have been one crazy, wild fuck. Just had another girl text me tonight for the first time in 8 months. Will take your advice and make her invest. As for me not taking action immediately when she started fingering herself, yeah, well I did try to fuck her in that garden, but from what I remember I think it might have been like 20 minutes later, so the escalation window at that point had most certainly expired. I remember there was a pub literally 30 yards from where we were. Should have banged her in the toilets there (would only have been a minute's walk)instead of in some garden 10 minutes down the road lol

 

[Hector Papi Castillo]

Killerman,

Just to give ya a real world view and to demystify higher levels of game a bit, I wanted to let you know that I did the EXACT same thing two days ago with this very beautiful and socially talented girl. It's a very long story and its complexity has stretched my paradigm, but I fucked her back in November but I was so far in the Lover category that she almost went auto-reject afterwards since she's a high caliber girl (just a smidge out of Girlfriend range, because she parties and smokes sometimes, but very, very beautiful and smart). High caliber girls don't usually have sexual flings unless they're Female Players. And if they do have a casual encounter, they'll leave it at that, because they're not gonna let some player rope them into a relationship - they know they're hot enough to get full commitment from a guy. But I've had some help from Chase and have been making headway...kinda.

For the past few months we've been playing cat-and-mouse over text and I've dropped the ball several times. She's also flaked on me like 4 or 5 times. All in good sport, of course - she's trying to get more investment. Lovely girl. Anyways, been 2 weeks since she last flaked and i'd gone ghost. Well, fucked a girl Friday night and surprise, surprise, Saturday morning she texts me (girls LITERALLY can sense this stuff; I'm not even joking a little bit; I'm fully convinced it's happening on some quantum level or something beyond my understanding).

My first text was smart, but then she asked me what I was doing Sunday. And what did I do, just after giving you this advice? I told her my plans, then added at the end "but my night is free" There was context, given that she asked my schedule, but she didn't explicitly ask if I was free. See the nuance there?

Higher level game with higher quality girls = same principles, just less tolerance for mistakes and far more nuanced.

And what happened? Of course she flaked the day of our date. And it was all because of one silly texting mistake.

For every level, there's another devil. I hope my humble confession further reinforces the lesson for you, because it sure as hell enlightened me.

Hector

 

[killerman]

Well, just goes to show that even the best make mistakes sometimes ;-) but yeah, it's an easy mistake to make. Last year was my first year in game and I can remember at least 6 girls who i blew it with because I impatiently asked to meet up rather than worked on making them invest first. Good news is that it was my first year, and I won't make the same mistakes again. Though a few days ago i was texting that girl and followed the advice in the article you forwarded to me...was working really well at first, she was investing and i was ignoring all her questions but unfortunately as I hadn't read the entire article (i'm quite an impatient reader and skim a lot of stuff) I dropped the ball and answered one of her questions before I'd got her to agree to a date. Big fuck up I know, to which she said she'd let me know during the week when she's free, and surprise surprise, predictably, she still hasn't got in touch. Well at least I got further than all those other times, however next time I'm determined that I won't make the same mistake again.

Also, I was listening to the podcast you did for girlschase last year and I noticed you've got a really cool, sexual voice. How did you work on it, and what exercises did you practice to get that voice?

 

[NinthSanguine]

Killerman,

For the past few months we've been playing cat-and-mouse over text and I've dropped the ball several times. She's also flaked on me like 4 or 5 times. All in good sport, of course - she's trying to get more investment. Lovely girl. Anyways, been 2 weeks since she last flaked and i'd gone ghost. Well, fucked a girl Friday night and surprise, surprise, Saturday morning she texts me (girls LITERALLY can sense this stuff; I'm not even joking a little bit; I'm fully convinced it's happening on some quantum level or something beyond my understanding).

Can confirm, just dated and slept with a girl last night. Other girl, M, sees us on the date, and sure enough I get a text tonight. saying her suitemates dragged her to watch the bachelor, and that Olivia is insane.

No idea how to reply

 

[Hector Papi Castillo]

NinthSanguine,

Love the verification! And I actually fucked another girl the other night and guess who texted me the next morning I'm 100% convinced now. No doubt in my mind whatsoever.

I need to submit a physics paper entitled "Pussy String Theory" or something like that.

Killerman,

Most of the time, I just watch people react to me. If they're not paying attention, I slow down and change my tone, or raise my voice, and if it gets their attention, then it's an improvement and I make that my normal voice.

I pay attention to aesthetics. Do I myself find it sexy or do I get bored/annoyed/irritated with my voice? I adapt accordingly. Also, you want your voice to "purr." Watch movies with sexy characters. Watch their rhythm, their pauses, their tone, etc. Everything.

You want your voice to sing. You want it to fuck. You want it to caress her ears as you caress her pussy with your fingers. It's just as physical (literally, it's a vibration). Treat it like touch.

Hector

 

[Virgin101]

Ok there's this girl I went on a 1st date with last summer. I know for sure this girl is very sexually open as she was touching herself 30 mins into the date while saying "oh look, i'm touching myself" so went to try and fuck her in public place in some garden. The last time I had come to that place I'd managed to fuck this other girl in the same garden so thought I'd try it again. My attempt failed but for the rest of the date we talked about sex, orgies, squirting like we were talking about the weather. However the girl didn't want to meet again. Then about 3 months later I got a random text from her saying "Hey, how are you? I'm in dorset now xx" I didn't want to come across as too needy so instead of saying I was up to come down and see her I responded by saying she could come up to my city when she was free. She didn't text back. Where did I go wrong? What should I have done? Should I have asked if I could come down? Or sent her a 3 or 4 texts before asking to see her?

Well at least you didn't wait for us to reply before you answered! You get too many fellas like that lately.

 

[killerman]

One question though Hector...just received a text from some girl who I failed to get out a few weeks ago, but now she's texted me out of the blue so I'm following the advice in the article by avoiding answering her questions when she asks about me. However what do you do in the situation where you're ignoring the girl's questions, only for she to ask you why you're ignoring her questions? Hasn't happened to me yet but I'm just wondering what I should do if I ever run into this situation in the future. Thanks

 

[Fuck This]

I've been trading texts with a social circle, sexual girl who has hinted at some attraction on her part. I see her weekly in a running group.
We had talked one Sunday about how Facebook was alerting me to her attending events in my area.
She was attending a Mardi Gras event in my Downtown, I had a previous commitment before, she had one after
I joked with her that Facebook was trying to get us together.
A week later she texted me about a music event she was coming to, but I'd already scheduled a group of 20 friends for a Crab dinner and dance.

Her: Oh well they usually don't start until late like 9 . But I would imagine you will be stuffed with crab

Me: And smelling like garlic and crab juice. Yummy! (Self deprecating, with a hint of innuendo "smelling fishy")

Her: HaHa. Anything dipped in garlic and butter is always divine

Me: I'll keep that in mind the next time we get together

Her: Why? are you taking me someplace for butter and garlic? (Oh fuck it is ON.....)

Me: suggest a place that raises and sells oysters

Her: Well I won't say no to oysters. LOL

So my message to you is that you can have a full social plate, and let that be part of your attraction. When she signals an interest you have to hook it and run with it.

By the way this girl is a former vegan who asked me to help her start eating meat again...HEH, HEH, HEH.....

 

[killerman]

Ok that girl who got back in contact, I followed the advice in the "when she gets back in touch" article, and told her nothing about me and got her to do all the investing but STILL nothing came of it. Could you tell me what I did wrong?

girl: Hi chris, hope you're ok x

me: hey how have you been? you been up to anything exciting recently?

girl: Yeah not too bad thanks! Working today but the weather is grim so can't complain. How've you been? X

me: Yeah it's been pretty bad but spring is on it's way so the weather'll be getting much better very soon whereabouts do you work then?

girl: I hope so! It's my birthday next month too so hoping for some sunshine. I'm an operational manager in DVLA Swansea. What about you?

me: Well with all those beaches in swansea and sunshine coming it looks like you're going to have a right blast when your birthday comes next month we should meet for a tea/coffee soon, what does your schedule look like for the next week?

girl: Yeah sounds good. Where are you from? I'm working all next week Monday to Friday so depends when you wanted to do something

me: Ok cool, are you around this weekend? We could meet in Cardiff, there are a few nice little places we could go to.

girl: Hey not this weekend I'm bonkers sorry. Do you live in Cardiff?

me: ok well how about next tuesday? we could meet after you finish work if you don't finish too late?


She didn't text back so where did I go wrong?

 

[Zoro]

Killerman,

You essentially made the same mistake.

The advice wasn't to dodge her questions. It was to game.

The connection between the mistakes of investing too quickly and dodging her question is this... You are ignoring her needs/desires. She needs a man who can play with her. Investing too quickly kills the fun of the challenge, ignoring her questions makes her question what you want from her.

A good seducer is very aware of his prey's emotions and desires and then leads her there.

Dodging her questions like that communicates to her that you are going to continue ignoring her for your personal motive. And she could probably see right through to your intentions since the conversation quickly went to arranging plans, without a moment to answer her questions.

Don't get too caught up in the technical aspects of what went down. Take a step back and try to imagine how she felt, and you'll get insight into what happened. Do this often and with every girl. They work on emotions. What worked well one moment might be something that makes her close up like a clam.