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Using an old flame as a wing girl your opinion?

Lucky

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Yeah so a chick who screwed up with didn't persist...
Apparently knows a hell of a lot of hot chicks so...
1. How would I be able to meet with these chicks by talking with my friend
And 2. What's your idea on using chicks you used to like to wing girl or simply make connections?
 

lostnumber

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I'll give my two cents with the caveat that I am far from an expert at approach. From my experience having a girl wingman can be very effective, especially if she is attractive.

I went out to a few international happy hours with my old college drinking buddy and his cute Russian wife last year. They like to live vicariously through me and hear about my dating stories and were encouraging me to make some moves. I wasn't really feeling it, but I said "Fine, go start talking to the most attractive girl in this bar and I'll come join you and then you can dissapear after a minute, we'll see how it goes."

It worked phenomenally, and I was chatting with cute girls and making friends all night. I didnt attempt or make any pulls but that was more a matter of limited sample size and the fact that I ended up hanging out with a few girls who had boyfriends with them at the event.

Girl striking up a conversation with a girl is way easier and less threatening than guy approaching girl and gives you a very easy in. If she is attractive and cool it also gives you an element of social proof and preselection, both of which are very powerful.

Now, if you are a master A+ level seduction artist I suspect its more dominant and attractive to swoop in like James Bond than to rely on another girl. But if you are like me and hate / suck at cold approach I'd highly recommend giving the girl wingman a try if you have the opportunity.
 

lostnumber

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After posting I realize that your scenario is a bit different and you are talking about social circle, which is an entirely different ballgame.

What is your current relationship with the girl in question? The answer to your scenario is going to hinge largely on that
 

Lucky

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Mostly my relationship will her started off as casual flirting and it escalated to me asking her out and being rejected although I probably could have persisted I didn't for some reason I can't really think of right now maybe my pride...
So yeah she occasionally texts me for a bit of flirting around and we talk but not much and definitely not as much as we used to. But now she's just a friend who I run into sometimes...
 

lostnumber

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Lucky (; said:
Mostly my relationship will her started off as casual flirting and it escalated to me asking her out and being rejected although I probably could have persisted I didn't for some reason I can't really think of right now maybe my pride...
So yeah she occasionally texts me for a bit of flirting around and we talk but not much and definitely not as much as we used to. But now she's just a friend who I run into sometimes...

This is unlikely to be helpful for your seduction career. For someone to be a true wing person they need to know what you're about and support you in it, as in my example above.

Also social circle gets complicated when it comes to girlfriends of girls.

To me its more realistic that you could flirt with her friends and use that as social proof to get with her, rather than trying to use her to get with her friends. She already rejected you, so how is that boosting your cause with anyone else? If you try to make a move on her social circle she is more likely to sabotage you than assist
 

Lucky

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Okay, thanks for the advice lostnumber
 

Fuck This

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What you are describing is more social circle. When I announced my divorce, I had married women who told me they wanted to match me up with their single friends. Got me some invites to parties, where I met these singles but I did not pursue. I'm really leary of "Peeing in the Pool" by dating or ONSing friend's friends. Had one party where one chick got butthurt that I was talking to a girl who wasn't as attractive, and that I wasn't drooling over her fake tits. Mainly I didn't like the drama that crowd had...
 

Lucky

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So watch out for drama when doing social circle game?
(Sorry if I'm a bit slow on the uptake...)
 

Fuck This

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If you are going to have a wing girl:

Make sure she doesn't have feelings for you or vice versa
Make sure she is not going to disapprove of you having a long relationship or one night stand.
Make sure she is 100% on YOUR side so that when you dump the chick, she doesn't take her side
https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-u ... oads-girls

Meeting friends of friends can be tricky and drama inducing.
 
you miss 100% of the shots you don't take

Lucky

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Okay thanks Fuck this I appreciate the advice :)
 
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