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Vague answer. Clarify?

Romy

Space Monkey
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Hey guys. I asked a girl out for a cup of coffee and this is what it looked like:

Me: Wanna go out for a cup of coffee next week? :)
Her: I have an afternoon shift next week :/ (we work together)
Me: Cool, what day after 8 suits you? Maybe saturday/sunday? P.s., it's a holiday on monday. ;)
Her: I'm not in town currently :) We'll come up with something :)


That's it. I'm not that much of a beginner to not notice the rejection between the lines. Vague answers without counter offers. I wonder should I push it or move on? I didn't put any effort in this but maybe she's just playing hard to get or is shy (she seems very shy in person). Thanks.
 
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pks391

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If you ask me an answer like, "Okay lemme know when you're free to meet" seems good.
Then just stop texting her until she gets back to you. Don't initiate contact. If she meets you in person, wait a few days and be chill and then ask her out. Unless she asks you first....otherwise wait it out and then ask her again.
Patience is the key.
 

HellAtlantic

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She doesn't seem that interested. Don't sweat it. She knows you're interested in having a coffee with her, if she magically gets interested she'll let you know when she's finally ready to hang. Always have an abundance mentality. Don't put all your eggs in one basket. If you had 10 other girls you normally interact with in a sexual way this one girl who isn't making it easy to have a simple cup of coffee wouldn't phase you and you wouldn't give her a second thought. But definitely don't text her again until she does. And definitely don't bring up hanging out until she does or else you'll be that orbiter who constantly nags her to go out for coffee. If she happens to text you back and asks how your weekend was or what you did on the holiday on Monday just say "Had coffee with someone I dated a while ago, she was in town for a few days." leave it at that and don't answer any other questions or reply to any of her comments regarding it. Her mind will start imagining things and you'll establish yourself as a guy who has female options. Most likely she won't text you back but don't chase, if you text first you will come off as desperate.
 
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