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We matched on tinder. The girl was maybe a 6. She texted me rightaway saying she was going to leave tomorrow so could we see each other tonight. I was thinking she wanted some dick real bad. I said sure. We scheduled somewhere close to me and she gave me her number without me asking for it.
We met up. The whole interaction was really friendly. She is like a hippie type of girl. Short hair, weird/cool earrings, bracelets stuff like that.
I was I think smiling too much, cracking jokes. I normally have enough of a sexual chemistry with girls and smiling, making jokes and hugging all make me more attainable. But not with this girl. I was touching her as well. I started touching her just a little, not as aggresive as I normally do, then upped it more when I realized I wasn't touching her as much as I should. She was okay with it, like I would squeeze her leg as I said something it I would take her hand, she wouldn't take my hand off her but she seemed unaffected by it all. She didn't get excited, she didn't get horny. There was no sexual tension. I masturbated a lot the night before so I wasn't brimming with sexual energy either to be honest.
We talked about some of her sexual escapades, like her 3some with her friends (3 girls) stuff like that. But she talked about everything and she talked a lot as if she was telling it all to a friend. She did ask me about my work and such but didn't ask me any sexual questions or my hobbies as far as I could remember, as it usually goes, because if she did that could have been a way to paint myself as a sexual guy even if I responded just with a smile and a "who knows".
We've talked for about 1,5 hours, nowadays this is the time where I usually go for the pull but I could feel that there were no sexual tension so I suggested we move to another place. I paid for the meal she ate and my drink because my company was going to pay for it anyway. That's what I thought and I told her this and that she could for our coffee next. I think this was a mistake as well, sometimes it doesn't matter whether you pay or not but other times if the girl doesn't see you as a sexual plaything it's just better not to pay even if you don't actually spend money.
We moved to a nearby coffeeshop, I led her by the hand, here the vibe was a bit more intimate. I said you are cute bringing her closer, she laughed out loud and said "No, I'm not". I said okay you're not, you're horrible, laughing. But I didn't like she rejected my compliment and I think it might have showed. Then when the vibe was better, I was reading her coffee (fortunetelling) I first did it a bit seriously even when I was saying I see a penis, look here, but it is unerect it needs someone to make to go up, it was all good. Then I did something stupid, I half jokingly said I see a sexy man and she burst out laughing, I was flustered a bit. Big mistake, I think I should have done that with a deadpan face and not smile at all and just look her like a silly and cute girl.
This was right before we were about to leave so I didn't have time to salvage the situation. She said before that she wanted to sleep early because she wanted to wake up early and explore the city before she flew back. I suggested we spend more time, she said no she had to go, I suggested let's go somewhere more private she said no anyhow long story short I persisted a bit but then let her go. I wasn't expecting a yes anyway because I didn't pull on a high note, I just asked because you never know.
Okay first of all, I think with this girl everything was harder. Maybe she was on birth control and behaving sexually turned her off. Maybe we were just not a good match.
I am not (very) sorry to see her go because I wasn't very attracted to her and I learned a lot. I was getting a bit cocky, some humility is good, reminds me there's still so much to learn!
Biggest mistake I did was letting the vibe get too friendly. When I first realized it, I should have smiled less (I do this sometimes) completly still face. I should have slowed down the interaction, laughing less, letting there be more silence stuff like that. That's how you create tension.
I should have been more challenging, used more push and pull, withdrawing my attention when the vibe was too friendly.
I should have bounced from the first venue sooner.
I should have been more forceful (in a smooth way of course) bringing her closer to me, making her touch me more.
I think there are other mistakes I did but I'll edit the post if I think of them.
We met up. The whole interaction was really friendly. She is like a hippie type of girl. Short hair, weird/cool earrings, bracelets stuff like that.
I was I think smiling too much, cracking jokes. I normally have enough of a sexual chemistry with girls and smiling, making jokes and hugging all make me more attainable. But not with this girl. I was touching her as well. I started touching her just a little, not as aggresive as I normally do, then upped it more when I realized I wasn't touching her as much as I should. She was okay with it, like I would squeeze her leg as I said something it I would take her hand, she wouldn't take my hand off her but she seemed unaffected by it all. She didn't get excited, she didn't get horny. There was no sexual tension. I masturbated a lot the night before so I wasn't brimming with sexual energy either to be honest.
We talked about some of her sexual escapades, like her 3some with her friends (3 girls) stuff like that. But she talked about everything and she talked a lot as if she was telling it all to a friend. She did ask me about my work and such but didn't ask me any sexual questions or my hobbies as far as I could remember, as it usually goes, because if she did that could have been a way to paint myself as a sexual guy even if I responded just with a smile and a "who knows".
We've talked for about 1,5 hours, nowadays this is the time where I usually go for the pull but I could feel that there were no sexual tension so I suggested we move to another place. I paid for the meal she ate and my drink because my company was going to pay for it anyway. That's what I thought and I told her this and that she could for our coffee next. I think this was a mistake as well, sometimes it doesn't matter whether you pay or not but other times if the girl doesn't see you as a sexual plaything it's just better not to pay even if you don't actually spend money.
We moved to a nearby coffeeshop, I led her by the hand, here the vibe was a bit more intimate. I said you are cute bringing her closer, she laughed out loud and said "No, I'm not". I said okay you're not, you're horrible, laughing. But I didn't like she rejected my compliment and I think it might have showed. Then when the vibe was better, I was reading her coffee (fortunetelling) I first did it a bit seriously even when I was saying I see a penis, look here, but it is unerect it needs someone to make to go up, it was all good. Then I did something stupid, I half jokingly said I see a sexy man and she burst out laughing, I was flustered a bit. Big mistake, I think I should have done that with a deadpan face and not smile at all and just look her like a silly and cute girl.
This was right before we were about to leave so I didn't have time to salvage the situation. She said before that she wanted to sleep early because she wanted to wake up early and explore the city before she flew back. I suggested we spend more time, she said no she had to go, I suggested let's go somewhere more private she said no anyhow long story short I persisted a bit but then let her go. I wasn't expecting a yes anyway because I didn't pull on a high note, I just asked because you never know.
Okay first of all, I think with this girl everything was harder. Maybe she was on birth control and behaving sexually turned her off. Maybe we were just not a good match.
I am not (very) sorry to see her go because I wasn't very attracted to her and I learned a lot. I was getting a bit cocky, some humility is good, reminds me there's still so much to learn!
Biggest mistake I did was letting the vibe get too friendly. When I first realized it, I should have smiled less (I do this sometimes) completly still face. I should have slowed down the interaction, laughing less, letting there be more silence stuff like that. That's how you create tension.
I should have been more challenging, used more push and pull, withdrawing my attention when the vibe was too friendly.
I should have bounced from the first venue sooner.
I should have been more forceful (in a smooth way of course) bringing her closer to me, making her touch me more.
I think there are other mistakes I did but I'll edit the post if I think of them.
