Vid recommends not forcing girl to make decisions. If you still need to get some more info before making the decision, how might you phrase it?

[sinksink]

At 1:45 They recommend not asking a girl to make a decision -> guy needs to lead

Ex: you are flying up to meet a girl in a different state
You are trying to find out if she'll meet you right at the airport or not

By the logic in the youtube video, it seems like asking her to make decision "do you want to meet at X or Y" will annoy her? Should I just order her to do something "meet me at X"? Or if you wanted to gather more info first "are you free at its arrival time" -> too annoying to ask alot of questions, should you just go in and make a pgood plan yourself?

 

[Vision]

Instead of asking her to make a decision about what she wants to do, you figure out what you want and then find out if she can accommodate it or not.

"I'm flying in on the 12th at 4:15pm. Can you meet me at the airport when I arrive?"

or

"I'm flying in on the 12th. I'm going to take a taxi to your place and should be there around 5pm and we'll get dinner from there."

You're in charge. You're the man. You give her the plans.

And it depends on the girl too... I've flown in before and had girls surprise me at the airport. I wouldn't expect that from a girl if she's more submissive and waits on you to tell her what to do.

Also if she's kind of airheaded or disorganized, you may need to tell her again in advance if you're far out from the date of arrive right now.