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Guess this is my last chance, thought I was banned, but wanted to really get this thread out there and hope that others kinda see my situation and give advice accordingly.
So growing up, I was never really a part of what they called the "in crowd". I was always the odd kid out and it continued over on to college too. After college, things became a little bit easier for me because the dating app revolution was really kicking off so I got some cute girls (6s and the occasional 7) along the way.
Looking back at it though, the cute girls I did get were not the ones I really wanted or in scenes I wanted to be a part of. I am talking girls who were part of fringe crowds like the vegan hipster alt-indy types.
I took some time to reflect.
Looking way back at it to my high school and college days then I noticed that a lot of the really hot girls ran in crowds and cliques. They had their cliques of other hot girls and guys who were a part of them.
After college, I noticed the same thing, at least with hot girls I wanted. Chase kinda touched on this in his blonde bombshells article but I am not just talking about them, I am talking all hot girls with status.
Therein lies my issue that I want genuine help fixing.
I am in my 20s and they are almost about to be over.
A lot of these hot girls had a ton of friends growing up and a lot of them from their college days, they have social status. The guys who get them were probably the popular social status having naturals too. They are all a part of their own crowd that I have a tough time breaking into.
On the other hand, for guys who found their stride in life later on like me, here is the status struggle....
We didn't have quality friends growing up, a lot of our friends we might have had to be honest sucked.
We don't have a crowd of our own to fall back on but on the flip side, it seems so tough to make find and make friends with that sort of a quality crowd.
I have tried Co-Ed sports and volunteer programs and time and time again, I run into the same characters that don't really bring that value to my life. Guys who are way older but trying to fit in with younger people, guys who lack social skills, and married couples.
Even "happy hours" bring lame corporate work people that aren't much fun or looking for friends.
So therein is my problem, these hot girls run with a crowd I am having a borderline impossible time breaking into and I am having a tough time finding a quality social crowd of my own that I can boast about.
I have always had a problem with this and I feel like I have to get it fixed but I don't even know how.
The worst thing is like I feel that I can be more handsome than the guys in these crowds but they still get the hot girls because they are a part of that crowd.
So growing up, I was never really a part of what they called the "in crowd". I was always the odd kid out and it continued over on to college too. After college, things became a little bit easier for me because the dating app revolution was really kicking off so I got some cute girls (6s and the occasional 7) along the way.
Looking back at it though, the cute girls I did get were not the ones I really wanted or in scenes I wanted to be a part of. I am talking girls who were part of fringe crowds like the vegan hipster alt-indy types.
I took some time to reflect.
Looking way back at it to my high school and college days then I noticed that a lot of the really hot girls ran in crowds and cliques. They had their cliques of other hot girls and guys who were a part of them.
After college, I noticed the same thing, at least with hot girls I wanted. Chase kinda touched on this in his blonde bombshells article but I am not just talking about them, I am talking all hot girls with status.
Therein lies my issue that I want genuine help fixing.
I am in my 20s and they are almost about to be over.
A lot of these hot girls had a ton of friends growing up and a lot of them from their college days, they have social status. The guys who get them were probably the popular social status having naturals too. They are all a part of their own crowd that I have a tough time breaking into.
On the other hand, for guys who found their stride in life later on like me, here is the status struggle....
We didn't have quality friends growing up, a lot of our friends we might have had to be honest sucked.
We don't have a crowd of our own to fall back on but on the flip side, it seems so tough to make find and make friends with that sort of a quality crowd.
I have tried Co-Ed sports and volunteer programs and time and time again, I run into the same characters that don't really bring that value to my life. Guys who are way older but trying to fit in with younger people, guys who lack social skills, and married couples.
Even "happy hours" bring lame corporate work people that aren't much fun or looking for friends.
So therein is my problem, these hot girls run with a crowd I am having a borderline impossible time breaking into and I am having a tough time finding a quality social crowd of my own that I can boast about.
I have always had a problem with this and I feel like I have to get it fixed but I don't even know how.
The worst thing is like I feel that I can be more handsome than the guys in these crowds but they still get the hot girls because they are a part of that crowd.