FR Was she ready to have sex?

[TrailBlazer]

So I met this girl on my dancing lessons. There was no tension between us, but one day I used a sexual gambit on her and she became way more receptive.

Last week at a party she was all over me, touched me a lot, and I kept shooing her away to dance with my friends.

When we were dancing together, she was kind of grinding on me and also verbally teasing me. I put her hands behind her back a few times and told her that she will get spanked, etc. She told me she enjoys bdsm and stuff like that.

At the end of the party she was leaving and I told her to wait for me. This is what I don’t like about game - if I didn’t tell her to wait, nothing would have happened. It’s all dependent on my actions and I don’t like that because you can easily miss opportunities (quick rant over).

So we walked together (again I had to literally convince her to walk my way, ugh) and we went to a fast food place.

There I chose a secluded spot and after a while I told her to rest her head on my shoulder. After a while of that I told her she’s terrible at keeping the tension, and told her to touch our noses (like face to face) and stare into each others eyes. This is my “kiss routine” but at the end I couldn’t make myself go for the kiss. I was more comfortable knowing that it could have happened if I wanted it to.

After this (still in the fastfood place) I caressed her hair and told her to do the same to me, but she refused. This I didn’t like, so I ignored her for a while (a LMR method) went on my phone, then went back to her, but she was much colder to me. She said she needed to go home already.

So we went outside, I tried to salvage it by asking her out for the next day, but she wasn’t too keen.

Before this, she was texting me almost daily, now it’s been a week with no investment on her part. And this is social circle, so that’s pretty messed up… this was the most keen girl and she was giving me a lot of social preselection for other girls to see. I really don’t want to lose that.

I wonder if this is how social circle dates work, or if more could have happened. I already put a lot of effort by literally making the date happen, by then I was tired of being the driving force behind everything.

 

[OldGuy]

She was grinding on you because she wanted to have sex with you! When you could not even come through with a kiss, she gave up on you, and feels rejected by you. No future with her, although some pre-selection with the other women may still exist. (Don't refuse a woman's offer again!)

 

[TrailBlazer]

She was grinding on you because she wanted to have sex with you! When you could not even come through with a kiss, she gave up on you, and feels rejected by you. No future with her, although some pre-selection with the other women may still exist. (Don't refuse a woman's offer again!)

I have trouble believing that. I didn’t give her much game, only like 2 gambits and some sexual talk. And I pushed her away from me, but that’s all. She still didn’t hear the most important sexual gambits yet, for example. I also haven’t deep dived her enough. I’ve studied this stuff for over 10 years now, it shouldn’t be this easy to lay women.

But yeah maybe there’s a whole another layer of game after making the physical moves that I haven’t discovered much yet. Anyway I still can’t believe that someone would be interested in me this quickly. That completely messes up the critical view I have of myself - and it happens a lot during daygame too. I just can’t accept that some women would want me even before I threw all the powerful gambits on them.

 

[gameboy]

I’ve studied this stuff for over 10 years now, it shouldn’t be this easy to lay women.

That says it all

You're too much in your head. You don't need ANY gambits to lay a girl. Just make the moves and move things forward, as long as she is happy to go along there is no such thing as going too fast.


How do you think people reproduced before the internet? Nobody had any idea that gambits even exist.

 

[TrailBlazer]

That says it all

You're too much in your head. You don't need ANY gambits to lay a girl. Just make the moves and move things forward, as long as she is happy to go along there is no such thing as going too fast.


How do you think people reproduced before the internet? Nobody had any idea that gambits even exist.

Oh man, this seduction stuff is really tough. Basically I’m forced to see that I’m good enough and some women want me even without all the bells and whistles. It’s literally destroying my identity. I mean it’s good but it’s brutal on my inner world. I’ve been functioning from the wrong place for the past.. for my whole life actually.

I’m glad for these changes but it hurts. All I ever had to do was relax and women would have liked me. Dammit!

 

[gameboy]

Relaxing defintiely helps

 

[OldGuy]

Sometimes it is that easy! (And it does shake up your self image.) The first time I realized it, I had been part of the group organizing the event. Isaid 'Hi' to every one coming in, than a sexy woman asked if she could sit at my table for pizza, i said 'yes, but my wife and daughter might be joining us'. She then invited back to her hotel for the night. It took me 18 months to adjust my self image of not sexy.