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Hi all,
I am not new to the game. I'm in my late 30s and have been there and done that a gizilion times. Having just come out of a two year relationship I met this fabulous girl at a party of a friend of mine. She is in the country for a holiday from Canada, is staying at her parents and is planning to return during early Feb. We hit it off and exchanged numbers. She told me that she was thinking of moving back to the country from Canada. The following day, I asked her out on a date to go for a walk around where she lives. It turned out to be a fantastic date! We talked, joked and laughed a lot. I then drove her back to her place and before I could say goodbye, she approached me and kissed me. We kissed another 2 or 3 times while sitting in the car. There were no awkward moments, no uncomfortable silences and no indication whatsoever that anything had gone wrong at any point.
The following day I thought to give her a call and to invite her over to mine for dinner. She didn't respond until much later on that evening telling me that the jet lag was really messing with her sleep and that she had a great time with me on the date but would be in touch to hook up again before she left! I replied very briefly that I understood and wished her a nice holiday and that I was looking forward to seeing her before she left. She replied with an "of course and a smiley". Since then, nothing!
WHAT THE *&%$!!!! At this point, I need to provide some intel: i noticed that I share one common friend with her on FB. I spoke with this common friend who told me that as far as she knew, the girl was in a very serious and happy relationship in Canada the last time she was in contact with her, which was around a year ago. This made me think that maybe she'd broken up with the old bloke and hooked up with me as a rebound thing while on holiday or that maybe she's sat and done some thinking wondering that if she starts anything now then this could lead to a long distance rubbish when she's not even sure if she wants to move back here. All of these are guesses of course. Having just come out of a two-year stint myself, I'm wary of the rebound effect and recognise that you often end up wanting to jump into something new simply because you're too used to being in a relationship.
I respect this imagined situation that I think she may have found herself in but need to have one session with her to see if I can establish myself as a viable option for her if she ever decides to move back from Canada. At this age, I'm not interested in simply getting laid and am looking for something a lot more meaningful. The big question is how to do this?
I feel like an experienced surgeon who is about to kill a patient during a procedure he has carried out a million times! help!
I am not new to the game. I'm in my late 30s and have been there and done that a gizilion times. Having just come out of a two year relationship I met this fabulous girl at a party of a friend of mine. She is in the country for a holiday from Canada, is staying at her parents and is planning to return during early Feb. We hit it off and exchanged numbers. She told me that she was thinking of moving back to the country from Canada. The following day, I asked her out on a date to go for a walk around where she lives. It turned out to be a fantastic date! We talked, joked and laughed a lot. I then drove her back to her place and before I could say goodbye, she approached me and kissed me. We kissed another 2 or 3 times while sitting in the car. There were no awkward moments, no uncomfortable silences and no indication whatsoever that anything had gone wrong at any point.
The following day I thought to give her a call and to invite her over to mine for dinner. She didn't respond until much later on that evening telling me that the jet lag was really messing with her sleep and that she had a great time with me on the date but would be in touch to hook up again before she left! I replied very briefly that I understood and wished her a nice holiday and that I was looking forward to seeing her before she left. She replied with an "of course and a smiley". Since then, nothing!
WHAT THE *&%$!!!! At this point, I need to provide some intel: i noticed that I share one common friend with her on FB. I spoke with this common friend who told me that as far as she knew, the girl was in a very serious and happy relationship in Canada the last time she was in contact with her, which was around a year ago. This made me think that maybe she'd broken up with the old bloke and hooked up with me as a rebound thing while on holiday or that maybe she's sat and done some thinking wondering that if she starts anything now then this could lead to a long distance rubbish when she's not even sure if she wants to move back here. All of these are guesses of course. Having just come out of a two-year stint myself, I'm wary of the rebound effect and recognise that you often end up wanting to jump into something new simply because you're too used to being in a relationship.
I respect this imagined situation that I think she may have found herself in but need to have one session with her to see if I can establish myself as a viable option for her if she ever decides to move back from Canada. At this age, I'm not interested in simply getting laid and am looking for something a lot more meaningful. The big question is how to do this?
I feel like an experienced surgeon who is about to kill a patient during a procedure he has carried out a million times! help!
