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So the first week was pretty hectic. Thought I'd list out what happened according to the days that progressed.
 

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Registration day

Epilogue:

Before the college week I first had to go to one of the college's campuses to register. I already typed out the bulk of the field report

here

However, I failed to mention a key character within the post.....

The receptionist.

She was coloured with diamond blue eyes. Short, wearing red lipstick. A white shirt on a white Jean. She was hot!!!!! She appeared to be older than me by 5 years or more. I left her alone after coming to the conclusion that I wouldn't be back on this campus since I'm just using this campus to register.

But at the end of the day I learned that I was to be taught on that campus site. It was then that I decided I'd reveal myself to her slowly (moving too fast was my problem with girls. It was time to take a different approach) throughout the year or at least whenever I see the opportunity to do it in a socially adept way.

Let's name this girl.....Juliette.
 

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Day One

Nothing!

Absolutely nothing!

The notorious high school I was in consisted mostly of black people. When I left there was maximum 1 white girl and 2 Indians left in there with the rest of the 800+ population consisting of black people.

Once I reach the campus all I see are white, Indian and coloured people, maybe a black dude here and there. In my past experiences these races socialise differently from the crowd I'm used to. So I decide to lay low. I spoke to nobody and spent the day trying to analyse crowds without getting caught.

(Luckily we all had to attend orientation were fluent speakers spoke to us about the school and told jokes and whatnots).

Racist post?...Maybe. I have nothing against other races, my first kiss was with a white girl so I guess I'm attracted to them a lot because of it. I guess I just found the situation kinda intimidating.

Anyway....day one was a bust.
 

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Day 2 (part 1)

Ok, the posts kinda get long so I'll just start off by dividing this day into sections

In the morning I find out that I registered for the wrong course and will have to transfer to another campus, so today will be the last day I'll spend on this one. This relaxes me again as I know that if I make mistakes then I won't have to answer to them because I'll disappear. So I speak to my student advisor so he can do the work while I attend orientation.

There I see the whole room moving about and see a girl sitting at the back alone:

Me: hey
Her: hi
Me: so what's going on in here? *sits down next to her with one chair between us*
Her: I dunno.
Me: oh. Ok.

*silence*

Her: oh, it looks like people are sitting in their groups
Me: oh? I don't have a group.
Her: I had a group but I lost it
Me:.....
Her: let's go over there
Me: ok

*we went to the other side since the place we were sitting at was being occupied by a group*

Me: we should make our own group
Her: yeah *smiling*
Me: we would beat all the other groups just the two of us
Her: yeah *wider smile*
Me: what's your name?
Her: blah blah....you?
Me: Ash
Her: nice to meet you ash
Me: nice to meet you too.

At this point one of the crowd directors helped us and sat me down next to an Indian girl. She looked pretty conservative and seemed to be half-involved with friends next to her.

Me *as I'm sitting*: hi
IG: hey
Me: how are you?
IG: I'm ok, and you?
Me: awesome

I had no clue what to say afterwards and just sat there in silence. After a while it was time for us to go to our classrooms to be orientated by lecturers. So we left. On my way I saw a black girl with dreadlocks going just past her shoulders walking alone.

Me: hi
Her: hey.
Me: why are you walking alone? (thank you Chase)
Her: I don't know anybody here
Me: same here
Her: you also don't know anybody here?
Me: yeah, as soon as we split up, I'll be all alone again
Her *laughing*: what's your name?
Me: ash, you?
Her: blah blah
Me: well blah blah....at least we have each other now. Which course you doing?
Her: law

We reach the building and are separated. I reach my class and pick out a seat which turns out to be right next to IG. The lecturers orientate and then we reach a break. Everybody's exhausted at this point.

Me: how was it?
IG: I'm tired.
Me: yeah. Me too.

I go off alone during the break and wonder the building and then return. A new lecturer has come and this one is more lively and motivating than the other. It was pretty awesome. Then a lunch break ensues and we all gotta go to the cafeteria. There I wait in line for food and order. I get a receipt and am told to wait for my order. And then I see a girl sitting alone.

Me: Mind if I wait here for my order?
Her: its ok, you can. :)
Me: cool, so what's your name?
Her: blah blah
Me: nice to meet you
Her: and you?
Me: ash
Her: cool

we spoke a while about the high school we came from and the new college experience, and then her friend came. After chatting the friend up as well I found out that they had just met in class and had decided to chill together. I ran outta topics and temporarily eject to find my order. It wasn't done yet and so I went back to em and chatted em up some more. Then I went to go check on my order again and it still wasn't done. And then....

I saw her.

My Juliette.
 

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Day 2 (part 2)

I see her from afar holding her cellphone to her ear, speaking to somebody about business most likely, as she walked in my direction. This was my chance to spark something up between me and her. So I decide to go to her with the intention of starting off platonic and then escalating slowly towards seduction.

Me: *waves hand when she looks up*
Her: *smiles and waves back*
Me: *keeps body language open to signal intention to talk to her*
Her: *stands, talks for a while on phone, says bye and drops*
Me: hi
Her: hi
Me: Juliette right? (was introduced on stage as co-host of social department)
Her: yeah
Me: I wanted to ask if.......(tried to do a dramatic pause but it ended up sounding like a nervous sudden realization)
Me: my name's Ash.
Her: it's ok.
Me: so I was wondering if you knew *name of random teacher*
Her: yeah?
Me: do you know where his class is?
Her: oh yeah *directions*
Me: oh. Ok
Her: but I doubt he'd be in class now
Me: its cool. I'll go later
Her: ok
Me: thanks *walks away*

Did I eject too early? Indeed I did. But didn't know how to transition into a friendly convo without revealing the fact that me asking where the teacher was was just an elaborate way to sneak into her social radar.

Anyway, I genuinely was looking for the teacher I asked directions for and I continued on my way towards his class. I get lost on the way (too distracted by her hypnotic beauty to listen to her directions ) and end up seeing a girl (waiting for a guy who was speaking to a teacher I didn't know) abruptly after turning a corner.

I pass her and look into a class (which I can tell is empty) to show that I wasn't stalking her.

Me: hi
Her: hey
Me: how are you?
Her: I'm fine thanks you?
Me: I'm awesome, is that your boyfriend?
Her: no, that's my brother.
Me: Awesome!!!!!
Her *giggling*: for you or for him?
Me: both
Her: yeeeeeaaaah right
Me: so what are you two doing?

I guess the conversations are sort of repetitive as I usually follow the same format when approaching people:

Hi
How are you?
comment about what they're doing
Use reply to formulate my own reply

And seeing as there is no way to make a reply that addresses EVERYTHING she says, I can just go back and pick off old topics to reuse whenever I hit a slow patch.

Anyway, me and the girl spoke about school and how she's thinking of coming here, her brother finished up with the teacher and left (guess he trusted me?) and I number closed with her. (looking back I probably should have escorted her back to her brother).

Lunch break is over and its time to head back to the hall to be spoken to by the social department.

There are games but I don't care. I lost interest in Juliette as well after realizing she was a lost cause (auto rejection?) and I continued to lay back and hope that I nod off to sleep or something. Then Juliette walks into the room

All gents look at her when she passes by them. And I watched them all brush her off as unattainable. It was astonishing. I was the only one brave enough to even speak to her. I fell for her hard when I realized that. And knowing that I wouldn't see her again meant that all gloves were off. It was time that I at least show her that I like her. That was mission number one. Not sleeping with her or dating her or even number closing her. Just the mere fact of letting her know that I liked her....that was my goal.

The day went on and when we were finally let go to attend some team building stuff, I used the opportunity to sneak off so I could find somebody to help me with the transfer stuff. I find a worker (whom I had asked out about 3 hours prior to the social department's meeting. Not important. Got turned down) to help me. She takes me to her office, which is next to the call Center for the college, and that is where I saw my Juliette. Sitting answering the phone calls.

The girl helping me disappears suddenly. I guess this is my chance. I have no idea how to approach Juliette as she is working in an office and it was the worst possible moment for me to try to mack on her. But she was kinda sorta alone. I mean, there were other people in the room but if I spoke softly then people would only be able to tell that I'm flirting because of my body language. And even then they'd have to mind their business right?

But it was still a terrible situation and I just decided that a loss is still a loss, but I'd prefer if the loss was because of me.....not circumstance. So I type out the words "Let's date" on my phone and approach her.
 

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Day 2 (part 3): Juliette

Ash: *Walks around room so I can approach her from front, shows Juliette phone whilst she is still on the phone with a client*
Juliette: *Reads typing on phone and blushes her faces off. Sits back astonished*
Juliette *to Ash*: I'll be right back, don't leave *hangs up phone and completely forgets about client*

At this point I know she's telling somebody about what I had just done. But I don't care. Is a lose-lose situation truly that if you choose to always lose in the direction that is most convenient? If I'm gonna die either way then I'd rather opt for death-by-fireworks!

Two laughing gentlemen men come outta the room Juliette entered and they approach me.

Host: is this the guy? *pointing at me*
Juliette: yeah
Guy 1: what did he do?
Juliette: uhhhhmmmm
Ash: I think I know what she's talking about, so lemme just show you.
Ash: *Shows message to guys*
Host: Who wrote that? You?
Ash: Yeah
Host: You've got livers man *walks away*
Guy 1: *Walks off*
Ash: *Turns to Juliette*
Juliette: Uuuuuhmmmm.....
Ash:.....
Juliette:......I can't
Ash: Why not?
Juliette:.....Uuuuhhmmmm
Ash: Do you have a boyfriend?
Juliette: No, I don't. I'm single.
Ash: *Confused look*
Juliette: Come sit here next to me.

I know that the GC board would hang me if I complied.....but she is REALLY hot.

Ash: *sits next to her*
Juliette: *turns to Ash *
Juliette: Uhhhmmm.....I can't. I just came out of a bad relationship and I'd prefer to stay single.
Ash: But I'm a nice guy
Juliette: Uuuhhhhmmm
Ash: Or do you want me to charm you first? I'll bring you flowers and some chocolate if you like.
Juliette: First of all I've got hayfever and I'm allergic to nuts. (bullshit)
Ash: Then ill bring you a PICTURE of a flower and an apple?
Juliette: An apple? Do I look like a teacher? *laughing*
Ash: Then a watermelon. I always thought bigger was better anyway. *sly smile*
Juliette: Uuuuhhhhmmmm.....
Ash: Ok, let's get to know each other first. What course do you do?
Juliette: Oh, uuuhmmm...Graphic Design
Ash: And what year are you in?
Juliette: You mean you want to get to know me now?
Ash: Yeah
Juliette: I'm working.
Ash: Oh ok....Then gimme your numbers so I can call you.
Juliette: But my voice makes me sound like a midget *laughs*
Ash: No. Your voice is perfect. I know this is gonna sound cheesy but I think everything about you is perfect
Juliette: Uuhhhhmmm.
Ash: This happens to you a lot doesn't it?
Juliette: What?
Ash: Being charmed.
Juliette: Yes. A lot actually
Ash: Well that's ok. I don't wanna be your first. I just wanna be your last.
Juliette: See, now that was cheesy.
Ash: Well I thought it was rather charming.
Juliette: *laughs*
Ash: so blah blah blah (can't remember what I said here. )
Juliette: *Looks around and sees two colleagues staring at us*
Juliette: And what are y'all looking at? *playful tone*
Girl colleague: ncooooh! Young love!
Juliette: *laughs*
Girl colleague *to ash*: why are you blushing?
Ash: I'm not blushing. I'm making a charming smile.
Girl colleague: *laughs*
Guy colleague: Yo Jason!!! They out here stealing your girl!
Juliette: *laughs* (there was no Jason)

Eventually the colleagues got bored and went back to minding their own business.

Ash: *Turns back to Juliette*
Juliette: At least lemme give you my instagram
Ash: I don't have instagram
Juliette: Confused look
Ash:.....
Juliette: Facebook?
Ash: Don't have. I don't like using a lot of social media.
Juliette: Uuuuuhhhmmmm.
Ash: Ok, lemme give you my numbers then.
Juliette: *Starts looking for pen and paper, then turns to me*
Juliette: Ok, I'm still busy now. Lemme finish up and get back to you.
ash: Ok

At this point I finish up my transfer process after 2 minutes (after approaching another girl in a different building) and decide to say goodbye to Juliette. I had given up on getting her numbers and decide to just be courteous rather than seductive. However as I'm going back, her coworkers see me reapproaching.

Girl colleague: ncooooh! Lover boy is back to say goodbye

The colleagues and half of the office go ape shit crazy and I just decide to stand there and absorb the moment with a smile. And then the room goes back to minding their own business again.

Ash: Alright, I'm leaving Juliette.
Juliette: Uuuuuhhhhmm
Ash: Goodbye
Juliette: Uuuuuuhhhmmmm

Her hesitation confuses me and I assume that it means that she's surprised and maybe even disappointed that I'm forgetting all about her numbers.

Ash: oh yeah. I'm gonna need to drop my numbers with you
Juliette: What? Did you not just see what happened?
Ash: What happened?
Juliette: Uuuhhhhmmmm
Ash *Softly so that co workers couldn't hear*: Don't let them pressurize you.
Juliette: What?! I'm pressurizing you?!
Ash: No no, I said tha-
Juliette: *Turns to girl coworker*
Juliette: he says that I'm pressurizing him.

The coworker is mortified when she hears what I had supposedly said and begins lecturing me about real men taking responsibility for their flops and never shifting the blame to women. I make a joke which disarms her and shift the mood to a playful one. She tries to continue the joke but I'm too astonished by what just happened. The guy coworker luckily breaks the tension by saying :

guy coworker said:
Never listen to advice from girls!

They go back to their work and I turned back to Juliette to say goodbye. She said nothing and sat there speechless as well. Then the host came in and pretended to be her boyfriend so he could pull her outta there while simultaneously saying stuff to tool me.

She went along with the act but she has a confused look on her face and seems rather annoyed.

Anyway.....that was the story of how I approached Juliette. Still a bit more of the story to come but that was the beef of it.
 
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Day 2: Conclusion

So day 2 was pretty much an emotional rollercoaster that ended with a train crash. As I was going back home with the transfer process complete and my reputation at the college campus having faced oblivion, I couldn't really do anything except.....

Smile.

Yes, Juliette was an epic fail, but I had done something the entire school was afraid of doing. I approached her. And not only that, I approached her knowing full well that the chances of us snoggling were low. Yet I still spat into the eye of fear and swaggered towards her.

I think that people are generally afraid of being humiliated socially when approaching. What I went through was far worse than humiliation. My ego was completely annihilated. But it was increasing steadily afterwards because......

I went through the worst.....and I was still standing.

That is how you get rid of fear.

I knew that today I was a changed man. Although the fear would probably come back soon, I knew that I was equipped to handle and get over that fear. Because I got rid of it today. And I will be able to do it again should I have to. Day 2 was the highlight of my week.
 

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Day 3

Sorry if the rest of my posts end up sounding rushed but I'm in a hurry to post up something that needs immediate attention. I'd post it up now but doing that would cause the timeline of my posts to be out of whack and I'll be confused for a while. So its best I just try to post up my posts and conclude hanging stories.

So day 3 was a randomly social day for me. The confidence I gained from Juliette proved that I had balls big enough to approach who I wanted, when I wanted. So now that I knew that, it was time I sharpened my approach....to only approach when during situations that wouldn't blow up in my face.

day 3 was my first day on the new campus. I couldn't spend it with the other students because I had to spend a significant portion of my time re-registering on the new campus. But luckily there were people who were applying to enter the campus as well.

I started off closed off from the world, trying to understand what exactly the "right" moment was for me to approach people. Then I realised I should scrap that idea because life was too short to be perfect. So I looked around and saw a girl sitting a chair away from me (I was first in line and she was second).

Me: hi
Her: *shocked look*...hi
Me: what's wrong?
Her: are you a first year?
Me: yeah
Her: I can tell. Not a lot of people are social around her
Me: oh yeah?
Her: yeah, I like your energy
Me: cool. *charming smile* so where are you from?
Her: I'm from blah blah, you?
Me: blah blah. So if you're from blah blah then why did you come all the way here?
Her: I didn't wanna school there *laughing*
Me: well welcome!
Her: *laughing* thank you.

I was then called up by the registeration people. Apparently I had to go to different booths to register. So they sent me off to the next one. There I sat next to a girl. I sat there tjinking of a socially acceptable way to greet her but I scrapped that idea again.

*after 5 minutes of silence and moving with the line*
Me: hi
Her: hi
Me: is it ok if I started talking to you?
Her: yeah, its ok *starts blushing*
Me: cool, coz this whole keeping quiet like a mime think feels awkward for me
Her: yeah, it is.
Me: so what's your name?
Her: blah, you?
Me: Ash
Her: oh....what's your full name?
Me: *laughing* no, ash is just a nickname.
Her: oh, ok.
Me: so what course you doing?
Her: (forgot what she said)
Me: oh, cool. What year?
Her: second.
Me: *shocked expression* second?
Her: yeah. You a first year?
Me: yeah

called up to the registration table and moved onto the next one. There I sit next to a girl again, but I don't speak to her because her body language seemed to belong to a type of girl I never do well with. The tomboyish girls who are proud of their culture (who are unfortunately the ones who tend to be the sexually free type).

A friend texts me. We're attending the same campus. She's lonely.

Then the table calls me, but I have to wait because this girl is still being tended to. Eventually we're all sitting in silence because the computer is being slow.

Me: hi
Her: hey
Me: which year of varsity you doing?
Registeration guy: she's in her thirst year!
Her: *giggles* (was I just tooled?!)
Me: wow, so I'm coming and you're leaving. The irony....
Her: *giggles*
Me: so what are you doing?
Her: biomedicine.
Me: cool

I kept quiet, astonished by what happened and decided not to open her again. But in my deep thought I couldn't help but remember my interaction with Juliette and how I flopped thoroughly with her and whether or not it was the right thing to do to give up on her. then I remember approaching Juliette with the phone and figure.....why not do the same with this girl?

Me: *googles: what is biomedicine, and shows it to girl*
Her: *reads google's response* yeah, that's basically it.

I began questioning her about biomedicine and who she's friends with and the quality of the school. Then she leaves as her registration's complete. I'm sent off to another table after a while and then another one the other side of campus to get my student card. Inside I sit next to a girl wearing a gold watch and a phone with gold casing.

Me: wow, so I'm sitting next to a rich girl? *holds watch*
Her: *laughing* nah, I just like the colour.
Me: do you own a car?
Her: no, why?
Me: I'm just wondering if its gold too or not.
Her: *laughing* no
Me: so what course are you doing (my go-to topic)
Her: blah blah

Called by table. Sent to table on other side of campus because of a technical problem. There I meet the manager.....oh! The manager.

I get there and he checks out the mistake and he tells me that I'm still registered on the other campus, and after registering today I may end up paying school fees twice a month. Amounting to R150 000 per month.

The news doesn't exactly piss me off. What pisses me off is the fact that the manager wasn't composed at all when he said that. He acted upset or whatever. Not sure if he was trying to act sympathetic or whatever but it sure was irritating. He was causing a scene. I kept answering him in as calm a voice as I could muster hoping his mind would mirror my calmness and it worked. He eventually calmed down.

After a while it was decided that I would go to back to the other campus tomorrow to try to pressurise them to fix things. I agreed (thinking only of Juliette of course).

I was done registering and the day was almost over. I texted my lonely friend and told her I was on my way. We met up just as the day ended and people were going home. Apparently today was just orientation and people playing games. I spent 2 hours with her afterwards and I think I developed a bond with her as we spoke about our childhood together and we made each other laugh. It was a pretty warm moment. And an awesome way to end the day.

I spoke to tons more girls throughout the course of the day, but I don't remember what I said to any of them. These are about half of the interactions I had on day 3. I mass approached like a rabbit in spring.
 

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Day 5

I'm back on the new campus where I knew nobody except my lonely friend. Except today she wasn't lonely because now I'll get to meet one of her friends. So I was pretty excited. Plus now registration would be complete and this stressful situation would finally be over. So I go to the registration office.

They tell me I'm missing documents and I realize that I would have to go home.

It was pretty hard knowing I would have to go home, but I figure it wouldn't take much time. Much to my dismay, I found out that cabs don't use freeways when going to my area because that wasn't where the customers were and I'd have to ride with them the long way and boar extra taxis. And on top of that I had to deal with the fact that I had no idea how to cab my way back to school. Unfortunately I had no choice because I wasn't willing to carry over this registration disease with me into the new week.

once I get home my lonely friend tells me she and her friend have left out of boredom. I was disappointed. But not so much because I had the entire year to set up future dates with her. I was more excited than disappointed really. And decided to look at it as though she were teasing me.

It was at home where I checked instagram and realized that Juliette had seen my message through rationalisation. The rest of the story with Juliette can be seen

here

where I explained what happened. Shortly after making this post however, I was too anxious to wait for a response from the board and decided to go ahead with my "harsh" response regardless. Afterall, I'm right a lot.....right? There's no way that what I'm doing to her could be wrong. So if I wait around for the board to respond.....they'd just tell me it was ok.
So I sent her the "harsh" response and waited for the board.

I found my documents and went back to school. By the time I got there, the day was done. It took me all day to get from school in the morning.....home.....and then back to school. My travelling spanned over 8 hours. But I got back and my registration was complete. I missed the entire orientation week....but at least I could work next week in relative peace. The next step was to get student accommodation.

I approached one girl on day 5, but I'll write up a field report about her since I view her extremely worthy of it. I'll link the report here if I find the time.
 

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Week one of college

It was a pretty intense week which had finally come to an end. But there was only one thing to do.

Juliette hadn't responded to my "harsh" comment and I decided to check the board on if they knew why that might have been. And I saw the replies which told me I was being needy. I obviously rejected the idea of course. But gradually, as I considered the recent things I had done.....downloading an app for her, being passive aggressive....I realized they were right. There was only one thing to do....

Delete instagram.

As I was about to do this, I decided to message Juliette one last time so as not to be passive aggressive and to let her know that I was still open to talking to her (I generally don't like losing people because of something as mere as a bruised ego).

"hey Juliette, I'm giving up on instagram. If you want to talk one day, then my numbers are blah blah blah".

I knew she would never respond. Not after the way I acted. No....me and her were done. And I had completely accepted it.

On Sunday, I moved into my new accommodation. I now live alone in my bachelor pad and am free now to stack up em lay reports. I wrote posted this long week in the hopes of showing future undergraduates of GC what the first week of college would look like, but considering my registration issue, I suppose my first week was a bit of an anomaly. Still.....I guess there were a few lessons one could learn from my experiences.

Anyway, the first week of college has passed. Time to look forward to the rest.
 
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