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[ChrisVirtue]

So I've been procrastinating writing field reports for some reason. I had a good thread going in the months of March and April. With 5 new lays coming quickly.

The truth is... I went to Miami for the RSD summit, and I ended up going on quite a tear, fucking 7 new girls in a one week period and then somehow getting a handjob on my return flight home from a random columbian girl I happened to be seated next to.

Oh yeah... and 3 of the girls I banged are models.

I ended up flying a girl from Miami to Vegas to assist me with some photoshoots, and she's basically turned into my live-in assistant. She's a pretty cute model and likes threesomes, and we've already successfully had one threesome with an LA fashion model.

I wish I was writing field reports during all of the period, as it really was quite an insane period of time.

My assistant, let's call her Leo, has been helping me with all kinds of personal and business tasks over the last couple weeks as I've been taking a "break" from game.

Which has definitely been dope. In that, I finally filed my taxes on-time for once, I got my condo looking spiffy and organized, and now I have her working on business tasks for me.

At the same time, I've definitely lost some of my social "edge" and the momentum I had going. I mean I was closing girls left and right... Not to say that I can't return to that quickly, or that my macro momentum is still not on an overall upward trend, but I'm feeling like I'm susceptible to "settling" with this girl, rather than leveraging her as preselection in order to have more threesomes, foursomes and accelerate my game to even higher heights...

One of the things that having a girl live with me is teaching me, is how to fully and shamelessly "integrate" game into my life.

The roadblocks I'm encountering are...

how can I cold approach while this girl might question me going out at night and leaving her?
how can I do my proper game "warm ups" like vocal warmups, practicing vocal intonation, and various game drills? (some of which I like to yell a lot during)
how do I maintain and maximize my social flow states, when I can't warm up myself with cold approach activities?
how do I properly leverage having girls with me at events I host or events I attend where I am not the host? Sometimes I feel awkward at events like this with a lack of social momentum.
how to effectively run threesome game while having my girl be excited about it and not making it seem too "preplanned"? (thus killing the excitement)

Overall, I want to hit my stride, where I can feel fully free to approach girls in front of/with my assistant. I want to be able to continue my growth in my expressive abilities. I want to become a frequent producer of videos, and get back into my habit of making 1 video a day, to enhance my expressiveness on camera and start posting more youtube videos.

Growing my social influence using youtube, tiktok, and IG. Having a clear understanding of the types of videos I want to make and why they excite me. And going out and doing cold approach regularly in my amazing cold approach city, that is finally opening up fully!

All while building my 2 businesses, and finally cracking the balance of making a dope online income so I can sponsor photoshoot and other types of events getting me easy access to models.

These are my goals... and I'll document it all here.

I've tried other sites and journaling methods. But overall I feel like a "success-with-women" journal seems to be the most exciting for me to write as I'm actually documenting the highlights and most interesting parts of my life. And if I'm succeeding with the hottest models, influencers, celebrities in LA, then that should be the strongest indicator of how my overall life is going

It's about to be a wild ride.

Welcome to the show.

 

[ChrisVirtue]

So after writing the above post, I intended to write an actual field report of my day yesterday. However I became distracted and didn't do it.

Anyways, I'm currently at a house party in LA, in the guest house, and none of the girls here are particularly hot, so I thought I might as well just bang this out real quick to give myself some clarity and direction while Leo is in the party connecting with some of the girls in there.

5/28/21: Pool Party Tandem Game

I flew out to LA with my assistant for a friend's birthday party I was invited to. I wasn't exactly sure what to expect, but he is a high value friend and he personally invited me, so it was a good opportunity for me to deepen my connection with him.

Even though my assistant helped me pack the night before, I got sucked into a minor business conflict, and took a long time to get ready for our flight, so we literally BARELY made it on the plane. They had closed the doors to get on, but for some reason they reopened it for us.

Thank god we made it on the plane, because my assistant and I would've gotten in a big argument if we didn't lol.

It's funny how results drive everything in relationships. If the results are good, there is nothing to argue about. Arguments come out of scarcity in pretty much every type of relationship. I'm realizing just now that as I surround myself with girls 24/7, I technically am gaming 24/7. Thus increases the importance of these field reports. This is the most fitting way for me to reflect, analyze, and rapidly accelerate my growth.

We arrive at the party early, and it takes a while to pick up. I am able to connect with the friend whose birthday it is, so that is accomplished at least

There are a few cute girls here, but I'm really struggling to open and "fit in" socially. I feel out of it, likely due to not doing cold approach recently. It's an unfamiliar and thus somewhat intimidating, daytime pool party environment. I've always been better and more comfortable in night environments (probably due to 1000s of nights out and maybe being to only 10-20 pool parties in my life lol).

I'm kinda not doing much, and pretty in my head. I have 1.5 drinks, which warms me up a bit, and is disappointing because I had gone 20 days straight with no alcohol before this.

This experience is what prompted me to start this new thread...!

Time to figure this shit out. The live-in assistant thing has been a new challenge for me to figure out how to maintain my social momentum.

Anyways... the party winds down, and I do start feeling socially warm. I open a few girls and get into longer conversations with them. At the end there is this one super cute girl who gets in a sexual tension moment with me and my assistant Leo. But then a guy walks in and ruins it. Still, it feels nice to experience that "threesome" sexual tension again, and reminds me how good the rewards can be in my immediate future if I simply play things right

After everyone leaves, we go to sleep early. And I wake up to a fairly unproductive day, which I'm frustrated in. I need to take more of a leadership role in my own life, and wake up earlier + work harder than my assistant to set an example for her.

One of the other things I've been challenged with as well is managing the balance of this girl being my assistant as well as a sexual partner, initially she was serving as an assistant quite well, and I'd prefer to keep introducing her as that, because when I did have the threesome with her and that model it was under that premise. I should discuss this with her, and start aggressively introducing her as my assistant.

Things I did well:
Made the flight to LA
Made it to the party early
Wished my friend a happy birthday and earned cred with him for flying out for his bday
Got a free place to stay for 2 nights in LA
Bought return flights
Had a chance for a potential threesome - logistics were available at least.
Met some cute LA girls + got their IGs
Persisted in uncomfortable environment until I randomly started feeling socially warm.

Things I could have done better:
Overall prep - maintaining my own social momentum by doing more regular cold approach, either with my girl Leo or without her.
Woke up earlier with an alarm to get ready for my flight.
Not get sucked into my phone first thing in the morning
Not drink coffee until I finish this daily field report. I'm serious about it this time. I need a way to process my thoughts and analyze/strategize what I'm doing. Coffee is my reward, because as long as I've done these "morning game pages", I can feel a release of tension and clarity regarding my plan for today.
Talked to the cuter girls right away and not been scared... it's bullshit for me to be scared to approach these girls. When they have way less clout and attractiveness than a lot of models I have no problem talking to

Lessons Learned:
Set an example. Get excited about my goals, and make the decision to take priority action on them, then assigning tasks to Leo and other employees
Warm up socially every day - no matter what Leo thinks, just DO IT

Goals for Next Time:
[ ] Discussion with Leo about me intro-ing her as my assistant (maybe I can do this now)
[ ] Approach one cute girl I haven't met yet at this party

 

[PalmaSailor]

Perhaps I’ve missed a bit but I don’t understand why you e moved a girl in if you’re not banging her.

is she paying rent? If not why not? Do you need the rent money?

otherwise why compromise your personal space and put yourself in a position where you feel the need to account to her for what you’re doing?

in fact why do you feel like that anyway?

 

[ChrisVirtue]

Perhaps I’ve missed a bit but I don’t understand why you e moved a girl in if you’re not banging her.

is she paying rent? If not why not? Do you need the rent money?

otherwise why compromise your personal space and put yourself in a position where you feel the need to account to her for what you’re doing?

in fact why do you feel like that anyway?

I think you misread, I'm banging her and we're doing 3somes. In fact I have another girl flying in tonight to have 3somes with.

 

[Skjöldr]

Jesus christ dude damn. You should write a LR with some of these girls

 

[ChrisVirtue]

Goals Evaluation:
[X] Discussion with Leo about me intro-ing her as my assistant (maybe I can do this now)
- I did chat with Leo briefly, and told her that I wanted to intro her as my assistant. She gave a little bit of sass, but she is fine with it. I would like to hammer this in further though, because she isn't being upfront with people that she meets, telling them she's my assistant. Instead she's saying stuff like, I'm with him, or I don't know what we are.
[X] Approach one cute girl I haven't met yet at this party
- I did chat with one girl who was kinda cute, nothing special. I was gaming her well and I'm pretty sure I could've banged her. But I didn't have the balls to try to isolate. It reminds me that my goal should be to simply isolate, and check the vibe once I isolate, and not overthink actually having sex with the girl. That's a key thing that enables me to have a massive amount of pulls.

5/29/21-5/31/21:
So.... the night of the party I wrote the last field report during...

It wasn't really much of a party, but did have 30-40 people show up. The house is so big that it feels like no one is there unless you had like 100+ people. In terms of girls, no girls there were particularly cute. In fact, the girl I was with was the cutest by far. So, no real threesome potential.

I did strike up a longer conversation with a bubbly latin girl, who was definitely fuck-able, but not particularly hot or anything. So that felt good to be able to game and converse with her. I think I've been missing game and taking responsibility for MY cold approach game.

I've stopped taking responsibility for being the one who creates the attraction and comfort, and been trying to lean on Leo to do that. It's definitely been a fun experiment, and I've been learning a lot about managing pre-selection.

But, now it's time to start wearing the pants again in my life.

I'm going to go out with Leo this week in Las Vegas and do cold approach with her as my tandem wing. We're going to aim for threesomes.

I'm not sure if this is going to go well tbh. I considered about her excitement and commitment to the process. I'm not going to formally teach her game or tell her about the PUA tactics, etc. She would think it's weird. She doesn't like the threesomes to feel pre-planned. Which obviously is stupid because there needs to be planning and strategy to effectively get laid in PUA.

We've been arguing a lot recently. She's been extremely defensive on her opinions and stances on things. It's quite annoying, because I really value open-mindedness. I hate how she just becomes defensive and rarely asks questions to get my perspective on things. She acts as though I should value her perspective extremely highly, despite her having very limited success and results in her own life.

I'm not keeping her around for these reasons. She has the chance to redeem herself with threesomes this week, or she's out. I might need to be more up-front with the possibility of kicking her out. For a while there, I wanted to kick her out, but I persisted waiting until she helped me with my taxes, etc. And then I kept finding new things for her to help me with.

At this point, the threesome thing sounds like it is a good learning experience for me, and then I can always ditch her and go back to gaming + flying models out.

On Sunday, we flew back from LA to Vegas. And we made our flight which was good. I had a long argument with her about dumb shit, and then ended up getting food poisoning which was terrible. She was even arguing with me right before I threw up. And then I felt terrible all day monday. Definitely a shitty experience.

I can't rely on her for anything. It's time to step back into my power zone.

Cultivate the daily habits of success that got me to this point.

Daily Journaling here.
Daily Meditation.
Daily Exercise.
Daily Vocal Warmups. (and if I have to yell, I'll just do it, or just walk around the block while I do it - would be a good social pressure exercise)
Daily Filming of a Practice Video to train my on-camera skills.

A fully integrated PUA life.

No more dampering my expressiveness, my desires, my needs, my goals.

The show has only just begun.

Things I did well:
Survived food poisoning
Held frame with having threesomes
Argued with Leo, learning about how bad it is to argue with girls.
Flirted with that girl at the party.
Made my flight from LA back to Vegas
Got login for disney+ and watched beauty and the beast

Things I could have done better:
Less arguing with Leo - perhaps pull myself away from unnecessary arguments and journal here to figure out my thoughts.
Do a better job of having daily priorities and attacking those, rather than getting lost in social media and irrelevant things
Meditate more

Lessons Learned:
Arguing sucks and dealing with drama/non-compliance is annoying as fuck. I need to be more aware of how I can reward good behavior and punish bad behavior.

Goals for Next Time:
[ ] Meditate
[ ] Vocal Warm Up
[ ] Film a practice video

 

[PalmaSailor]

I think you misread, I'm banging her and we're doing 3somes. In fact I have another girl flying in tonight to have 3somes with.

No I didn’t misread.

but why have you moved her in?

you didn’t answer the questions?

she’s supposed to be your assistant but you’re mixing it with sex.

this has got train crash written all over it

 

[ChrisVirtue]

Perhaps I’ve missed a bit but I don’t understand why you e moved a girl in if you’re not banging her.

is she paying rent? If not why not? Do you need the rent money?

otherwise why compromise your personal space and put yourself in a position where you feel the need to account to her for what you’re doing?

in fact why do you feel like that anyway?

1. I am banging her

2. she's not paying rent. I don't need the rent money, I am financially successful

3. This is a good point, I suppose I'm sacrificing personal space as a challenge to see if I can hold my frame and integrate my day-to-day life while being around women. One of my desires is to live in a mansion with 3-5 girls living with me, so I view this as a learning experience for that future scenario.

4. I suppose the reason I feel like I can't do the exact same things, is because the PUA lifestyle I live is very different compared to the person I present on my social media. It is very odd to spend 4-5 nights a week cold approaching for hours. I'm trying to find a way to integrate this girl into that lifestyle so that I can have more threesomes. Also, she has been tremendously useful as an assistant at times, and it's helping me get organized in my life.

 

[ChrisVirtue]

No I didn’t misread.

but why have you moved her in?

you didn’t answer the questions?

she’s supposed to be your assistant but you’re mixing it with sex.

this has got train crash written all over it

I suppose I didn't intend to move her in, but she lives in Miami, so she doesn't have her own place yet, maybe you're right I should pressure her to get her own place.

 

[ChrisVirtue]

Random thought:
One of the key things I want to focus on is furthering my preselection system. With youtube videos featuring attractive women, and hosting events with lots of women.

 

[ChrisVirtue]

Goals Evaluation:
[X] Meditate
- did this, and it felt good
[ ] Vocal Warm Up
- skipped it because I started reading a book instead
[ ] Film a practice video
- skipped this because the vocal warm up would've been what led me into this.

6/1/21:
So this isn't much of a field report, but again, since I currently have Leo living with me, I'm able to learn and develop my skills of dealing with women even if I don't go out to pick up girls or to a social event, etc.

I woke up feeling a lot better, and was able to summon enough energy to complete some basic tasks. I did find my energy running out pretty quickly though, and I "hit a wall" at a certain point, where I kinda just settled into watching TV with Leo.

One thing I did was finally start rereading the book "Crucial Conversations" which has been recommended to me several times recently, as well as a frequent recommendation of RSD Tyler. My first read of it, I only made it about 30% of the way through and that was probably about 4 years ago.

The book is definitely enlightening me on why specifically I'm getting into arguments with Leo. I see in a lot of ways that I'm engaging in passive aggressive, manipulative behavior to try to get what I want (3somes, and her showing enthusiasm as my assistant). And, the truth is that I would get a much better outcome of getting the things that I want if I learned a more direct, open communication style. I imagine this is the way that a lot of naturals do quite well, in terms of being up front with girls what they want from the relationship, rather than lying and people-pleasing in order to do anything to get the girl to sleep with them. The obvious truth is that the more up front we are about our boundaries and expectations from the start of a relationship, the better the relationship will actually work in terms of serving both members, and I think we are often surprised at how open girls are (or people in general) to following our lead.

People want to be led. Plain and simple. They don't want to think for themselves. The opinions we all have are mostly copied from others and random things we've been exposed to.

A lot of times people are going to have conflicting opinions to me. And I realize that quite often when I encounter this, I attack their opinion, because I believe so strongly in mine, and I have lots of evidence to support my view. I'm somewhat spoiled in that I often have a stronger frame and I'm used to people listening to me. So it is frustrating when people don't value my opinion. Perhaps it's because I'm on a bit of a pedestal in the communities I'm in due to my degree of success with girls. It definitely feels good to have my ego stroked, and there is certainly a place for that...

But, overall, I recognize that there has to be a better way than arguing with people and asserting myself aggressively, and cutting them out entirely if they don't agree 100% with my philosophies and vision.

Crucial Conversations has given me a glimmer of hope in that regard... and I've already learned an important lesson from it, namely to ask myself questions of what outcome do I want for me, the other person, and the relationship in general.

In regards to Leo, I want 3somes & support in the tasks of business/life, and I want for her to experience self-growth, increased career growth, and also to enjoy the 3somes. And I'd like the relationship to be one where we can help eachother long-term in various ways, even after she moves out. For instance, her continuing to do some online work for me.

I've definitely learned through essentially having a 24/7 assistant available... something that should be quite obvious: having an assistant or more employees to do tasks for me is not my most major roadblock. I've learned this lesson in the past numerous times, and it's good to learn it again.

The real thing holding me back is myself. My own ability to stay organized & prioritized in my goals. My own abilities as a leader to lead others skillfully to want to do the tasks that I ask of them. And crucial conversations is a big part of that, because it is very stressful to try to manipulate others into doing what I want. And not having them do what I want is even more annoying.

I need help to build my businesses and hit the outcomes I want in life. I need assistants, employees, members of my army. That is a fact. Nothing extraordinary gets done in this world without a team.

But, the truth is, I need to position myself as a strong leader who understands how to properly manage a team and make the work fun and enjoyable. This is what will suck people into my vision moreso, as they see that being a part of my army gives them more significance than anything else their limited brains can imagine/fully realize.

It's time to step into my shoes as the leader I've always been meant to be. Whether it's socially/dating leading to 3somes/4somes, or in business getting more clients & investors, or managing members of a professional team. I can do this, but it starts with learning the correct behavior to have productive conversations and create a culture of openness and synergy. Incentivizing people to want to do their best.

Things I did well:
Had enough energy to do basic chores
Watched the full movie Titanic for the first time (good movie imo)
Laughed my ass off reading reddit comments related to Titanic's ending after the movie
Wrote this FR (felt great and relieving - for some reason this format really hits something with me)
Meditated and was able to get deeper breathes after food poisoning hurt my breathing
Ate some food
Read a good chunk of crucial conversations
Took handwritten notes while reading in a notebook
Managed Leo to continue to do some outreach for my business
Asked my mentor a q about my dynamic with Leo, and his answer helped me a lot

Things I could have done better:
Figure out a way to give feedback better. I feel like I always just straight into what needs to be improved, and don't reward people's effort they are actually putting in. A lot of this is valid, because if they aren't learning quickly, it appears to me that they aren't listening and putting in proper effort, and thus they don't care enough. But if I don't condition the effort and reward them, then it makes it impossible to properly cultivate that effort. I should genuinely recognize the positive and then ask them questions about how it could be better. Or reward them genuinely + immensely then ask them if they want my feedback. (I'm hoping crucial conversations will enlighten me on this)

Lessons Learned:
Reading the top recommended books is always so helpful. It is time consuming though, but learning the information properly and engraining it and reflecting on relevant life experiences is an invaluable process well worth the time.
Reward people's EFFORT (more so than their results) to condition more effort? Then ask them if they want my feedback
Writing field reports like this relieves so much mental tension

Goals for Next Time:
[ ] Continue Reading Crucial Conversations

 

[PalmaSailor]

1. I am banging her

2. she's not paying rent. I don't need the rent money, I am financially successful

3. This is a good point, I suppose I'm sacrificing personal space as a challenge to see if I can hold my frame and integrate my day-to-day life while being around women. One of my desires is to live in a mansion with 3-5 girls living with me, so I view this as a learning experience for that future scenario.

4. I suppose the reason I feel like I can't do the exact same things, is because the PUA lifestyle I live is very different compared to the person I present on my social media. It is very odd to spend 4-5 nights a week cold approaching for hours. I'm trying to find a way to integrate this girl into that lifestyle so that I can have more threesomes. Also, she has been tremendously useful as an assistant at times, and it's helping me get organized in my life.

Be careful..

and good luck.

 

[ChrisVirtue]

Goals Evaluation:
[X] Continue Reading Crucial Conversations
- I am almost halfway through the book now, and it has been immensely helpful, as I will describe in my report below. It's teaching me a lot about myself, some uncomfortable truths and perhaps reasons why I struggle to have longer term win/win relationships with others. It's uncomfortable, because I know I could focus on PUA and bang tons of girls with shallow interactions, but it's giving me a more deep understanding of empathy and understanding my own and other people's tendencies.

6/2/21-6/3/21:

Again, kind of an odd report here, yet I feel compelled to express myself. These self-expression channeled in these reports is allowing me to learn at a rapid pace.

Anyways... I didn't write a report yesterday, because I was dialed in focused on confronting Leo on some of the things I was unhappy with her performance on. Basically, the lack of threesomes, and her poor performance on some of the business tasks I had assigned her.

As mentioned in my prior report, Leo had become extremely defensive over almost every minor little thing, and we had been fighting/arguing a lot.

In Crucial Conversations, they mention that defensiveness, sarcastic remarks, arguing, etc all indicate that the person feels a "lack of safety" in the conversation. Leo likely felt that I didn't care about her and her goals/objectives. That I was prioritizing my own objectives and being selfish.

Both of these are true. I honestly don't care about her THAT MUCH... lol. I do have the ability to help her in her goals and I'm willing to do that as long as she helps me with the things that I want. I'm pretty sure this is not an ideal thing. Because if I don't care for her deeply, I'm not sure how far this can really go. It's not something that's fun to fake...

Anyways, Crucial Conversations has definitely taught me that the other person needs to feel like I do care bout their goals, interests and values.

I think I'm very good at doing this, when I'm in the middle of the PUA process. I'm good at maintaining eye contact with girls and rewarding their qualification. But, the issue here is that I'm not fully doing this from a genuine perspective. I'm doing it as a tongue-in-cheek PUA tactic, that I've developed so well that 99% of girls can't even tell it's fake. But there is 1% of people that do. Specifically, I think guys often can see it more than girls because I simply don't give almost any fucks when other guys are talking unless I deeply admire them. For girls, I'm able to be invested because I have the carrot of fucking new pussy being held on a stick right in front of me

Crucial Conversations solves this masterfully. The best solution is to simply identify a shared goal or mutual purpose for the relationship. Something that can benefit both of us. A win/win.

Where there's a clear shared goal that is valuable to both of us to achieve, it's easy to put aside differences and collaborate. The only reason to attack each with a competitive mindset, is if there's no clear reason to collaborate.

This is the only way for people to genuinely trust my motives. It's a very high paradigm method of communication and influence. Possibly, the ultimate level of persuasion. If I can be up front and honest about my goals, and make my goals contain what they want, then they will TRUST me as well as devote effort in the direction of my goal.

The frame to have here is that the Mutual Purpose must be so motivating, that it overcomes any minor differences in opinions and interests. What is the motivating factor for the other person, or their PDE as RSD Luke calls it? Once I know this (found through simple values elicitation), then I just tie that result to a shared goal.

The other thing CC (Crucial Conversations) says is necessary is for Mutual Respect. Respect is a degree of admiration for the other person. If both people don't respect each other, it's going to be hard for them to work together, because they are going to feel the need to "defend their honor". This is likely why Leo was being so defensive, because she felt that I didn't respect her opinions. Which is true, I shouldn't respect her all that much because she hasn't really achieved many results that I want. Still, I recognize she is skilled in communication and getting others to open up, and building immediate comfort and attraction with women. So, I do respect that. CC recommends to focus at least on the base level of respect of people's basic humanity. This ties in with one of my core beliefs that all humans have a roughly unlimited potential. So thus, while a lot of people had poor internal beliefs, they all have potential to be something amazing, so I DO respect that

Look for a reason to respect people, because respect is necessary to move towards a common goal. I have to respect everyone of my employees and can't treat them like shit or force them to do work with threats and expect us to truly maximize our productivity.

One thing to learn from this if anything, is that respect never just "goes away". It must be maintained throughout the entire duration of the relationship. This is just like attraction, comfort, status, etc. It reminds me of something I picked up from RSDLuke's SCBP1, the whole "find the obscure reward" strategy. ie: no matter what the girl says during her qualification monologue, you pick out something you can reward her on ex: "Wow, I really respect how hard you've worked as a stripper. That's some serious dedication and discipline".

Now... reading & thinking all of this yesterday, I was prepared to confront Leo with the strategies I've learned and test them out.
The specific strategy outlined in CC is 1. Apologize where appropriate 2. Contrasting (clarifying what I don't intend VS what I do intend) 3. Create a Mutual purpose.

I knew exactly what to do, and I had Leo there sitting next to me in a dialogue.... yet for a good 3 hours I just couldn't get myself to get started and make that initial apology. It goes against all my PUA-conditioning. It hurts my ego, even if it's a fake apology. And the reason why is because there is no fake apologies. It's always sub-communicated whether it's really or not. I have too much fucking pride to admit weakness. And that's definitely a weakness.

Anyways, eventually I'm able to do it... and it goes VERY VERY WELL. Like instantly, she's very grateful for the apology and I feel a warm feeling rush over me, after which I have to break eye contact because I don't like that intimate feeling with her... maybe with anyone.

I'm realizing now that the things I'm learning from this CC book are immensely powerful for a lot of issues in my life, probably more powerful than the things taught in many PUA courses.

We move towards creating a mutual purpose, which I've structured as making a list of what's going well, what can be improved, and then an action plan going forward.... the EXACT SAME FORMULA I USE IN THESE FIELD REPORTS...!

Yes... the same formula that took me from limited results with women to banging 100+ from cold approach.

This formula is fucking powerful and can be applied towards any development or coaching for anyone, I'm sure of it, including managing the entire health of a business. One day I will use this exact same strategy with my board of directors for a multi-billion dollar business I am the CEO of.

We make it through a good chunk of "what's going well", but I get tired and we eat food and then chill/watch TV. I'm still recovering from food poisoning, which really sucks, although I trust my development is coming along as fast as needed.

Today, I will finish this process of creating a mutual purpose and update you all in the next FR.

Things I did well:
Read crucial conversations
Followed my gut and rationality to write out this field report and get clarity in my life. I love the self-expression I get here, and would love to lead that feeling into creating youtube videos and tiktoks, etc.
Learned to make coffee with the coffee machine
Watched the Lakers & Wizards highlights - both my teams are now out of the playoffs so I'll have less interest lol
Did some stretching, as my body is still inflamed as fuck due to the food poisoning
Didn't have to travel to LA
Have a plug for comp tables and guest lists in Vegas.
Took notes while reading CC, which immensely seems to increase my reading comprehension
Started watching the office which I'm shocked I've never watched. Very funny and ties in with my humor style well, I could definitely see stealing these jokes in my own comedy writing for youtube or to use in my game.

Things I could have done better:
Don't drink coffee right after waking, maybe wait until I get into writing this report.
Talked to Leo sooner rather than waiting. Immediately communicate what I'm thinking rather than hide it from the shared pool of meaning between us (CC term)
Do my daily habits even if they take forever right now. As I get momentum it will be easier TRUST THAT!

Lessons Learned:
Books/video courses contain a lot of lessons for me to solve most of my problems at this point, I just need to cultivate mental focus and be clear on what I want to learn.
The Mutual Purpose concept is amazing and just changed my whole mindset of how I deal with all relationships going forward. I think I will have weekly performance reviews with employees.
Apologizing is a weakness of mine, but still immensely powerful.
Something about handwritten notes seems to be the most powerful thing for me.
My life is my journey, and I can go at my own pace, as long as I'm not hiding or escaping from what I need to do.

Goals for Next Time:
[ ] finish creating mutual purpose with Leo

 

[foggy]

tell us more about the RSD summit im really curious to hear about your adventures there

 

[ChrisVirtue]

Goals Evaluation:
[X] finish creating mutual purpose with Leo
- did this yesterday and it took quite a long time. It did go well however, and we were able to create a mutual understanding on a few things. I think it took such a long time (like 4+ hours) because it was the first time I ever did this, and we got side-tracked talking about some issues when I probably could've moved things forward faster. The good news is that the process is effective and I will be using it in a lot more relationships going forward.

6/4/21:

Another less exciting report. I am starting to feel a lot better in terms of my recovery from food poisoning. I confront Leo on finishing the mutual purpose exercise, and she's compliant with it. It would've been much better to do it in one sitting because the general "flow" of it is off, and I'd prefer not to just jump straight into "what could be improved" as it will feel like arguing again. I've noticed today she is starting to become more defensive again, and this is likely due to her not feeling safe or respected... so I need to continue to do my best to communicate that using contrasting phrases. And telling her that I respect and appreciate her.

Again, just for reference, I'm doing this more so as an exercise and experiment than anything. I have a tendency to abandon relationships and cut off people, which is stunting my growth when it comes to managing long-term relationships of all kinds (business, friendship, girls, etc). This is why I don't really have almost any good friends in my life, and certainly none that I've known since college or high school.

We get through the exercise and develop a shared plan of action... but one thing that annoyed me is I specifically asked her for an End of day Report, and she didn't give me it yesterday. Today, is the final opportunity to see if I properly "managed" this crucial conversations stuff. It's crazy how difficult it is to manage people and I suppose this is why upper level managers in businesses make so much money lol.

This whole process took like 4-5 hours, and it was pretty much the main activity of my day. I view it as valuable, since those 4-5 hours of my time should turn into 100+ hours of Leo's time moving towards my goals in a less defensive and more collaborative manner. In the future, I can probably do this whole process in less time, like 1-2 hours.

One other unfortunate thing I finally came to terms with in my discussion with Leo, is that she is simply not as bisexual as I had initially thought. This is likely due to my relative inexperience with bisexuality and threesomes (I've had only 4 threesomes in my life)... which seems like a good number to some, but compared to normal lays it's a good 40x less lol.

Leo is attracted to women, but she mainly went along with the threesome thing because I wanted it and held the frame of creating it. I think that this is fine for a short fling, but in order to have a committed tandem wing for my threesomes, Leo is not top-tier quality in that skill set. She is not a 10/10 as a tandem wing. She is more like a 5/10 or a 6/10. And she could thus be trained and conditioned into a 7/10 or 8/10, but it's going to require immense work on my part and I don't even know if it is my duty to change her. I don't want to fight against her underlying beliefs and emotions.

I question if it's even a good idea to try to frame her into wanting girls more... I think the answer is no. All the threesome experts that I'm aware of have specifically said that the girl needs to really really want threesomes, ie: she NEEDS to fuck other girls consistently to to feel satisfied in her life. Leo is definitely not this currently. I think it's possible I could mold her into this, but I don't see the reward, when I could just find a girl who is already an 9/10 or 10/10 in terms of tandem wing eligibility.... I think they are accessible to me in Vegas.

Which leads me to the final thing I'll discuss today:
Vegas is.... OPEN FULLY.

The clubs have sick artists. It's time for me to get back on track with my PUA career....

I'm just so caught up with things in my business, it's hard to make PUA a priority until I feel like I am properly progressing there, but I'm definitely not going to give up on finding a balance. I think if I simply rewatched the video course shift or something, I would get excited about game again more so...

Things I did well:
Finished the mutual purpose exercise with Leo, even though I didn't feel like doing it, it was necessary
Read more of CC book. I am over halfway done with it now
Scheduled a float tank for today.
Took my vitamins, which I've been forgetting recently and that's causing me joint pain.
Got on top of a few tasks and chores in my business

Things I could have done better:
Take my vitamins daily so joint-pain doesn't occur
Proceed through mutual purpose exercise faster next time, give myself a time limit.

Lessons Learned:
The CC stuff works, but it must be maintained. Safety in the conversation can be in jeopardy at any moment, and I must recognize that and rebuild safety by making sure the mutual goal and mutual respect is in place, as well as apologizing and using contrasting statements when appropriate.
Always remember the shared goal and my goal above all else, this keeps me out of petty time-wasting arguments.

Goals for Next Time:
[ ] Lift Weights (lets boost my manliness)
[ ] Float tank

 

[ChrisVirtue]

Man, it's crazy it's been over a month since my last update here.

So much has changed...

I swear this always happens with these field reports. I get resistance towards writing them. It saddens me that I lost my field report log on RSDNation. Would be cool to see the progression in my journey. I do like the girlschase philosophies though, and I think it's an adequate place for me to share my thoughts.

I do get resistance though, for some reason, towards writing these. I get mentally lazy & allow myself to lose focus whenever I go on a "pickup romp".

I drink a lot, bang a ton of girls, but I kinda use it as an escape and allow my life to fall apart while I'm in the midst of a "romp".

The drinking is definitely a trigger for this result. But, it's also the nature of just having success with women. Like for instance I banged 5 girls in a 6 day period over 4th of July.

And I suppose in my head, a seductive though appears that it would be "fulfilling" if I bang enough girls or the super hot IG model.

The truth most certainly is, that no, that will not be fulfilling. As david deida says in way of the superior man, I need to have a larger purpose than just fucking women. Fucking women is fun as a hobby, and it deserves a certain amount of time investment and focus every week. It's an important part of my life that's not going away.

But, it doesn't feel good to burn myself out.

I've been thinking about what steven covey says about P vs PC. Production vs Production Capacity.

And how they are both important, but the PC activities are what allow the highest levels of success to occur. A company is built on PC activities stacking over time.

There's just simply too many areas I'm trying to progress in at once. I may need to relisten to the book "the one thing" and really figure out what my primary goal is.

I was thinking being a youtuber/musician is the direction I want to go. Which is definitely do-able. But there's only so much time and energy in the day. It's do-able, but it will require me to be heavily on top of my health. Physical, Mental, And Financial.

I need that main thing, that PUA is used to generate the confidence to pursue. The main thing PUA can give me is confidence. Liquid gold.

It feels good though to be free from Leo and being able to have the confidence to approach again. Idk how much effort it takes... I'm not letting this ability go.

Things I've done well recently:
Built confidence to approach again

Things I could be doing better:
morning routines
eating healthier

Lessons Learned:
PUA is amazing, and the real fulfillment is the resulting outcomes in other areas of my life from the confidence that PUA gives me.

Goals for Next Time:
[ ] Get in bed asleep - reading an entertaining book.

 

[ChrisVirtue]

So I've definitely been resistant towards updating this thread... which is sad because there's a lot of good experiences I could share with everyone here to inspire as well as help others learn, and help myself learn.

I think I've been struggling to find proper momentum with what these field reports really are... what they should be:
a honest reflection on my experiences (good or bad) that documents my journey through success with women and my journey through success in general, to a degree

Since the thread had such an epic start and premise, I've been a little disappointed in that I haven't exactly lived up to my high standards.

But, I recognize the real path to progress starts with one thing and one thing only: honest awareness.

If I try to hide and escape from my PUA ups and downs... (and the downs aren't even downs as much just a conscious change in lifestyles lol)

If I avoid painstaking awareness of how I'm performing with women...

Then, I'm no better than those non-PUA guys who claim they are good with women, but can't even do a single fucking approach!

And I'm certainly not one of those people nor will I ever be.

So, I'm going to be honest with you. I'm going to tell you my emotions and feelings. I'm never going to lie. And I'm going to err on the side of oversharing.

This is a safe space for me to be honest about my journey. And my journey's been quite epic indeed so far.

It's clear that a lack of awareness can cause me to repeat the same mistakes over and over, when they can be correctly in a simple way if just a minimal amount of awareness is applied!

Thus, I will document last night, and will continue to document all future days/nights, that involve some degree of me interacting with women.

July 30th: Bruno Mars Concert in Las Vegas NV

Synopsis of Night:
So, the masks are back in Vegas, which doesn't bother me THAT much, since I've took a pause from aggressively nightgaming at clubs, etc.

In fact, I've been trying to wake up EARLY in the morning so that I can make progress on my business and social circle goals, which require me to enter a focused productive state. And I've decided that there's pretty much no way for me to do that unless I wake up early and have a morning routine.

I really wish I could wake up at like 3pm and get shit done and then go out and game aggressively... but it's just not the case.

I want to develop more of a lifestyle in which I just have hot girls around me often, and I can leverage photography to date several models at once. In a way, this will get me with the hottest girls, but it's also a little annoying because dates and day 2s are quite boring to me.

Nothing beat the adrenaline of a cold approach same day lay. Social circle same day lay is the same feeling however!

Anyways, so I decided I wanted to see a "concert show" in Vegas to see what it is like. In Vegas, they have resident music acts that will perform many times at the same theatre. I found this interesting as I've never been to one, and had been seeing bruno mars ads for a while, so I bought 2 tickets to his show, after having a decently cute girl that I've hooked up with 2 times agreeing to go.

My day goes great, I woke up at 7am and had some productive breakthroughs, which felt awesome. I got in 3 hours of solid work, which is better than normal! lol

The concert starts at 9, the girl is supposed to come at 8. I'm honestly just horny because I haven't had sex much in the last 1-2 weeks, because I've been doing this "get up early" thing. So, my plan is to fuck her or just get some head BEFORE the show, so that I can enjoy it without that weird sexual tension during a show.

I hate attending concerts/movies with girls I don't know well as there's always this weird disconnect that distracts me from enjoying the show. On one hand I want to watch the show, but on the other hand my PUA training activates and is dissecting the girl.

Anyways.... something frustrating happens in that this girl shows up at 8pm, and calls me and tells me her Dad left town today so she has to immediately go home and take care of her dogs, so she can't go to the concert. Which is irritating on many logical levels. It sucks when girls do stuff like this, bc it immediately makes me want to cut them out of my life all together, as I have a very low tolerance for non-compliance. It does remind me though that with the crucial conversations stuff I mentioned early in this thread, there are ways to redeem non-compliant behavior, by solving the underlying emotional problem creating it.... but tbh I'm not super interesting in finishing that book at this exact moment, I'm more excited to just focus on meeting hotter girls and developing my business.

So I send out like 7 texts to other girls I know with a last-minute invite. A few respond, one calls and now I have another girl to come.

This girl is a girl who approached me at one point. She's not super hot. She's ok looking. Probably the least attractive girl I could fuck in a situation like this and still feel ok about myself, if not slightly disappointed lol.

I've also never hooked up with her, so this whole situation is fucked from the beginning bc I should not be rewarding her with bruno mars when she hasn't put out yet. Thinking back, going there alone and just eating the cost on the 2nd ticket possibly could've been better, but ay, reference experience at least ?

So she shows up, I drink 1 white claw and take a CBD pill thinking those 2 will make the concert more fun, and we go to the concert, find out seats. She seems DTF at this point. Then, the show is very long, and it's kinda awkward bc I don't know this girl well, and the show is in a theatre, so it's not like the greatest social setting. In fact it's terrible for a date, unless u really know the person you're with.

The show is also quite long, like 2 hours, so it kind of kills the momentum of the interaction in a way. Like I probably could've closed her if I did a 1 hour date, but this whole thing is like 2+ hours...

BTW, the show itself was fantastic, and that should be my main focus, because bruno mars has a fantastic voice live. It's insane how he hits those high notes!

Anyways, we head back, I have 1 more white claw and try to smash, she DECLINES. Which is crazy bc I'm much better than this girl lol. So, anyways, this annoys me a lot, but at the end of the day, I'm not really mad or butt hurt, because I don't really care. I probably would've felt worse if I did hookup with her, especially if I didn't wear a condom

We stay up until almost 2am doing karaoke, which I kinda regret because it messed up my streak of waking up early. Thus, tonight, I'll want to take melatonin early and get to bed before 10pm so that tomorrow can be an epic comeback of sorts.

Things I did well:
Crushed my day with productivity
Found a VERY last minute date
Learned that taking girls to a concert like that in a theatre is not a great date
Learned that Vegas concert shows themselves are kinda hit or miss. I'd prefer "less hype" acts like opera or maybe a female singer where they don't encourage you to dance, and you could just sit and enjoy it. That feels more like what a theatre act is supposed to be. More like a movie or a play. And, "hype" concerts are best attended at a festival or getting floor seats (they didn't have floor seats for this concert)
Tried to close
Invited 20+ girls to an event I'm doing next week in LA
The girls I texted last minute invites to, are now potential date options. (it's actually a good strat I discovered, inviting girls to high status things so last minute that there's no chance they can attend)

Things I could've done better:
Didn't make much Eye contact
Probably should've stayed a little calmer when that girl flaked. It's not good to be reactive like I was, although she did annoy me
Could've went alone to the concert, mighta been more fun, I would be done to go alone to future concerts (I've done this in the past, can be good for game, especially festivals - I've pulled and closed from attending a festival alone lol)

Lessons Learned:
Vegas Theatres are not good for dates
Girls flake at such a high percentage, which is why I prefer cold approach, as the girl is right there.
Host dates in which I invite multiple girls so that 1 flake won't hurt me, maybe just take girls out for appetizers at a nice restaurant near me, or have them meet me for drinks at the skybar

What can I do to improve my weaknesses?
Use eyecontact practice youtube videos during my vocal warmups, to keep improving eye contact, as it's a habit that seems to fade quite rapidly if I'm not cold approaching a lot

 

[mist]

Since the thread had such an epic start and premise, I've been a little disappointed in that I haven't exactly lived up to my high standards.

But, I recognize the real path to progress starts with one thing and one thing only: honest awareness.

If I try to hide and escape from my PUA ups and downs... (and the downs aren't even downs as much just a conscious change in lifestyles lol)

If I avoid painstaking awareness of how I'm performing with women...

Then, I'm no better than those non-PUA guys who claim they are good with women, but can't even do a single fucking approach!

And I'm certainly not one of those people nor will I ever be.

So, I'm going to be honest with you. I'm going to tell you my emotions and feelings. I'm never going to lie. And I'm going to err on the side of oversharing.

Felt.

I was supposed to be a rockstar by now haha.

Nicely written man.

Hopefully you return.

 

[ChrisVirtue]

Ya know... Leo was a premonition... towards me getting sucked into settling down.

My worries were correct.

 

[ChrisVirtue]

Saturday October 12th:

Well, I decided to try going out for the first time in a long time. I thus stayed out later than normal and am super tired, so ill keep this report shorter.

Synopsis of night:

I went out alone in Austin TX, since it's a big music festival called ACL, so should be a good game night with a lot of tourists.

Going out alone was the right decision, as when I want to work on my game, being alone is good for me to get that straight up confidence to approach, knowing that there is no wing to judge me.

I'm happy to say that I grew the balls to do a few approaches. Most were just quick opens as girls walked past me.

I actually decided to track it on my phone, and considered that I could possibly do a weekly approach goal in the future.

All in all, I racked up 19 approaches. Which is much better than I expected. Out of these only 2 went decently well. One was a 3 set that I hooked by dialing in on one girl. I definitely could've talked to the friends.

Another, was an asian girl who seemed tipsy/cheery, and I did some light touching on her. I thought she was dtf and she was honestly kinda cute, but it was bad logistics since she had a lesbian sister with her, so wasn't sure how to deal with that.

Things I did well:
1. Went out for the first time in a while
2. 19 approaches is way better than expected
3. early in the night it felt like my energy was pretty good
4. stayed out late to keep opening and didn't give up
5. Learned a new mindset regarding opening: it's going to feel awkward to open, but it's also going to feel even worse/more awkward to not open. I'm going to feel bad either way so I might as well open
6. My quick compliment opens were going pretty well, and I was able to deliver those with congruence

Things I could've done better:
1. Ran into some old friends and they were helpful a bit but then ended up distracting me a bit as well.
2. Ran out of things to say in quite a few sets
3. Struggled to hook sets and progress into attraction building
4. Struggled with eye contact and simple line delivery
5. should have tried to pull the asian or venue change


What will I do differently next time?
1. I want to write out my current understanding of game, from philosophy, to opening strategies, attraction strategies, etc. I need to have a better guide to recall how to properly do things.
2. I want to plan out ways to go from open to hook to attraction building, maybe try out some new routines rather than just going unscripted.
3. I want to have goals for my night... even a certain number of approaches and/or hooks and then just get out, so I can get to bed on time. No reason to stay out so late lol.