what about spam dates?

[thats_a_penis_disgustang]

Spam approaching is very well understood but what about spam dates?

Now, I have recently received a huge surge of ineffectiveness of my Approach.

I stopped spamming and I started deep diving as well as I can as long as I can with every girl that is receptive to me.

I still however have my Championship mentality that keeps me approaching for 5 hours every day.

Which usually means that not only I set up a couple of dates for the future but also I'm pretty much guaranteed to have a single instant date every time I go out. I'm on vacation right now so that can translate to a date or two every single day.

Now I'm still learning about how exactly to do more effective boyfriend disqualifications, Chase framing, deep Dives, and all of the rest. So my question is do I slow it down a little bit?

Because I really do not grow if I just have a date after date without reading new material.

does it make sense absorb new material for a couple of days then have a couple of dates?

 

[ulrich]

Depends… I assume you’re getting sex from most of those dates. In which case you’re doing great.

with your new approach, what seems to be the most obvious weakness or problem you’re facing?
Let’s try to fix that one first.

Also, are you actually dating 7 days a week without rest days?
Man, is that even possible?

 

[thats_a_penis_disgustang]

That's not what I'm asking brother I'm absolutely not saying that I can go seven dates in a week. It's insanely emotionally and intelligently taxing. I guess I'm just asking what's the best way to learn? If my two skills are so mismatched my skill of approaching and my skill on dates that I can get myself a lot of dates but from that point I struggle to turn them into sex unless they are ready to go from the beginning. And every date I'm trying to implement something I've just recently learned so it's like a 4 Hour test exam where I'm very concentrated. Sorry if I do that several days in a row I completely exhaust myself. So in this case the best way to learn is to read about concepts for two days and then have couple of days in the row and then read some more is that right?

 

[DonGately]

I'd focus on improving one thing at a time, wait until you see it 'click' in the field/lay, and then master the next skill.

 

[ulrich]

Hmm, I don’t know man.

I feel that these questions of how to maximize your learning vs. application rate tend to be a kj fest.
Like I could tell you, go out 5 days and study 2 per week and then you end up wasting a lot of time because you need more polishing.

I would say try to strike a balance where you get a fast feedback loop for maximum adaptability.
Go to one date, then do a post mortem, identify your weakness/error and fix it for the next date.

Spend all the time you need analyzing and problem solving and make sure you are implementing adjustments for the next date.

Sometimes that would take you 5 minutes, sometimes that would take you 2 days of introspection.

 

[TwoNameGame]

Because I really do not grow if I just have a date after date without reading new material.

Material is absorbed with practice, not just reading theory.

does it make sense absorb new material for a couple of days then have a couple of dates?

As mentioned before, your best bet is to study thing or two you want to practice, then practice during your dates. You will learn more by iterating in different situations.

For example, let's say you want to practice Kino. Read about it before the date, then practice. Try holding touches for different lengths of time to see how much is "too much/too little". Try holding hands when you lead with the first, then put your hand on the back of the second. Use Spam Dating to test minor changes while the memory is fresh.

Do NOT try to learn everything at once lest your risk reinforcing bad habits. Do not assume every woman is the same; calibrate to the situation such that you have tons of experience no matter where you find yourself.