What are the boundaries of chasing?

[donniebrasco]

Although the "read first" says there is no such thing as a stupid question i feel like this is obvious but I just haven't picked up on it yet. At what point are you considered to be chasing the girl for instance if you've spoken to a women and didn't make the choice to get her number and you haven't spoken for a while would contacting her through social media be seen as you chasing her or just saying hello help would be much appreciated.
Also at what point does it become to long of a time period during which there has been no communication to then suddenly begin texting or messaging given you never see the women in question around.
thanks for any help in advance.

 

[Whizzy]

If you haven't talked since getting her number then try sending her an icebreaker but I wouldn't be too hopeful on her remembering you specifically

 

[Ross]

Keep your eyes peeled for an article that will discuss part of this subject.

You're spending too much time worrying if an action is going to be called chasing. A specific action, such as sending a message to a woman isn't chasing in itself. She may view it as that way, but that doesn't mean that you're going to be worse off because she thinks, "Hey, this guy is messaging me, he's sooo desperate!" That's just not the case, otherwise we'd never approach women because it'd be seen as chasing. It's about persistence in the game.

The issue that you present here, however, is that you want to contact a girl who you used to like, months after the fact and try to get her number. Whenever new guys ask this question it's always the same thing: they like this one girl, want to be with her, and have already chased her in the past. Then they ran into some auto-rejection, stopped talking to the girl, and now they want to talk to her so that they can chase after a relationship again.

Make it a rule to not contact girls from your past that you chased after. I'd only reserve that for the more advanced guys who already have an abundance mentality and don't chase women at all, thus they would simply be persisting towards a date.

 

[donniebrasco]

Thanks for the advice guys.

You're spending too much time worrying if an action is going to be called chasing. A specific action, such as sending a message to a woman isn't chasing in itself. She may view it as that way, but that doesn't mean that you're going to be worse off because she thinks, "Hey, this guy is messaging me, he's sooo desperate!" That's just not the case, otherwise we'd never approach women because it'd be seen as chasing. It's about persistence in the game.

This has actually cleared up the issue that was bugging me. there was never any specific girl I was planning on getting back with it was just an example and poor wording on my part.