Hey,
I've mentioned earlier that I am interested in this woman who's a bit older than me and has a boyfriend. Initially the plan was not to try to be her boyfriend, but that's where I ended, because I have feelings for her now. I sensed that her escalation window was open until recently, but suddenly something changed, she started to distance herself from me, both physically and mentally. That is when I reconned it was time to act, but it was probably too late. During a dinner I mentioned what was between us. She came up with different reasons, she had a boyfriend and was ten years older than me, and she only saw us as friends now. She could not believe that I actually could be interested in her, as she was ten years older, and she was obviously flattered by this. When I said it's too bad she has a boyfriend, she looked at me and nodded vigourously with a sad face. This left me with a feeling that her rejection was based on logic, and not how she felt, and also I can't believe that I have taken so wrong about her being attracted to me.
What happens now, after this, is what I wonder about. In my head I'm thinking "awww, she rejected me, I don't bother with her anymore", so I don't spend many calories on her. But I know that I actually do this because I hope that she will come to me. In a way I play hard to get. What matters more is how she reacts to this. She is dressing much more attractive than before, and "pings" me every now and then. She doesn't handle my withdrawal so well and is quite nervous around me, her mood is affected even though she tries to be happy, and she tries to get back at me. In one of her latest attempts I gived in just a little, in order to give her a glimpse of hope, and this seemed to make her day, as she was thrilled and high energy the rest of the day.
Do all these emotions mean that it's not over yet? I'm thinking about telling her that both of us know that she is interested in me as well.
(By the way I've been on the other side of the table (rejected someone based on logic, not feelings, and I still regret badly..)
I've mentioned earlier that I am interested in this woman who's a bit older than me and has a boyfriend. Initially the plan was not to try to be her boyfriend, but that's where I ended, because I have feelings for her now. I sensed that her escalation window was open until recently, but suddenly something changed, she started to distance herself from me, both physically and mentally. That is when I reconned it was time to act, but it was probably too late. During a dinner I mentioned what was between us. She came up with different reasons, she had a boyfriend and was ten years older than me, and she only saw us as friends now. She could not believe that I actually could be interested in her, as she was ten years older, and she was obviously flattered by this. When I said it's too bad she has a boyfriend, she looked at me and nodded vigourously with a sad face. This left me with a feeling that her rejection was based on logic, and not how she felt, and also I can't believe that I have taken so wrong about her being attracted to me.
What happens now, after this, is what I wonder about. In my head I'm thinking "awww, she rejected me, I don't bother with her anymore", so I don't spend many calories on her. But I know that I actually do this because I hope that she will come to me. In a way I play hard to get. What matters more is how she reacts to this. She is dressing much more attractive than before, and "pings" me every now and then. She doesn't handle my withdrawal so well and is quite nervous around me, her mood is affected even though she tries to be happy, and she tries to get back at me. In one of her latest attempts I gived in just a little, in order to give her a glimpse of hope, and this seemed to make her day, as she was thrilled and high energy the rest of the day.
Do all these emotions mean that it's not over yet? I'm thinking about telling her that both of us know that she is interested in me as well.
(By the way I've been on the other side of the table (rejected someone based on logic, not feelings, and I still regret badly..)
