What do you do when girls with other men give you IOI

[M_Ronin]

It's so common for me to recieve IOI from women who are with other men. My competition is very weak in my area. But what does one do in such a case.

I'm talking about daygame btw. Not club game or anything, but advice targeted at that would be welcome as well.

 

[Hector Papi Castillo]

This is very common.

Women do this for several reasons

1. It's natural. If they find a guy attractive, she can't hide it. Small glances. Opening her body language. Whether or not she is really obvious with it shows the degree of her attraction and also her self-control. A good girlfriend acknowledges her attraction and limits it, as not to disrespect her boyfriend/husband. But, it's hard to hide.

2. To make their boyfriend jealous. This is common practice with low-self-esteem girls who are always making their man jealous as way to get him more invested ("She's worth fighting for!"), and also to validate themselves. The more guys want her, the better she feels about herself.

3. Their boyfriend is weak. She's not that into him but stays with him, because he provides emotional or financial or status stability and security.

However, during day game, 99.9% of the time nothing will happen if you approach her. She would most likely reject you to save face and not appear a slut (though she will grin inside at your boldness and how attractive she must be for you to challenge her boyfriend in front of her). And depending on the guy, you might find yourself in a fist fight.

Best thing you can do, if you really want to get her, is see a fleeting opportunity. He goes in the store but she stays outside. Might have a minute or two. But it happens more commonly in night game where you can get in and out without being seen, because there's a sea of people there to distract her boyfriend's eyes.

In day game, probably not much can happen, but if you got the skill and she's real thirsty, who knows?

Hector

 

[trashKENNUT]

Hector explains pretty much everything. I think i bump an old post that is related.

 

[Tony D]

He may not be her boyfriend. You'll never know until you meet her. It can be a little bit intimidating to see she's with another guy, but there's always a way. I've approached a guy with a girl many times, usually indirectly. "How's the food?" "Do you know where the toilet is" "Hey, are you two brother and sister?" Find an excuse. Often they are siblings, co workers, or flat mates.

 

[M_Ronin]

He may not be her boyfriend. You'll never know until you meet her. It can be a little bit intimidating to see she's with another guy, but there's always a way. I've approached a guy with a girl many times, usually indirectly. "How's the food?" "Do you know where the toilet is" "Hey, are you two brother and sister?" Find an excuse. Often they are siblings, co workers, or flat mates.

Do you address the male (with your eye contact) or the female in this situation. Or do you go back and forth between them. I am an introvert, I have never learned whom to look at in crowd interactions lol.

 

[Tony D]

Do you address the male (with your eye contact) or the female in this situation. Or do you go back and forth between them. I am an introvert, I have never learned whom to look at in crowd interactions lol.

We're almost all introverts. That's why we're here. But it doesn't help to tell yourself that story.

You address both of them, and then gauge their reactions. It depends on who does the most talking, and their level of friendliness. Every interaction is unique, and you'll never be fully prepared for them. So your best bet is to find the situation and then approach like it's an adventure and you're a social scientist. Go try and see what happens. What happens if you only hold eye contact with him, and not her. Or vice versa. What happens if you hold eye contact with only her? Go try it out, then write a field report and we'll help you break down what happened, rather than a hypothetical.

 

[M_Ronin]

We're almost all introverts. That's why we're here. But it doesn't help to tell yourself that story.

You address both of them, and then gauge their reactions. It depends on who does the most talking, and their level of friendliness. Every interaction is unique, and you'll never be fully prepared for them. So your best bet is to find the situation and then approach like it's an adventure and you're a social scientist. Go try and see what happens. What happens if you only hold eye contact with him, and not her. Or vice versa. What happens if you hold eye contact with only her? Go try it out, then write a field report and we'll help you break down what happened, rather than a hypothetical.

Oh I tried holding only eye contact with the male only, she loses interest. It is the safest approach. But safety doesnt get you laid. Even the initial eye contact matters I think. But you are right. I need more experimentation.

I think Hector's post is spot on! Discretion is the better part of valor.

 

[Cody Lyans]

First, there is no spoon. Relationships don't always exist so don't assume. Second, few relationships are so good a girl won't upgrade her mood if she fancies. And third, do you care?
Personally I look at the guy and judge if he is in boots too big for his feet or not, if he's playing in his league and she's just whiley cuz high I ignore her, if he's out of his depth it's doomed anyways so I don't count it.
That said I am pretty respectful, in that I feel no need to just kidnap her away, if she comes on her own, mate she wasn't yours