What do you guys think of the “Love Languages”

[Zoro]

There is a book called the 5 Love Languages and it says there are 5 different ways people communicate and receive love, and most of us have 2 of those as our preferred styles.

Those being:
Touch (I’d say it’s also body language)
Quality time
Words of affirmation
Acts of service
Gifts

For me, I am touch and quality time. Touch doesn’t just mean sex and I think a lot of guys will assume they have touch since sex is such a desireable thing. The thing to note is whether or not it is the way you naturally receive and give love. I think it extends to things like eye contact and smiles. Those can go a long way for me feeling appreciated.

My gf is quality time and words of affirmation. She lights up when we have enjoyable moments together and when she is uplifted with words. She claims she is acts of service too, however I have my doubts since she doesn’t light up the same way like when she receives the other styles. I think that it’s probably still important for her (she’s stressed and wants some help) so it will be appreciated, but I don’t think it’s the same as her naturally interpreting that as “receiving love”.

Anyway, I think it’s a pretty useful thing to know about, and I think Chase has brought it up before in articles, but I’m surprised it’s not talked about more. I think it can make relationships run more smooth.

 

[Fuck This]

It is an awesome topic to bring up with women on dates. It's an easy read and easy to remember. You can frame yourself as a lover and focus on the Physical affection part.

 

[focus]

Yeah I think it's a pretty good framework to look at things, most people will relate to one or two of those at least. And as @Fuck This said it works well as a topic to bring up with women as well.