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I go ballroom dancing sometimes. I'm past hobbies. i have a lot of hobbies but hobbies in general now are meh. Big deal. I'd like to be all about work and then family and relationship but can't do that solo and dance is a fairly good one. I went to this new place for me and there was this very cute woman. Well to you she might not have been but she was my type, 5'10, i dunno just that je ne sais por quoi. She even smelled good.
She always glows up around me but she has a boyfriend, i found out at the first time. It enraged me a lot. It enraged me because she always glowed up to me. She did that the first time during our group lesson but I found out at the end she had a bf and I was enraged. I thought ok that's a fluke, maybe i was overperceiving things but then I met them yesterday and actually spoke to them both at the door, and she glows up around me like she's interested, even in front of her boyfriend. I hate this. WTF is going on.
She is is 5'10, fellow causation, long hair, happy, not plastic not make-upy. In possession of some level of intelligence. I don't know how to describe my type or describe her more fully. There is some chemistry that is more than looks, almost energy and even smell. She could have been I knew right away someone i could settle with. I'm always thinking that right away, always because about business. I hate this jerking around.
This messes my brain, the way she sends so much interest.
Now it's not about this one woman but the pattern. this is wicked. this is unfair and unnatural. To get a girl i have to go out and be open but when they glow up in front of me, it doesn't mean anything? what do they want? What does she expect?
Is she conscious of doing this? Is she at all aware of how a guy might feel? Does she think about her boyfriend? He didn't seem to care. Those are my questions.
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ps I'm Aspie/autistic. I just learned that recently. I am VERY good at certain types of pattern recognition- even social pattern recognition in certain dimensions or regards, but terrible at the usual mainstream pattern recognition and understanding social norms. I care about people and can notice if not read microexpressions, I can sense stress, all that, but I can't interpret them as a normie would against cultural norms and mental needs and expectations. We're not robots- at least I'm not. We're just missing different dimensions, especially the norms and 'common sense' dimensions.
She always glows up around me but she has a boyfriend, i found out at the first time. It enraged me a lot. It enraged me because she always glowed up to me. She did that the first time during our group lesson but I found out at the end she had a bf and I was enraged. I thought ok that's a fluke, maybe i was overperceiving things but then I met them yesterday and actually spoke to them both at the door, and she glows up around me like she's interested, even in front of her boyfriend. I hate this. WTF is going on.
She is is 5'10, fellow causation, long hair, happy, not plastic not make-upy. In possession of some level of intelligence. I don't know how to describe my type or describe her more fully. There is some chemistry that is more than looks, almost energy and even smell. She could have been I knew right away someone i could settle with. I'm always thinking that right away, always because about business. I hate this jerking around.
This messes my brain, the way she sends so much interest.
Now it's not about this one woman but the pattern. this is wicked. this is unfair and unnatural. To get a girl i have to go out and be open but when they glow up in front of me, it doesn't mean anything? what do they want? What does she expect?
Is she conscious of doing this? Is she at all aware of how a guy might feel? Does she think about her boyfriend? He didn't seem to care. Those are my questions.
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ps I'm Aspie/autistic. I just learned that recently. I am VERY good at certain types of pattern recognition- even social pattern recognition in certain dimensions or regards, but terrible at the usual mainstream pattern recognition and understanding social norms. I care about people and can notice if not read microexpressions, I can sense stress, all that, but I can't interpret them as a normie would against cultural norms and mental needs and expectations. We're not robots- at least I'm not. We're just missing different dimensions, especially the norms and 'common sense' dimensions.
