what does this mean

[Anonymous]

Hi guys

Just bit of back ground.
I never dated before. I saw this girl I am interested in thats friend of my friend on FB. She is around the same age as me.I knew she is looking for Mr right for marriage. I sent her friend request and a msg stating I want to get to know her. My friend said I was too straight forward. She ignored me. It turns out she volunteers regularly on weekend at a place I attended. I saw her there couple times and just said hi. After few months, she suddenly msg me on FB and asked if I go to that place and she saw me there couple times. I said yes and am looking to meet some new friends. Then she asked if I want to meet this great girl but want to know more about me first. I thought she's talking about herself. I told her about my personality, interest etc and She asked me about age, job, where i came from,what kind of girl I am looking for etc. She read my reply and waited two days to give answers. She said I see some similarity between you ad her but shes 5 years older you. If she is really introducing another girl I thought she would answer right away of age issue.

This totally confused the heck out of me.
There are two cases
1. She see me as a nice guy and is genuinely want to introduce me to her friend. But why would a girl wants to introduce a stranger to a friend thats take effort to get to know first for her friend.
2.She's faking it and just wants to test me if I am suitable for her marriage. If this is the case, what does her last reply means?
I saw her again after her message. She said how are you and smile a lot.

Should I ask her out? I am afraid she really wanted to introduce her friend to me as a showing shes not interested in me as a mate.

thanks

 

[Clout]

Hey milkyway

Should I ask her out?

You like her not her friend right? So just ask her out, you won't know til you try.

 

[Anonymous]

Hey milkyway

Should I ask her out?

You like her not her friend right? So just ask her out, you won't know til you try.

Yes I like this girl not her friend. I dont even know what her friend is like even its true.
If this girl wants to know me for herself, why wont she get to know me in person instead of asking lots of blind date questions on FB.

 

[Whizzy]

Try to be flirty with your facebook responses and how is your timing in responses? If she takes days to respond then you respond instantly that may give the wrong impression. It sounds to me like she may not be thinking of you as a romantic partner yet but hasn't crossed you off yet either

 

[NarrowJ]

Try to be flirty with your facebook responses...

I think Chase actually recommends against "flirty" texts and messages, doesn't he? Like- it's ok to be witty, but avoid "flirty". This is something you do in person.

 

[Whizzy]

In this case it may help him to get her in person since she is already drilling him for info

 

[Anonymous]

It sounds to me like she may not be thinking of you as a romantic partner yet but hasn't crossed you off yet either

That sounds right to me. I interacted with her a few times in person but didnt ask her any questions just talked about the momentd we were at. I just messaged her politely on FB to add me. she waited one day to read it and waited one more day and accepted me as friend. Brcause she ignored me the first time, she wont see it if I add her.

There I have access to almost what her life is like. She likes to hang out with friends and very out going. I am a typical INTJ,reserved and focus on self improvement. Not sure it will work out. Opposite attracts! We also share common interest like music, charity,spirituality etc.

Because of FB, I know many things about her life. Whats missing is understanding of her character and building connections.
Would it be wise to ask het out for some tea at this point? I heard its not a good idea to get to know a girl on social media. But FB allows me to communicate my thought on life to her and keep up on what shes up to.

Thanks

 

[Whizzy]

It's better to do things in person 99% of the time. Even if she says no, then at least you will know her thoughts for sure. If she does try something similar to the lines Chase has frequently mentioned in his articles when girls initially respond with a no

 

[Chase]

I think Chase actually recommends against "flirty" texts and messages, doesn't he? Like- it's ok to be witty, but avoid "flirty". This is something you do in person.

Usually, when you're doing things right, there's no reason for being flirty via correspondence, and you'll find this actually hurts your chances, by slowing things down and making you look more tentative and taking the focus off of handling the logistics of setting up a date.

However, in certain situations (e.g., you meet online) it's somewhat mandatory. In certain others (where you've already set bad precedent with her and are trying to recover from a mistake) it can help you get enough of a toehold to bring the spotlight back onto logistics, which she might have resisted setting up with you when she thought you were more boring / less flirty and fun.

Chase