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Ico,
Hopefully you didn't miss Chase's advice here because it is golden, and it is actually what I recommend to guys who are having an extreme amount of trouble with approach anxiety:
Go talk to girls with the INTENTION of failing. Literally walk up to them, say whatever ridiculous (or simple) thing it is you want to say, and watch them reject you. Internalize how it feels at that moment. Then I want you to look at your watch, set a timer for 5 minutes, and when it goes off after 5 minutes, I want you internalize how you feel at THAT moment.
Then I want you to rinse, repeat, and do it again.
The idea that you have to have success on all of your approaches is one of the WORST inhibitors of approaching women. This idea that you need to succeed (whether that is because you are a perfectionist that hates failure or a guy who just doesn't like to be looked down upon in public) is absolute blasphemy, especially when it comes to women. The thing you need to accept is that you cannot have a 100% success rate with women no matter how much of a Casanova you are. There is not a single man on this planet who has a 100% success rate with women; even men such as Charlie Sheen or Brad Pitt fail with women. It may not be very often, but they do.
So go out there and tell yourself, "I'm going to make this woman reject me and it's going to be fucking awesome!" And then go do it! Then come back and write us a field report about how hilarious/awesome it was to do that. =)
- Franco
Hopefully you didn't miss Chase's advice here because it is golden, and it is actually what I recommend to guys who are having an extreme amount of trouble with approach anxiety:
Go talk to girls with the INTENTION of failing. Literally walk up to them, say whatever ridiculous (or simple) thing it is you want to say, and watch them reject you. Internalize how it feels at that moment. Then I want you to look at your watch, set a timer for 5 minutes, and when it goes off after 5 minutes, I want you internalize how you feel at THAT moment.
Then I want you to rinse, repeat, and do it again.
The idea that you have to have success on all of your approaches is one of the WORST inhibitors of approaching women. This idea that you need to succeed (whether that is because you are a perfectionist that hates failure or a guy who just doesn't like to be looked down upon in public) is absolute blasphemy, especially when it comes to women. The thing you need to accept is that you cannot have a 100% success rate with women no matter how much of a Casanova you are. There is not a single man on this planet who has a 100% success rate with women; even men such as Charlie Sheen or Brad Pitt fail with women. It may not be very often, but they do.
So go out there and tell yourself, "I'm going to make this woman reject me and it's going to be fucking awesome!" And then go do it! Then come back and write us a field report about how hilarious/awesome it was to do that. =)
- Franco
