What if I go for the less attractive girls in college?

[sneaky_charm]

I'm really freaked out about escalating on the less attractive girls, because that may lock the hotter girls.

However, it seems that there are only 3 or 4 girls I really like. So, I'm thinking I should go down the hierarchy for more experience. If I'm fixated on a few, I'll never improve.

Do you think going for the 6s and 7s will hurt me in the long term? Or, is practice still practice, and a woman is a woman is a woman? What if I kiss a few 5s or 6s, do I forever lock the other girls?

 

[sneaky_charm]

Adding to the above, there is this girl I'm considering. I've heard she likes me multiple times.

Her face is pretty, and overall I find her attractive, but she is slightly thick.

Now, I don't want to escalate cause I don't know how it will impact my reputation. She is senior too, so will it hurt me with the girls of my class? Or, will it work in my favor? Is there any way to find out what her reputation is relative to the other hot girls in the college?

 

[lostnumber]

Do you have any options for dating girls that don't go to the same school with you? If you were to hook up with less attractive girls from a nearby but different school say, or girls not going to college currently, that likely wouldn't have much overlap on your social reputation at the school you are going to now. Also, how big is the school you attend? Some of the big public universities are so big and so segmented between different majors that a biology major wouldn't even know everyone else in biology, much less someone going for something completely different.

If you're going to a small rural school and your only options are girls that run in the same circles that's a more difficult question. I'd abstain at that point, as I didn't have enough game back in college to give you any practical advice. Maybe take a look at Hector's king of college series.

 

[Hue]

When I was a freshman at my first, smaller school, one of the coolest seniors who was that natural asshole swagger gave my pledge class some underrated advice:

"Fuck something".

At first it was a little jarring for me, having been picky with girls I was with prior to this (a little too much), but as the year went on, it occurred to me what he really meant by this. What he meant was, get experienced, get your dick wet, and you'll eventually be fucking the girls you dream about fucking.

My experience showed me that this "method" absolutely works. The guys in my pledge class that didn't get a whole lot of pussy were also the guys that would talk the most shit about other guys fucking "beat chicks". Almost every guy in my pledge class that started off banging girls that weren't so great ended getting snatched up by or having banged a cute chick by the next year. They got shit at first, sure, but cut their teeth to get what they wanted.

You know who ended up getting even more shit?

The guys talking oodles of shit on other guys for fucking beat chicks - who were now friendzoned by all the hot girls they were "working on" and would occassionally get drunk enough to start flirting with a fat bitch who would catch on that they might get some dick tonight. Oh and then they'd have rumors about if they were gay, it was great.

First girl I banged after joining greek life was a frat rat, and after that was a nympomaniac. Pretty big sluts, but both gave me great sex and restored confidence after not getting as much pussy as I expected my first semester.

By the end of my sophomore year I had a much higher notch count, a player reputation, a few fuck buddies, and had bedded some hot chicks.

overall I find her attractive,

Then, go for it man. Get the experience, get laid, and then get laid.

If you main concern is of preselection, it still works this way. With the case of this girl - she's a senior. I can speak from experience an underclassmen "dating up" or banging an older girl makes her younger friends more interested in you. They look up to her and see her as an authority (high value), and you just fucked her. It's very good for preselection.


And as Chase has pointed out before, it's overall beneficial to Lower Your Standards And (Thereafter) Date Hotter Girls.



Side note - if Hector's King of College is back on the shelves, 100% get it. I've read it, it's fantastic and while anecdotal extremely insightful.


Hue

 

[sneaky_charm]

Lostnumber,

I don't really have such options. This is a very small place, almost everyone knows everyone directly or through somebody, so escalating on someone from my place is a risk I don't want to take.

The school is small, pretty much all students hang out in the same places. Think an area of 0.5 by 0.5 miles, that's it.


Hue,

Well, if you say so I'll see if I can escalate. Problem is she probably has, or had feelings. Took my number from a friend, texted me first, after texting a few times I stopped. Her last text was "You ignore people so much".

So will probably have to be honest without directly saying anything, no long-term expectations. I cannot escalate in college, may even get thrown out of college if a teacher catches us. May be possible, but too risky.

No place for sex, absolutely zero. I'll see if I can meet her for an evening walk, or escalate inside a movie theatre.

 

[Hue]

Well, if you say so I'll see if I can escalate. Problem is she probably has, or had feelings. Took my number from a friend, texted me first, after texting a few times I stopped. Her last text was "You ignore people so much".

So will probably have to be honest without directly saying anything, no long-term expectations.

Yea, she's clearly interested. I wouldn't necessary say she "has feelings" unless you've already been developing some sort of flirtatious or investing relationship with her, but she definitely likes you and has an interest in you.

"You ignore people so much" is probably because she doesn't feel you're texting her enough / with enough investment in your texts. So this means your attainability may be too low.

And yes, it's important to set expectations. My preferred expectation is "no expectations" because this allows the relationship to develop on its own without forcing anything and without disappointments. This might be difficult to do in some circumstances, so here's three articles to help your understanding navigating boyfriend territory/expectations.

Telling Women You're NOT Boyfriend Material
Does She Want You To Be Her Boyfriend... Or Something Else?
How To Fix The "He's Not A Boyfriend" Frame

So will probably have to be honest without directly saying anything, no long-term expectations. I cannot escalate in college, may even get thrown out of college if a teacher catches us. May be possible, but too risky.

No place for sex, absolutely zero. I'll see if I can meet her for an evening walk, or escalate inside a movie theatre.

You don't have a dorm?

If not an evening walk or a movie theatre may get you some level of escalation, but it sounds like you think public sex is too risky (and if you're new to escalating in general it can be a bit more difficult to pull off). If she's a senior, won't she have a more isolated location for indoor adventures?


Either way I would try to text her a little bit more so you don't send her into autorejection, and thereafter primarily focus on seeing her in person asap as to not let texting be the main outlet of you two connecting.

 

[sneaky_charm]

You don't have a dorm?

If not an evening walk or a movie theatre may get you some level of escalation, but it sounds like you think public sex is too risky (and if you're new to escalating in general it can be a bit more difficult to pull off). If she's a senior, won't she have a more isolated location for indoor adventures?

Either way I would try to text her a little bit more so you don't send her into autorejection, and thereafter primarily focus on seeing her in person asap as to not let texting be the main outlet of you two connecting.

I don't have a dorm, it's a small rural Indian town, village if you will. About a mile by foot from my home, where I stay with family. She probably stays with her family too. There are dorms but boys aren't allowed inside. And the principal DID expel a couple 2 years ago cause they were getting handsy inside classroom and were reported by other students.