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Personally, one of my strong suits is that in interaction (with women, friends, and family, anyone really) is that i don't focus on talking about myself, or how good I am; and don't get me wrong, i have a lot to brag about, from success in sports, to academics, to family status. Even writing this previous sentence feels wrong because i feel like im bragging. I learned this lesson early on, and that has helped me focus on listening and not talking. But i've received complaints, and i read chase's article "Dialing Down the Value Volume", and have the following questions:
1) The complains I receive always come from girls who are at least evidently attracted to me, or have escalated with me. They come in the form of "I know nothing about you and that's weird" after they talk a lot about themselves. I want to know at least how to respond to that, since "I like to listen and not talk so I'll look cool" isn't a valid answer.
2) the article (worth a read if you haven't seen it) talks about how to communicate value without seeming like you're trying.. My problem is, I really DON'T try! Any articles/ tips on that?
I'm aware that this is a good problem to have, but it'll be better if it comes with a solution!
1) The complains I receive always come from girls who are at least evidently attracted to me, or have escalated with me. They come in the form of "I know nothing about you and that's weird" after they talk a lot about themselves. I want to know at least how to respond to that, since "I like to listen and not talk so I'll look cool" isn't a valid answer.
2) the article (worth a read if you haven't seen it) talks about how to communicate value without seeming like you're trying.. My problem is, I really DON'T try! Any articles/ tips on that?
I'm aware that this is a good problem to have, but it'll be better if it comes with a solution!
