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Long story short, fumbled with a new girl that liked me a good bit. Lowkey caught a bit of oneitis for like half a day but I cured it a little by taking a break from thinking about her.
Over time I built up negative compliance by asking for meets during bad times for her; Iikely came across as (possibly very) pushy, but school is about to end and I was trying to isolate before it ended. Very low chance of meeting during summer
After I fucked up by diffusing too much tension over text by accidently rewarding resistance (I thought that I was reframing her resistance ) She shot me a text asking for help on a project.
Obviously I did not comply. I texted her back saying “Like ur parents said, you need to grow up and be independent ”. I was basically saying “do it yourself” in a playful way.
I realize that it might be a bit insulting, so I’m not 100% sure if her ghosting is due to auto rejection or boredom. More likely boredom or even a mix of both
Also, she removed me from her “close friends story” on instagram. The action of physically removing me from the story probably means her emotions are cemented about ghosting me.
and now she has ignored texts of mine and I’m maybe 80% boxed into “boring guy” territory.
I feel that I’m still somewhat (even if its a little) intriguing to her, and I think a really strong ball in her court message could work.
I’m already ready to move on, although since we’re in social circle its very likely I can get another chance. I want to end on a note that's as strong as possible so after 3 months of summer I have another option of the many that are present at school.
What BIHC messages do y’all think could loudly say “Hey, you got me wrong, Im actually high status” while keeping a door open for later?
Over time I built up negative compliance by asking for meets during bad times for her; Iikely came across as (possibly very) pushy, but school is about to end and I was trying to isolate before it ended. Very low chance of meeting during summer
After I fucked up by diffusing too much tension over text by accidently rewarding resistance (I thought that I was reframing her resistance ) She shot me a text asking for help on a project.
Obviously I did not comply. I texted her back saying “Like ur parents said, you need to grow up and be independent ”. I was basically saying “do it yourself” in a playful way.
I realize that it might be a bit insulting, so I’m not 100% sure if her ghosting is due to auto rejection or boredom. More likely boredom or even a mix of both
Also, she removed me from her “close friends story” on instagram. The action of physically removing me from the story probably means her emotions are cemented about ghosting me.
and now she has ignored texts of mine and I’m maybe 80% boxed into “boring guy” territory.
I feel that I’m still somewhat (even if its a little) intriguing to her, and I think a really strong ball in her court message could work.
I’m already ready to move on, although since we’re in social circle its very likely I can get another chance. I want to end on a note that's as strong as possible so after 3 months of summer I have another option of the many that are present at school.
What BIHC messages do y’all think could loudly say “Hey, you got me wrong, Im actually high status” while keeping a door open for later?