What is dating like for women?

[TomGray]

So I'm sitting on lunch break at work and I have nothing to read but some tabloid that was lying on the table. Flipping through, I come across this story of this woman from The Bachelor who committed suicide supposedly because of her desperation at not having a husband or child at 29 years old. Looking at the pictures of her, I see that she is a beautiful woman and, if she was on TV, probably charming or at least interesting in some way. Was it really so hard for her to find a good man? How much success do women have in dating anyway? Maybe I'm coming at it from a skewed perspective: since I talk to attractive girls a lot, I assume that they get approached a lot, but is this not the case? How often are they really approached?

This is a really broad topic and I haven't asked very far-reaching questions but if you guys have any insights, let me know!

 

[trashKENNUT]

Was it really so hard for her to find a good man? How much success do women have in dating anyway? Maybe I'm coming at it from a skewed perspective: since I talk to attractive girls a lot, I assume that they get approached a lot, but is this not the case? How often are they really approached?

Depends on the kind of influences she gets. A lot of girls do have unreasonable "Disney" expectations. We can't blame them since society glorify that kind of thing. As for success, if you talking about men and supply, there's always is, if you talking about marriage, the amount of men who is sexy but kind isn't a lot.

I actually had friends who are beautiful, too, and they don't get approach all too often. I was surprised that some of their Facebook messages are empty!

Again, i think the statistic varies.

Zac

 

[mkivtt]

Girls all claim to want a "nice sweet guy" and that "Disney fairytale" mentioned above... yet they are suckers for bad boys. What they say and do are two completely different things.

Anyway, I assume that if you're a girl who's a 7 or up, and you are smart and understand that for LTR, bad boys are a waste of time (few if any goals, bad long-term partners, probably shallow, will never be a great provider), dating is easy. You get your pick of the litter. Guys will approach you in real life, and if you go online, you'll have dozens of messages each day. Think smart and pick the ones who aren't bad boys, but have great jobs and ambition, yet still look good and are edgy or whatever else you want. Voila. You have as many dates as you want until you find a smart, well employed, ambitious, funny, cocky, fit and good looking guy. Find something you don't like over time? Dump him and get another.

The only downside I possibly see is guys hitting on you constantly, but as you get a bit older and get past the college/clubbing phase, that should be manageable.

If you're an average girl, you can still work out and be in decent shape. Seriously... if your face isn't a total disaster, a good body, good grooming and a sense of style are all it takes to attract lots of men, many of which again will be of good quality.

If you're a fat girl... I have no pity for you. Nobody wants a fattie. Junk the twinkies and hit the gym.

There is no way any girl a 6 or up should ever lack a good guy in her life. If they are, clearly they are picking the wrong men and it's their own fault.

Man, I can only imagine the luxury of guys talking to you and sending you messages daily, and having my pick of the litter. You don't even have to be passive and "wait." Since 99.9% of women never hit on guys, all you have to do is show some IOIs. I don't meant the stupid, vague, coy IOIs that girls do, but some more aggressive stuff like dropping a hints that a guy looks good, should take you out sometime, that you're single, etc. Any sane guy will do it and appreciate your candor instead of that dumb body language game.

 

[TomGray]

If you're a fat girl... I have no pity for you. Nobody wants a fattie. Junk the twinkies and hit the gym.

There is no way any girl a 6 or up should ever lack a good guy in her life. If they are, clearly they are picking the wrong men and it's their own fault.

Whoa, buddy, I'm feeling a lot of negativity coming from you. Don't be so quick to point the finger of blame. Although everyone is responsible for most of their own destiny, we don't know what their lives are like and we do not have the right to pass judgement. Try to be more empathetic. My favorite teacher is college is wonderful because she takes the time to acknowledge and respond to everyone's comments, no matter what kind of person says it (including weird me) and she never puts anyone down for saying anything (she's also a beautiful, short, fair-skinned brunette, with a cute sense of fashion, a melodic voice, damn smart and hard-working, and socially smooth and confident to boot. She's pretty much my dream girl T_T ). Everyone has value in this world, everyone can teach you something.

I'm not saying this as paragon of understanding myself. I struggle lots of times with trying to understand others and am filled with bitterness sometimes. But we're not on this site to wallow in hopelessness. We're here because we believe that we can better than what we are now. Because we believe that tomorrow can better than today.

That's my two cents.Hope I wasn't too preachy.

 

[mkivtt]

Well, I have nothing against overweight people, I just have zero physical attraction to them. Which probably goes for 95% of the guys; hence my comment that it should be easy for any woman to get a reasonable man as long as she's under 40 and willing to be in somewhat decent shape. And being in shape is a personal choice... ultimately it's just a question of eating right and exercising. Hence why I won't feel pity for overweight people who have a hard time getting a date.