What is going on here?

[Anonymous]

So I've been on two dates with a girl so far, both failing to lead to sex. The first time I tried we kissed for a while, felt each other. The second time was a little more escalated. We both had our shirts off, kissing and licking each other. All the while she's saying to me about how all of this sex were GOING to have and teasing me to no end, assuring me it will happen eventually. However, I'm afraid she already put me in the friendzone. She is sexually experienced 13+ men, so is this a case where she has just created a set of rules before we have sex? We have a third date set up, but I don't know how to go about convincing her to have sex with me. This has never happened before, so I'm very confused about the whole situation. Thanks!

 

[Nova]

Wow, what a tease.

It will be interesting to hear how the third date goes, but I don't think she's friend-zoned you so to speak, not after getting semi-intimate with you a couple of times, talking about the sex you are going to have, and then agreeing to a third date.

However if you keep letting the gal get away with this, then things could go wrong.

It's also likely that she has her little rules about no sex before the third date etc - but the onus is on you to help her break these rules, and show her the kind of man that you are, this will only help you further down the line into a potential relationship and/or if she and you become a FWB type of thing. It's one of the best things you can do for enforcing yourself as dominant and sexy, she will remember that.

Really, all that matters here for you now is that you learn how to escalate and persist more effectively and continue to work on developing dominant character traits. Look through the articles on the main site, there are probably loads.

I reckon you will have an easier time getting into her pants when you get her back to yours after the third date - but this time do ensure that you go the whole way, make it happen.

Ultimately though you do want to be looking at making things happen on the first date if possible.