As the title says above, What is Love? I've been thinking about this over the last few days, since Valentine's Day was this week. How do you define love? Love is something that I have struggled to understand my entire life.
There are different kinds of love... Maternal love for the child, love for dogs, love of God....I'm not talking about plain words, I'm talking about true emotional attachment, true feelings that a person can have...
But you are most likely interested in what is love between man and woman. I can't say what other people feel or think, but my experience is that love is a deep emotional connection to the girl.... You perceive her as hot, good or great looking... there are great vibes, she makes you feel really good about yourself (she usually becomes submissive to you, thus you feel more dominant, more empowered)...
You know that she pays attention to you, she wants to know details about your life, she wants to know things about your personal liife... she usually make it seem that she likes those things too, she sorts of approves of all things you say, do, like or dislike - you can say ha she mirrors you, mimicks you... she is trying to match her life into yours, you can feel that she imagines how is it if she had to stay with you for the rest of her life ...
She makes you really feel good... You spent most of your time thinking about her, you are replaying in your mind words she said, you are replaying those great feelings that you felt while she was with you... You are thinking about her nonstop, and you want to be with her when she is not there...
For true love it is important to be connected mentally, emotionally but also physically (especially for the girl, because if you don't touch her and if you don't have sex with her, she can't connect with you fully). For men, I only assume, physical act of sex is not that important because I believe that men (unlike women) can love just on emotional and mental level. I, for example, fell in love with different women, and I don't have to have sex with that girl yet the emotional connection is really strong...
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There are also real dangers associated with love that guy should be aware of, those happen when love is not returned by the girl, or if it is for whatever reason cut off (e.g. she dumps you because of immaturity and neediness)
* Love can be very painful is she is not returned back by the girl... At first, there are great vibes, great feelings, but then she starts cooling off for for whatever reason (usually she attraction expires and you don't move things forward with her)... Once you are more experienced and emotionally tuned, you can even feel her cooling off... It is painful, many times you know how n your mind that you can't do anything, that she is gone, but your heart is still fully pumping just for her, your mind is still fully creating plans to get her back... That is a fucking pain, it is a misery, and many times it doesn't go away so easily....
* Love can be addictive. After all, we are talking about great feelings caused by some stimuli - whether the stimulant is a girl, alcohol, heroin or other things, your brain is using the same addictive pattern (in limpid system)... in other words, your brain wants more and more of what makes it happy.... So your brain is looking for more and more intensive stimuli...
* Love can also end up being very depressing. First you are emotionally high, you feel huge surge of energy, you believe you can conquer the whole world because she is watching you, she is approving of anything you do... Then, when she is gone, you start missing her... You feel deprived, all the energy is gone,... she no longer approves you, she may even directly disapprove of whatever you do... In some cases she may even humiliate you... Either way, she is gone now, you feel that have no energy to do anything... you just want to si home and do nothing, watch porn because that's the only thing that makes you happy, you think... Depression can last months, years, 2 decades...
* Love can create lots of aggression, anger, hate, frustration... Imagine you are going out with a hot girl, or your GF, yet another guy goes after her and takes her away from you... sleeps with her, marries her while you are still obsessed with her... the anger and hate can be so strong that some may not even hesitate to kill the other person... it could be some total stranger, or your best friend...
But, it could also be you... Here on GC everybody always talks about girl that has a BF, and the question usually is how to deal with the BF, how to get over her objections, how to take her away from him... him - the other guy... Has anybody here actually ever thought for a sec that the BF could be You? You are the one with hot girl that you really love, while some PUA or Seducer tries to take her away from you? Think what you want, it is actually very weak to go after girl that is taken. It is sick, it shows that you don't have respect for another guy, you don't have any self respect, you have miserable low value as a man... it only shows your own weakness, neediness,...
Note: There are of course two very different scenarios - one is when you are trying actively taking her from the other guy, and the other when you don't do anything, yet she choses you over him because she finds you much higher value than he is (without you faking it)...
Let me tell you something bro, if I see anyone going after a girl that I love, I will beat the shit out of you with no mercy. I will invite couple friends to join me, if needed.... You will have fucking nightmares from being a PUA or Coolest GC Seducer, you will suffer PTSD, and I strongly recommend that you do exactly the same to any guys that go after your girl... In the same token, should you keep going after a girl that is taken, you also deserve to be beaten... There! Shit shall be beaten out of you! That is the answer to the question what to do if she already has a BF...
Love and Hate, two sides of the same coin...
But you are most likely interested in what is love between man and woman. I can't say what other people feel or think, but my experience is that love is a deep emotional connection to the girl.... You perceive her as hot, good or great looking... there are great vibes, she makes you feel really good about yourself (she usually becomes submissive to you, thus you feel more dominant, more empowered)...
You know that she pays attention to you, she wants to know details about your life, she wants to know things about your personal liife... she usually make it seem that she likes those things too, she sorts of approves of all things you say, do, like or dislike - you can say ha she mirrors you, mimicks you... she is trying to match her life into yours, you can feel that she imagines how is it if she had to stay with you for the rest of her life ...
She makes you really feel good... You spent most of your time thinking about her, you are replaying in your mind words she said, you are replaying those great feelings that you felt while she was with you... You are thinking about her nonstop, and you want to be with her when she is not there...
For true love it is important to be connected mentally, emotionally but also physically (especially for the girl, because if you don't touch her and if you don't have sex with her, she can't connect with you fully). For men, I only assume, physical act of sex is not that important because I believe that men (unlike women) can love just on emotional and mental level. I, for example, fell in love with different women, and I don't have to have sex with that girl yet the emotional connection is really strong...
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There are also real dangers associated with love that guy should be aware of, those happen when love is not returned by the girl, or if it is for whatever reason cut off (e.g. she dumps you because of immaturity and neediness)
* Love can be very painful is she is not returned back by the girl... At first, there are great vibes, great feelings, but then she starts cooling off for for whatever reason (usually she attraction expires and you don't move things forward with her)... Once you are more experienced and emotionally tuned, you can even feel her cooling off... It is painful, many times you know how n your mind that you can't do anything, that she is gone, but your heart is still fully pumping just for her, your mind is still fully creating plans to get her back... That is a fucking pain, it is a misery, and many times it doesn't go away so easily....
* Love can be addictive. After all, we are talking about great feelings caused by some stimuli - whether the stimulant is a girl, alcohol, heroin or other things, your brain is using the same addictive pattern (in limpid system)... in other words, your brain wants more and more of what makes it happy.... So your brain is looking for more and more intensive stimuli...
* Love can also end up being very depressing. First you are emotionally high, you feel huge surge of energy, you believe you can conquer the whole world because she is watching you, she is approving of anything you do... Then, when she is gone, you start missing her... You feel deprived, all the energy is gone,... she no longer approves you, she may even directly disapprove of whatever you do... In some cases she may even humiliate you... Either way, she is gone now, you feel that have no energy to do anything... you just want to si home and do nothing, watch porn because that's the only thing that makes you happy, you think... Depression can last months, years, 2 decades...
* Love can create lots of aggression, anger, hate, frustration... Imagine you are going out with a hot girl, or your GF, yet another guy goes after her and takes her away from you... sleeps with her, marries her while you are still obsessed with her... the anger and hate can be so strong that some may not even hesitate to kill the other person... it could be some total stranger, or your best friend...
But, it could also be you... Here on GC everybody always talks about girl that has a BF, and the question usually is how to deal with the BF, how to get over her objections, how to take her away from him... him - the other guy... Has anybody here actually ever thought for a sec that the BF could be You? You are the one with hot girl that you really love, while some PUA or Seducer tries to take her away from you? Think what you want, it is actually very weak to go after girl that is taken. It is sick, it shows that you don't have respect for another guy, you don't have any self respect, you have miserable low value as a man... it only shows your own weakness, neediness,...
Note: There are of course two very different scenarios - one is when you are trying actively taking her from the other guy, and the other when you don't do anything, yet she choses you over him because she finds you much higher value than he is (without you faking it)...
Let me tell you something bro, if I see anyone going after a girl that I love, I will beat the shit out of you with no mercy. I will invite couple friends to join me, if needed.... You will have fucking nightmares from being a PUA or Coolest GC Seducer, you will suffer PTSD, and I strongly recommend that you do exactly the same to any guys that go after your girl... In the same token, should you keep going after a girl that is taken, you also deserve to be beaten... There! Shit shall be beaten out of you! That is the answer to the question what to do if she already has a BF...
Love and Hate, two sides of the same coin...
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dfwILKsb7J4
Couldn't resist XD
Is there a way to embed youtube videos to watch them here? lol
Anyways, read Drck's post and I get it. Still I gotta say, even though that last part's not very nice, you gotta toughen up as part of your training. I've come to accept that, even though it hurts doing so.
Couldn't resist XD
Is there a way to embed youtube videos to watch them here? lol
Anyways, read Drck's post and I get it. Still I gotta say, even though that last part's not very nice, you gotta toughen up as part of your training. I've come to accept that, even though it hurts doing so.