Hey guys, to give ya'll an explanation, I want to change the way a certain girl sees me. I wouldn't consider myself friend zoned, but I'm on the fine line. I have tried to ask her out, and she had even excitedly agreed, but due to scheduling problems (I had not worked my logistics well) we winded up canceling, with her saying she would love to some other time. I'm sure she wasn't lying, but I'm a bit confused as you will read. See, I have in the past month, stumbled on to the website, and have since, been improving in so many ways. It has been a real eye opener, and now I'm trying to change my entire image with this girl I'm on the line with. I want to be seen as more of a dating/lover opportunity rather than a friend for obvious reasons. The way I see it, if I can't do that, there's not any real reason we need to be friends. So I'm prepared to let go if things do not work out. Anyways, changing the subject, I tried to be subtle when texting this girl, and when I brought up what she was doing for the weekend, I got no reply. A total washout. Nothing. I'm wondering what my next move is, and if I should try a whole new strategy altogether. I'm open to all ideas and if anyone has any questions, I'd be happy to reply! Thanks!
What is the best way to change the way a girl sees you?
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You need to get her out alone. Don't worry about her seeing it as a friendly outing. Unless you have been hanging out with her previously 'as friends' a girl knows what's up when you as her out to 'have coffee' or whatever, just the two of you.
Unfortunately I cannot help you with the scheduling thing. I am having the same problem and I don't want to give you bad advice. In fact the last 3 dates I have arranged suddenly became "busy" and flaked.
Perhaps read the article on what to do when girls don't text back. If she didn't respond then I think chase recommends a period of radio silence then re-engage her like nothing happened. Just remember every time you contact her from now on your sole aim is to get her out alone with you. If the text you are sending isn't working towards that then don't send it.
Once you have her out it is up to you to be a sexual man and lead the interaction to intimacy. There are plenty of articles on here explaining just how to do that.
Always remember though, she is just one girl, the skills you can learn here will get you many. So don't get hung up on her, she sounds a little unresponsive as is and it's very hard to reverse past president. Not saying it's impossible but be prepared to give up and move on to greener pastures if it doesn't work out.
Good luck!
-Doctor
Unfortunately I cannot help you with the scheduling thing. I am having the same problem and I don't want to give you bad advice. In fact the last 3 dates I have arranged suddenly became "busy" and flaked.
Perhaps read the article on what to do when girls don't text back. If she didn't respond then I think chase recommends a period of radio silence then re-engage her like nothing happened. Just remember every time you contact her from now on your sole aim is to get her out alone with you. If the text you are sending isn't working towards that then don't send it.
Once you have her out it is up to you to be a sexual man and lead the interaction to intimacy. There are plenty of articles on here explaining just how to do that.
Always remember though, she is just one girl, the skills you can learn here will get you many. So don't get hung up on her, she sounds a little unresponsive as is and it's very hard to reverse past president. Not saying it's impossible but be prepared to give up and move on to greener pastures if it doesn't work out.
Good luck!
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- Don't do anything that will give her that old impression of you, and start doing things the new you would.
Don't want to be seen as a friend? - Just don't be a friend.
Go for the kiss... friend's don't do that.
Take her by the hand and lead her... friend's don't do that.
Sweep her feet off the ground... friend's don't do that.
She hasn't replied to your latest text message? - Ignore her for a few days. Friends don't do that.
Don't ask what her schedule is next time. Tell her that you're going to go for some coffee, and ask if she would like to join.