@UnaverageNavy,
There's two parts to a girl submitting to you in a relationship:
- How submissive is she, naturally?
- How dominating are you with women?
Like, if a guy is not very dominant, he needs to have a girl who is pretty darn submissive if he wants her to be submissive to him. Even then, he may run into trouble in the relationship, because even submissive women have a lot of tools to betaize men:
As most men spend time around women, they grow tamer. What causes this effect? The answer is: women themselves… and their leverage of disapproval and approval. If you look out across the broad range of men, you will discover men of all stripes: Big men and little men Rich men and poor men...
www.girlschase.com
If you ask me, the best way to go about it is:
The stronger your frame and the better your relationship management skills, the less totally/naturally submissive a girl must be to submit to you.
Get them strong enough and you will come to love strong, proud, confident girls, because you know you'll likely be the first guy they've ever really submitted to:
It’s forever been the mark of the man who’s reached the highest pinnacle of skill with women: a comfort, ease, and naturalness with them that few other men possess. This comfort, ease, and naturalness extends to all sorts of women, too: quiet and inexperienced women, vivacious and dynamic women...
www.girlschase.com
Even true for most girls from bars/nightclubs. I don't recommend taking girlfriends from there for the reasons
@Surveyor links to in that article. However, I have still had girlfriends I met at nightclubs, back before I gave myself that stricture, and they were plenty loyal and plenty submissive.
Trust is more of a personality trait. There are some people who are naturally very trusting. There are others who are suspicious to the point of paranoia. You need to screen her for that as you get to know her if a high-trust partner is important to you.
Trust is also related to experience. If she has had prior relationships where she got burned, she will never trust quite as much. If she is more worldly and has lost some of that Disney princess idealism, she will not trust quite as much. That said, you can also build trust, over time. Though if you want those totally blindly trusting girls you've got to pick them up
real young. They present their own issues though... like if you are past the idealism stage, but they are still in it, there is going to tend to be some major differences in what you each think appropriate relationship behavior is like.
One way to think of it though:
- The man with a weak frame and poor relationship management skills who wants a submissive woman has few women to choose from, because few women will submit to such a man
- The man with ironclad frame and battle-hardened relationship management skills who wants a submissive woman can fit almost any woman into that role, including those accustomed to making other men submit, because nearly any woman will submit to such a man
Work on those aspects of yourself that expand the pool you can draw relationships out of, and suddenly unicorns go from "impossibly rare or maybe extinct" to "sheesh, I just walk down the street, bump into a girl, and BAM! Another unicorn! They're flipping everywhere!"
Chase
