What is the smoothest way to handle a "im busy for two weeks" text from a girl?

[perpetualsun]

Hey everyone,

Recently I have been going on 3 dates with a girl. I called her for the 4th date, had no response back, then texted her back for the 4th about a day later. She then responds:

Her: "Hey! Thank you for the text. How did your week go? I had quite a few crazy days -- I would really love to grab dinner with you sometime soon. But unfortunately this week and next week may be too busy, I've got several final round interviews and midterms due. Do you think it would be OK to meet later?"

At this point, my standard response might just be: "Sure not a problem, best of luck with your interviews and midterms, let's get in touch after next week then and maybe we can figure something out then"

Does anyone have any ideas 1) her interest levels, 2) whats a good text here?

She seems like a very career oriented girl who is obsessing over getting a job just for detail

 

[MichaelGScott]

Re: What is the smoothest way to handle a "im busy for two weeks" text from a gi

Send exactly this: "Ah, bummer " and then cut contact for a bit. Nobody is busy for 2 weeks straight that they can't grab dinner. I know girls from Wash U that hang out all the time doing social stuff during midterms, and their parents are paying 40k a year for them to attend that university. You think she'd tell brad pitt she's too busy to see him? No, and guess what, you're just as desireable as brad fucking pitt. Best of luck. See other girls so you dont get hung up on her.

 

[mindful]

Re: What is the smoothest way to handle a "im busy for two weeks" text from a gi

She responded warmly and seems interested, but how much... i don't know. 2 weeks is a long time... I would just disengage then re-engage again after midterms or whatever. But yeah... continue meeting new girls and don't think much about this one.

You can say something like michael said... it's pretty low effort for what she responded with but it's not bad. You aren't answering her question though which leaves it up in the air... she might even engage you after a while to see what's up if shes still interested.

 

[ProblemSolving]

Re: What is the smoothest way to handle a "im busy for two weeks" text from a gi

Cut. Bait.

Life's too short to waste energy on people that are not excited about you.

You went on 3 dates with this girl, so she WAS interested. What happened on your last date that caused her interest to tank?

 

[NBoxa]

Re: What is the smoothest way to handle a "im busy for two weeks" text from a gi

My translation with the little XP i have

Her: "Hey! Thank you for the text. How did your week go?

Small talk

I had quite a few crazy days

Got drilled by two guys in the toilet

I would really love to grab dinner with you sometime soon.

Buy me free food

But unfortunately this week and next week may be too busy,

I wont make the time to see you though

I've got several final round interviews and midterms due. Do you think it would be OK to meet later?"

School is boring, ill keep you as a untility to carry my bags and listen to my crap.

Few things
1. Energy spent on getting a woman back is better spent on getting a new chick
2. Medium is the message

EDIT: My response would be nothing, you've moved on to better things.

 

[Seppuku]

Re: What is the smoothest way to handle a "im busy for two weeks" text from a gi

Answer "No, it's not" then withdraw attention and go radio silent. Then look for a new girl.

The bottom line is, you can either spend the next two weeks chasing her to no avail, or use the same time to find a new girl more into you. The second option is much more productive.

Seppuku

 

[Big Daddy]

Re: What is the smoothest way to handle a "im busy for two weeks" text from a gi

Answer "No, it's not"

I love this.

 

[Franco]

Re: What is the smoothest way to handle a "im busy for two weeks" text from a gi

P-sun,

It looks like she put a lot of effort into that text, so she might genuinely be busy. She also offered to meet again "later," but did not give you a concrete week/date either.

Generally when texting women who might still be on the ropes about you, it's best to keep a few things in mind about your response(s) to her:

• (1) Don't be needy.
  (2) Don't appear "upset" about the circumstances. Positive attitude is always best, although indifference can be just as effective as well.
  (3) Don't give her any idea of when you might contact her again (unless she actually gives you a concrete time/date).

With those rules in my mind, based on the text she sent you, my response would probably look like this:

Me: Sounds good to me. Good luck on your stuff!

...and then don't contact her again for at least 3-4 weeks (since she mentioned she would be busy for 2 weeks).

Notice that I don't answer her first question (which can be construed as you being "negative" about her response), but then I end on a positive note ("Good luck on your stuff!") This can confuse her a bit; she might think to herself, "oh, he didn't answer my question. Well my text was kind of long I guess... but maybe he was upset? Well no, if we was upset, he wouldn't have wished me good luck, right?"

This is the kind of "mental investment" you want to get from a girl when you know you won't be contacting her for awhile. Your response leaves enough questions about your interest in her ("does he care? Maybe I should have given him more to work with? Did I write too much in that text? Is he going to contact me again?") without leaving any sense of negativity on your part.

When you sound positive but vague, it really piques a girl's interest!

- Franco