what is too old?

[thejourneyman]

Long story, currently I am 25 and about to enter return home from the US to join the workforce. I spent some time this Christmas reflecting - i learned and used a lot of material here in college to pickup girls. This post is arising more from the fact that I am noticing more and more engagement/marriages in my Facebook newsfeed and cant help but feel the social pressure to get more "serious". However, I realised that:

its true that nightclub/bar girls just tend to be more casual. I recently hooked up with a girl who looks like the most innocent thing but learnt that she was sleeping with at least 10! guys. If i were to be more serious, I would have to reduce/not date girls from these establishments. However, I have practiced most of my night-game skills and am worried about the cultural re-transition back to my home-country which I have only returned to twice in 5 years and my how to where to exercise day-game.

Then I think about it more, and i wonder if its this worry thats affecting my abundance mentality and making me want to settle? Because I look at my female friends, even the non-slutty/not so pretty ones/whoever are just hanging out in such establishments anyway! All the way till they are 28, or 29 years old, probably.

Just a rant.. is 25 for a guy considered young or old?

 

[Richard]

Just a rant.. is 25 for a guy considered young or old?

It's whatever you feel about yourself bro.

About the whole social pressure of marriage: if most of your friends aren't or weren't involved with many women and understand the dynamics of attraction, love, relationships and the other stuff PU teaches you, then I'm going to guess and say that lots of your friends are settling.

Don't settle! Another member on the boards a while back was asking about settling himself, here.

But, this is what I told him in essence:

Anyway, to the actual response. In my opinion, "settling," is accepting anything less than what you feel you deserve. Settling is a self-imposed quality, it's something that is unique to every individual. If you feel like you deserve a high caliber women, then don't accept being with one who isn't.

So for you, if you find yourself wanting to settle down, do it with a woman who is truly for you, and meets all the qualities you look for in your "ideal" woman. It's not something to be rushed, and it's not something you should trick yourself into.

If your friends are genuinely happy and married, then good for them, but don't let that affect your ability, nor your mentality.

Cheers,

-Richard