What is your mission?

[Zoro]

Having a mission as your priority is said to be important not only for being a great man, but its also attractive to women. I agree with this, and have realized I'm lacking a clear vision of a long term goal.

I used to have big ideals of saving the world somehow, but have come to the conclusion that the world needs no saving and that the best way to save it anyway would be to build myself up in order to have any effect on the world.

So now I'm longing for a higher purpose, more than myself.

My Buddhist side is also chilling me out, its like dude, no need to be ambitious when life is already great.

After some brainstorming, I came up with some "missions"

-Be a masculine role model

-Be a great lover

-Support the nature and cultures of the world

-Explore life & land.

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These all feel waaaay too vague-y. In the next chapter of life I'm looking to build focus and vision.

So my question is, do you have a well developed vision of a personal mission? How important is that for you and how important is that for a man in general?

PS

I have goals like, learn new languages, make money as a musician, and travel extensively, but those don't feel like a mission.

 

[Bboy100]

I have a huge issue with this too. I think for me, part of it is that I'm 21. Which means I'm young and confused AND my hormones are going crazy, so all I can ever think about is finding sex/girlfriends (I just recently found out that this is completely normal, and pretty much every guy my age has the same obsession). I feel like once I'm done with this phase of my life, my purpose will be a lot clearer to me.

But I digress, this info probably isn't useful to you. But you might find this helpful if you're up for a long read: https://www.girlschase.com/content/purpo ... point-view

 

[Lover]

A long post, but here goes nothing

I only discovered my mission (again) two months ago, and I haven't felt more alive prior to discovering it. Okay, well.. when I began my seduction studies, I also felt somewhat alive, but not in the same way

I want to create a team of fighters in taekwondo who can represent my country's national team and become world champions. Because I had my stupid ACL torn a few years back and some other undecent shit that happened along the way, I am still recovering, and now I wonder if I ever will make it to an European or a World Championship myself (I'm 22). I never put others' needs over my own. With my students I can't help but put their needs over my own. Why? Simply because I want them to succeed. I don't care if it's going to take me 10 years or 50 years to see myself or a student of mine become World Champion. But it's definitely a life-long goal (or mission if you prefer that term) worth fighting for.

I don't know why I want this so bad, but everytime I think of it, I just get this gut feeling that goes something like "this is what I was made to do. Even though I don't believe in destiny, this must be my destiny". I only know what my mission looks like in the end, but I can't start to imagine what the process looks like; all the good times, all the bad times, the challenges etc. It's an unknown road filled with intrigue and excitement.

As I wrote in the beginning, I haven't felt more alive until discovering my mission. And I think that as a man, you just KNOW when you've discovered your mission: it's this thing that makes your heart pound harder and faster when you think about it and makes you feel like what I described above.

Do I believe it's important for a man to have a mission? Definitely. I can tell you two things to support this.

1. A man in his mid-30's had become member of my taekwondo club. He was impressed with me being so ambitious and full of energy simultaneously because he couldn't remember the last time he felt like that. He told me how he had done everything right in his life; got a master degree and an awesome job, but he couldn't get anything else right. He thought of his life as "off" (because it was all just routine). He told me how this woman on his taekwondo team (she was 25 back then and I was 16) couldn't stop talking about me and how awesome I was, and he wished he had that effect on women. It was terrible to hear a man his age tell me stuff like that. While I had no clue on the woman thing, I just asked him "ok, so I'm not sure if I'm the right one to ask you this, but are you living the life you want? Or do you have anything you want to achieve over a certain amount of time? BEcause I can't imagine a life where I'm not in control of the events I want to happen in my life". He was genuinly happy I asked him this because he thought that happiness and women would come with the right job. He decided to quit taekwondo and compete in ironman from that point. Even though I was motivated myself, his newfound ambition motivated me further (motivation is contagious I guess).

2. Recently I read a theory about male-female "energies", and I thought it was great. The main points were that being active (or pushing your limits) is considered masculine while being passive (staying in your comfort zone) is considered feminine. So when you do as this man did - get an education and follow up with a sweet 9-5 job, you know, the way society wants you to do it - it should be considered feminine. Why? Because you're travelling the safe path. You're being passive in your actions. You're taking action, but not ACTIVE action.

So there you go. To sum up, when you discover your mission, you KNOW it. And you should definitely have a mission because it's more manly.

Now, get out there, find your mission and tell uncle a-jay all about it

 

[Zoro]

I have a huge issue with this too. I think for me, part of it is that I'm 21.

Yeah, I feel like a whirlwind at times. I think a lack of experience of life (especially in things I THINK I want like extensive world travel) makes it hard to know what your mission should be.

I have a younger friend (the one I call the "machine") who is really experienced in life. He has done everything from outrun the cops to tour the country in a rock band. He is the most solid dude of any age I know, (besides my father) and he knows what he wants and has his shit completely together.

This is one reason I'm headed down a path that I chose for myself. I ditched school and am moving away. I'm determined to travel and I'm determined to be self employed and location independent. Those two things go hand in hand and I'm obsessed. They will also be rich in experience.

I don't know why I want this so bad, but everytime I think of it, I just get this gut feeling that goes something like "this is what I was made to do. Even though I don't believe in destiny, this must be my destiny". I only know what my mission looks like in the end, but I can't start to imagine what the process looks like; all the good times, all the bad times, the challenges etc. It's an unknown road filled with intrigue and excitement.

Such passion. That's the drive that's been lacking in my life. I chalk it up to the harsh winters and lame city killing my mojo.

All in all, I'm confident in my self to reinvigorate myself and become inspired and experienced enough to become a passionate man with a mission.

Recently I read a theory about male-female "energies", and I thought it was great. The main points were that being active (or pushing your limits) is considered masculine while being passive (staying in your comfort zone) is considered feminine. So when you do as this man did - get an education and follow up with a sweet 9-5 job, you know, the way society wants you to do it - it should be considered feminine. Why? Because you're travelling the safe path. You're being passive in your actions. You're taking action, but not ACTIVE action.

Recently I read a theory about male-female "energies", and I thought it was great. The main points were that being active (or pushing your limits) is considered masculine while being passive (staying in your comfort zone) is considered feminine. So when you do as this man did - get an education and follow up with a sweet 9-5 job, you know, the way society wants you to do it - it should be considered feminine. Why? Because you're travelling the safe path. You're being passive in your actions. You're taking action, but not ACTIVE action.

Gold right here.

I always felt uncomfortable in school. Some unsuccessful professor inexperienced in life (especially the subjects I'm obsessed with like travel) teaching me the ways of the world. I laugh thinking Chase probably taught me much more.

I want to blaze my own path. That's one thing that I'm sure of... And if I think about it, I at least have mini missions that when I think about, fire me up.

Thanks Uncle J