What kind of games are these!?

[Sub-Zero]

This girl at my job is playing some type of new game i never seen, read about on here before, or dealt with before.

This girl kisses me on the lips, feels all over me, and admits that she wants to fuck. When i tell her to kiss me she doesnt even hesitate and goes right into it. This is at our job and we could get caught easily, she doesn't care. She tries to make it look like her and I are a couple. She tells her friends about me, and they're asking me stuff. She's being aggressive with me, while im chillin.

The whole time im just chillin, relaxed about the whole thing, and trying to make moves.
When we agree to chill, i call or text, and she doesn't respond. Did this shit four times.

What's going on?

 

[Flames]

Fruit loop/cocktease/lack of impulse control.

More important is what you want?

 

[ray_zorse]

Why don't you do a takeaway... ignore her for a bit, she tries to kiss you on the lips or whatever, push her away... say "I didn't give you permission to do that" or "no, don't embarrass me"... if/when she asks why, say you only hangout with people who respect you, such as keeping to arrangements/responding to messages and so on. This might be enough to fix things up, but I doubt it, so probably NEXT is the ticket.
Ray

 

[Drck]

Remember, you might be just a piece of her chess puzzle. She make it seem that you are together in front of other people, so another guy that she's really after finds out and gets jealous. Or, you might be used as a shield from another guy who is after her, he is annoying and she can't get rid of him, so she pretends to be taken...she may just want to show off in front of the other girls - look, I can get any guy I want... There is lots of possibilities....

 

[Ross]

This girl at my job is playing some type of new game i never seen, read about on here before, or dealt with before.

This girl kisses me on the lips, feels all over me, and admits that she wants to fuck. When i tell her to kiss me she doesnt even hesitate and goes right into it. This is at our job and we could get caught easily, she doesn't care. She tries to make it look like her and I are a couple. She tells her friends about me, and they're asking me stuff. She's being aggressive with me, while im chillin.

The whole time im just chillin, relaxed about the whole thing, and trying to make moves.
When we agree to chill, i call or text, and she doesn't respond. Did this shit four times.

What's going on?

What's not to love for her? All the confirmation of having a nice boyfriend, with all the fun of banging tons of players on the side!

Doing boyfriend-ish stuff before sleeping together like constantly kissing in public, talking with her friends, and taking things slow allows them to do this.

Move fast and don't fall into these games.

 

[Sub-Zero]

This girl at my job is playing some type of new game i never seen, read about on here before, or dealt with before.

This girl kisses me on the lips, feels all over me, and admits that she wants to fuck. When i tell her to kiss me she doesnt even hesitate and goes right into it. This is at our job and we could get caught easily, she doesn't care. She tries to make it look like her and I are a couple. She tells her friends about me, and they're asking me stuff. She's being aggressive with me, while im chillin.

The whole time im just chillin, relaxed about the whole thing, and trying to make moves.
When we agree to chill, i call or text, and she doesn't respond. Did this shit four times.

What's going on?

What's not to love for her? All the confirmation of having a nice boyfriend, with all the fun of banging tons of players on the side!

Doing boyfriend-ish stuff before sleeping together like constantly kissing in public, talking with her friends, and taking things slow allows them to do this.

Move fast and don't fall into these games.

I ain't no fuckin nice boyfriend. I didn't take shit slow, i don't talk to her friends. She did this shit randomly one day with everything i said, including telling her friends, i picked up on it quick before all of this happened and made my moves as soon as she showed me she wanted dick, all that flirting shit she did that shit on her own. I was gonna check her ass, but im not gonna show her i even care. Fuck that bitch, she can suck my dick.

 

[Sub-Zero]

Fruit loop/cocktease/lack of impulse control.

More important is what you want?

You're asking what do I want from the chick?

To fuck her of course!

 

[Chase]

Money-

Why not just take her up on her escalations in a corner somewhere?

Take her hand, stick it on your crotch, playfully tell her "Look what you're doing to me... this has to stop", then stick her hand down your pants later, then whip it out later after that. Drag her into the men's room and shag her silly, or find an excuse to stick around after hours and "finish up on this project" together.

Either you'll call her bluff, or you'll give her the workplace liaison she's seemingly looking for.

There's a certain allure to hooking up in the workplace, and chances are she's got a man outside of work as-is and wants to keep what she has with you strictly "professional". She may not want to do anything with you outside the office, but might be excited about doing something with you in it.

Side note: obviously not career advice here, and I'm not sure how much privacy you have at work / how much risqué things like this might jeopardize your income stream. So, use with caution.

Chase

 

[Flames]

Fruit loop/cocktease/lack of impulse control.

More important is what you want?

You're asking what do I want from the chick?

To fuck her of course!

Sorry it was really just a statement. What I mean is don't bother how she acts. just do things that you want to do when you want to do them. If she's at all worth bothering about she'll follow your lead. What you don't want is you following her lead as that almost never works out at all for the best.

 

[Sub-Zero]

Fruit loop/cocktease/lack of impulse control.

More important is what you want?

You're asking what do I want from the chick?

To fuck her of course!

Sorry it was really just a statement. What I mean is don't bother how she acts. just do things that you want to do when you want to do them. If she's at all worth bothering about she'll follow your lead. What you don't want is you following her lead as that almost never works out at all for the best.

Could you explain how I can lead this better? It's basically she does all of that stuff and then I say let's hang she agrees then repeat.

 

[Sub-Zero]

Money-

Why not just take her up on her escalations in a corner somewhere?

Take her hand, stick it on your crotch, playfully tell her "Look what you're doing to me... this has to stop", then stick her hand down your pants later, then whip it out later after that. Drag her into the men's room and shag her silly, or find an excuse to stick around after hours and "finish up on this project" together.

Either you'll call her bluff, or you'll give her the workplace liaison she's seemingly looking for.

There's a certain allure to hooking up in the workplace, and chances are she's got a man outside of work as-is and wants to keep what she has with you strictly "professional". She may not want to do anything with you outside the office, but might be excited about doing something with you in it.

Side note: obviously not career advice here, and I'm not sure how much privacy you have at work / how much risqué things like this might jeopardize your income stream. So, use with caution.

Chase

Chase sadly we can't do that stuff we work in retail and there are nothing but customers and bosses all over, can you read the story here to help me out better with this?

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Mostly eveyone told me to move on and i have, it's just i see her and she does this, and im like "you're not going to do all this kissing and flirting and not putting out" so we agreed to chill and she keeps not answering, im not chasing and that's all i contact for to confirm the date, this is over the course of like 6 weeks.

I just want to know, is there a way to get her out and finish it, or do I just put her in her place for not answering and playing games?

 

[ray_zorse]

Talking about her putting out is chasey, it makes it look like she holds a valuable resource and you want her to release it to you. You say you are acting cool but I fancy she has actually gotten you a little hot and bothered, which is her intention, that's why I told you to do a takeaway, cos it's clear to me she's manipulating you.

Anyway, as usual Chase has a fresh perspective on things, which is much more creative and makes better use of the resources you have in this situation (I was thinking one-dimensionally in terms of how to get her out on a date, but that's not necessary)... don't make excuses, go pull her into the men's toilet or something

Ray

 

[Drck]

Whatever you do, be very careful at work place with sexual advances. Times are changing fast, you can easily lose your job. Not only that, she may falsely or partially falsely accuse you of sexual harassment, the least thing you want is to go to jail and pay some fine - for not even getting laid. Harassment is apparently for some fucking reason very popular today. She usually has huge social circle and her friends know what you are up to - you can bet that they will support her claim as well, while you most likely have nobody on your side... Personaly I wouldn't touch any girl at work place, not unless she starts first, and I would be even careful with sex talk.

The best and simplest way is to test her - she will either go out with you or not. If she goes you have a green light to push forward. If not, she is not interested enough...

 

[Troy]

Money,

I didn't read all replies above so pardon if I repeat anything. First thing is be very cautious because this is your job. You wouldn't want to get fired over some chick right?

By now I would think of her as a player/flirty girl. She wants to make you feel good at work and be her work " puppet boyfriend " and show you off to her friend's. And she has no interest in seeing you after work. That's fucked up; easier said than done I would NEXT HER (easier said than done if she is someone you really like. You'll just have to be polite with her from now onwards ).

Question is do you think she is worth it? If so pull her somewhere private and escalate. Take her hand and put it on your dick and kiss her and see how she reacts. If you do manage to fuck her right there she might be more receptive to seeing you after work.

Troy

 

[Sub-Zero]

Talking about her putting out is chasey, it makes it look like she holds a valuable resource and you want her to release it to you. You say you are acting cool but I fancy she has actually gotten you a little hot and bothered, which is her intention, that's why I told you to do a takeaway, cos it's clear to me she's manipulating you.

Anyway, as usual Chase has a fresh perspective on things, which is much more creative and makes better use of the resources you have in this situation (I was thinking one-dimensionally in terms of how to get her out on a date, but that's not necessary)... don't make excuses, go pull her into the men's toilet or something

Ray

Trust me Ray im cool, I've been biting my tongue which is why im so hot. I'm mostly angry because this shit makes no sense to me at all there should be no reason why she's doing this, she acts like I treated her bad or something. I wasn't a nice guy, but damn i sure wasn't an asshole.

 

[Sub-Zero]

Whatever you do, be very careful at work place with sexual advances. Times are changing fast, you can easily lose your job. Not only that, she may falsely or partially falsely accuse you of sexual harassment, the least thing you want is to go to jail and pay some fine - for not even getting laid. Harassment is apparently for some fucking reason very popular today. She usually has huge social circle and her friends know what you are up to - you can bet that they will support her claim as well, while you most likely have nobody on your side... Personaly I wouldn't touch any girl at work place, not unless she starts first, and I would be even careful with sex talk.

The best and simplest way is to test her - she will either go out with you or not. If she goes you have a green light to push forward. If not, she is not interested enough...

You're right man, this bitch is clearly crazy, im not trying to get caught up in that shit.

 

[Sub-Zero]

Money,

I didn't read all replies above so pardon if I repeat anything. First thing is be very cautious because this is your job. You wouldn't want to get fired over some chick right?

By now I would think of her as a player/flirty girl. She wants to make you feel good at work and be her work " puppet boyfriend " and show you off to her friend's. And she has no interest in seeing you after work. That's fucked up; easier said than done I would NEXT HER (easier said than done if she is someone you really like. You'll just have to be polite with her from now onwards ).

Question is do you think she is worth it? If so pull her somewhere private and escalate. Take her hand and put it on your dick and kiss her and see how she reacts. If you do manage to fuck her right there she might be more receptive to seeing you after work.

Troy

I mean yes I want to sleep with her, and i thought the same shit, I told her ass not to say anything about us, but she fuckin did why? I have no idea man, i read your post about your girl, and these bitches be crazy for real bro.

 

[Troy]

I mean yes I want to sleep with her, and i thought the same shit, I told her ass not to say anything about us, but she fuckin did why? I have no idea man, i read your post about your girl, and these bitches be crazy for real bro.

Lol I had to take a moment to laugh there bro. You are right. Why do these girls give out signals then seem so flaky? It makes no sense. Possible solutions is to just keep conversation with her on a polite level since you won't be able to force a decision out of her.

Lol don't even bring up that story with my girl. That's pure drama; for instance she called me last night "to talk" after 11. All I could think was "why the hell are you talking to me girl? I thought you wanted time away from me".

But I spoke to her for a hour then told her I had stuff to do then hung up. I know the call was a bit long for a girl who I cut contact with but I just let her talk her shit and get the high she still needed from me. I flirted all the way and I can tell you there are positives to pull from even the worst of situations. She saw me at school and introduced me to another girl who I know already likes me and I have a date with that girl tomorrow. How about that?

I say all that to make a point. Always look for the positives out out all the bs. It may be hard but still search for the good and you'll find it. In your situation a positive to take away is that you are being pre-selected. Even if she is flirting at least you have a chick to flirt with and if other girls are around they will take note. Who knows? Look around you, because chances are some other girl is open to going out with YOU.

Troy