What Mainstream advice considers to be the three most attractive traits in a man

[Bboy100]

Ok, so based on research done in evolutionary and sexual Psychology, the three most attractive traits to women (they are universal across cultures) are,
1. Kindness
2. Intelligence
3. Sense of Humor

Kindness I can understand ( note: 'Kindness" does not mean pussy nice guy...if you analyze him more carefully, you'll uncover that he's actually not kind at all), sense of humor is also important assuming you're not an entertainer/comedian type guy who's just tryharding. But what about intelligence? I haven't really heard GC talk much about it.
But I have noticed that most men I know who are successful with women are intelligent. In fact, as far as I can tell, not one of the authors or higher level board members here lack intelligence. So it seems like its probably pretty accurate to say that its sexy. But we never really talk about it in articles. What do you guys think?

 

[Smith]

Re: What Mainstream advice considers to be the three most attractive traits in a

I think when women says "intelligence", they want a guy who's on his purpose and have some kinda skills that he's very good at and on his way to mastery.
Not the kinda "intelligence" most guys think you should have, because you don't need to have an IQ of 180 or read 150 books (although that certainly is beneficial if you're passionate about certain topics).

 

[Throwaway01]

Re: What Mainstream advice considers to be the three most attractive traits in a

Before you blurt out random facts please provide some evidence;

What "mainstream advice"?
What "research done in evolutionary and sexual psychology"?

Human sexuality is viewed in many different ways, a structuralist , a humanist and an evolutionary psychologist will view these matters
in very different ways. So please provide some evidence before mentioning different schools of psychology.

Also there is no concrete singled out traits that are wholly accepted by all psychologists, there are different values and behaviours that
are debated to find out traits of attractiveness, such as facial symmetry. However these are all debated you can't just say THIS, THIS & THIS
makes you attractive as of yet.

Ok, so based on research done in evolutionary and sexual Psychology, the three most attractive traits to women (they are universal across cultures) are,
1. Kindness
2. Intelligence
3. Sense of Humor

Kindness I can understand ( note: 'Kindness" does not mean pussy nice guy...if you analyze him more carefully, you'll uncover that he's actually not kind at all), sense of humor is also important assuming you're not an entertainer/comedian type guy who's just tryharding. But what about intelligence? I haven't really heard GC talk much about it.
But I have noticed that most men I know who are successful with women are intelligent. In fact, as far as I can tell, not one of the authors or higher level board members here lack intelligence. So it seems like its probably pretty accurate to say that its sexy. But we never really talk about it in articles. What do you guys think?

No, you can meet alot of people who have all three of these traits and may not be satisfied with their romantic lives. Alot of factors come into play in this;
the sociological factors involved in where he lives, lack of interest in romantic affairs, etc.

You can't just single out personality traits of people to say something like well all girls will swoon over that person cause, that's what they're supposed to?
You'd be surprised to hear about the romantic lives of comedians and models.

I'd suppose it would mostly boil down to a persons interest in having romantic affairs rather than the superflous details.

 

[Zoro]

Re: What Mainstream advice considers to be the three most attractive traits in a

Translated from Womanese.

1. Kindness -> Normal/Socially Calibrated/Not a Serial Killer
2. Intelligence -> Dominance/Able to Provide/Experienced
3. Sense of Humor -> Chemistry/Sexual/Bold

 

[Orelfius]

Re: What Mainstream advice considers to be the three most attractive traits in a

Translated from Womanese.

1. Kindness -> Normal/Socially Calibrated/Not a Serial Killer
2. Intelligence -> Dominance/Able to Provide/Experienced
3. Sense of Humor -> Chemistry/Sexual/Bold

Let's have fun! My take on this:
1. Confidence -> He will do the job so something will happen at all.
2. Kindness -> He's sensitive to my needs, he truly understand them AND is ready to meet them.
2. Intelligence -> Have expérience and ambition and know how to use both to gras significant social status success.
3. Sense of Humor -> Chemistry/Sexual/Bold

I add up confidence because it's really ubiquitous in mainstream dating advices.

 

[Dylostaa]

Re: What Mainstream advice considers to be the three most attractive traits in a

I don't find the analytical and logical intelligence side does much too help UNLESS you are so smoothed out that you can use it too your own advantage OR it's very, very high, you stand out and the girls is digging it as something novel. I mean just look at the stereotypes (where there is smoke there is fire, you'll find many too be true). HOWEVER you can use this intelligence to build a life for yourself, too be happy with your own path and the having a life, a path, a direction and a goal that you are working towards will be the cause of much attraction especially over-time.

 

[Jason]

Re: What Mainstream advice considers to be the three most attractive traits in a

Translated from Womanese.

1. Kindness -> Normal/Socially Calibrated/Not a Serial Killer
2. Intelligence -> Dominance/Able to Provide/Experienced
3. Sense of Humor -> Chemistry/Sexual/Bold

You've got it. Excellent post.

 

[Jason]

Re: What Mainstream advice considers to be the three most attractive traits in a

Let's have fun! My take on this:
1. Confidence -> He will do the job so something will happen at all.
2. Kindness -> He's sensitive to my needs, he truly understand them AND is ready to meet them.
2. Intelligence -> Have expérience and ambition and know how to use both to gras significant social status success.
3. Sense of Humor -> Chemistry/Sexual/Bold

I add up confidence because it's really ubiquitous in mainstream dating advices.

Another great post.

 

[Frost]

Re: What Mainstream advice considers to be the three most attractive traits in a

I think what they mean by intelligence is like being street smart, which could be: not being a total idiot, catching hidden meanings on the fly, fast to think, more like the practical intelligence.

 

[Dylostaa]

Re: What Mainstream advice considers to be the three most attractive traits in a

I think what they mean by intelligence is like being street smart, which could be: not being a total idiot, catching hidden meanings on the fly, fast to think, more like the practical intelligence.

Sounds a lot like emotional intelligence

 

[Frost]

Re: What Mainstream advice considers to be the three most attractive traits in a

I think what they mean by intelligence is like being street smart, which could be: not being a total idiot, catching hidden meanings on the fly, fast to think, more like the practical intelligence.

Sounds a lot like emotional intelligence

Isn't emotional intelligence the ability to understand and control your emotions?

 

[Anonymous]

Re: What Mainstream advice considers to be the three most attractive traits in a

Emotional intelligence is also the capacity to empathize and understand other people (i.e. putting yourself in that person's shoes and understanding them better, feeling or trying to feel what they experience)

I would also say that intelligence is not simply knowledge and resourcefulness in the traditional sense, but also social intelligence: the ability to navigate social situations, lead, make relationships, maintain relationships, social awareness and social grace, utilizing social proof, influence over others.

When I've asked women what traits they look for in a man, these are the most common: (my interpretation of their descriptions and a reduction of what they are saying)

Leadership
Social Intelligence/Dominance
Emotional Intelligence/ Empathy

Women want men who are good decision makers and have purpose (leadership), they want a man who is respected and can handle social situations (social intelligence) and they want a man who understands them and takes their feelings into consideration (emotional intelligence).

 

[Zoro]

Re: What Mainstream advice considers to be the three most attractive traits in a

Women want men who are good decision makers and have purpose (leadership), they want a man who is respected and can handle social situations (social intelligence) and they want a man who understands them and takes their feelings into consideration (emotional intelligence).

This right here, jives with my experiences. Well said!