What Should I Do With My LIFE/FREE Time?

[LightMode324]

So, yeah that sound a little bit random, but I'm open for advice. Don't be afraid I won't do something I have zero interest in. I made a post about university and friends...some time ago and I'm fine, I still have no real friends only acquaintances or study buddies, as long as I'm in university the people are friendly, we laugh even though I don't really "click" with anybody = it's fine.

What I want to discuss this time is the "free time" I have. It's not about what I will do with my life or something like that, since I can't really know that, but it's more about, what could I try to do which is productive and maybe will be a great experience later and pay back, makes my life a little bit more exciting, trying new things. Since I have some time on my hands and don't really often go to parties or spend time with my 3 hot girlfriends, even if I would want to (since I'm single).
I could do something great, right?, like many other people before me?



Some backstory: #
I'm 19, just moved to a new city for university, live alone in a nice little room, am tall and look good in a fit manly short hair (military)-way , not pretty boy justin b. "twillight" way.
Problem: I'm just not that exciting, women talk to me and all but when they notice I'm not so (how they thought) "cool" or just a first year, they lose interest in bars and clubs.
Maybe because I attract these well..outgoing hot girls who are nice..but since I'm not so outgoing, can't tell them yeah cool that you were at this concert and 1 year in africa and also dace., yet I can't really compete, they just have more experiences are even more independent than me sometimes, because they work.

I'm a young man just started university. Since I moved to a new city I made many acquaintances. I study much of the time, but I also have some "free time" on my hands. At the moment I waste that free time by surfing the web, playing games on pc and xbox, watching adult clips ;P and just watching tv or watching other people through my window, late at night... -.-' ("okay the last sounded a little bit creepy.., but you get the picture). Often I feel like I could do more, I'm not dumb,I always see the big picture and I see so many things others do not, like many here also.

Only that my personality was alawys a little bit of a problem since I am introverted and was shy when I was a teen also a little bit afraid to go outside, or just loved my computer + house too much, not sure. I mean, it was not all bad, I probably wouldn't be able to think so deep I do now and also would be not so interested in reading books, philosophy, and staying out of trouble...considering that I had many problems when I was younger, but was better in school than other teens with similar problems at my age, so this personality is at the same time the reason I am at university and never got myself in serious trouble as teen.

When I was a teen I almost never "x" decided to do something outstanding because I was shy, I never even thought about travelling about part-time jobs or just starting modelling or acting, dancing, singing. Nobody of my friends did it, well I didn't live in a city btw..
Even though I was maybe smarter than some other guys or bigger I was quiet or not really open to talk with other people or take part in parties (where I didn't knew most people ) and such things. I was just happy with my best friends and did not want to meet other people, I had no need to go to parties, since I had a GF, good sex.., so I never met new people through my own actions. From 16-18)
People were coming to me at that time...friends, GF..and so on.

--->after losing contact and breaking up I ended up -->kinda alone up to now.




Well back to topic:

I have much free time and I'm not shy anymore:


I feel when I talk with other people,NOW, that they have all the experiences and I don't, I seem not boring, but normal talking with them even though they aren't "so" great, but they can talk about 1-year in canada or australia or brazil,sweden , they Facebook pages can also talk for them, they can talk about their GF, about their part-time job as bartender or party stories, while I have a lillte to say about these topics. Some people I know are even models...not perfect ones, but their had some pictures taken and got money for it + 20 facebook pictures. Women seem to have even more experiences, and the normal or boring women seem not interested in me or I don't meet them..

Well, again: not everybody is like this..just the crowd with whom I comparing myself to and I talk to, there are also some people who don't want to do something out of the ordinary,also did not travel or party much and so on, I'm not like this, so I don't see myself like them.

When I think about it I wonder how it came to be, that I never thought about even trying to do acting or work as a model for some cover or something like that, or just something I guess its because I grew up in a town where there was not much from that...and never thought I could do that too.

This is different now, tho I feel like I just awaked and should also do some things like that, not to impress but to get some experiences!



Now with free time on my hands and as student I can travel where I want. In big citys and take part in acting or modelling casting or something like this, these are just examples ..i'm not "that" pretty its about taking action. What else? Should I start an youtube channel? Try to get in tv or ...I don't know, actually I would like to see some opinions.

I would like to do something new, and something a little bit more outstanding and special, because I want to break out of my shell.When I don't like it I can still quit,well I still haveto study most of the time tho so it can't be too intensive.
Some advice?
or something you wanna say,
what are you working on?
what are you doing, to not only be one of many?
what are you doing to up your social value, besides being the "life of the party" or one of the "cool guys" just because he has a big social circle, money or looks?

 

[MisterX]

LightMode324, I feel like you're more talking about having more interests and life experience. And you don't have enough things you've experienced/seen to be able to talk on a variety of topics with friends.

I'm 22 btw and I'll just share some of the things that I do.

You just need to do more things. For example I love movies and have watched every single horror/psycho movie ever made. I love music and listed to a lot of rock/ punk bands also I love dubstep and listen to a lot of dj's. I read some very cool books (but only when I have time to kill like if I'm traveling on a train or bus).
I love cars LOVE THEM. I can talk for hours about it and a few friends and I recently bough a mitsubishi from the 90s that is barely running for 500$ that is a perfect model for fixing up. We've made a list of 50+ parts that we need and purchased them for 1500-2000$ and when they arrive soon we'll start working on it to get it running again and specifically tune it to be race and drift ready(Japanese cars from the 90s and early 2000s are absolutely the best for tuning for drift, etc). And it's unbelievably much fun to do it - a bunch of friends working on a car for a few weeks and there have actually been like 20-30 guys who volunteered to join and help, just cause we men love cars and it might be a start of like a club with lots of cool people that we fix up cars.

I also love traveling and try to travel to a different country once per month. Since I live in Europe it's cheap and easy - like traveling to a different state in the US, and we don't need passports. Only your ID, some cash, a train ticket a bag with some clothes and you can spend 2-3-4 days in Italy or France or Germany, etc. You can do it for 400-500$ for 3-4 days no problem. And it's always a cool experience.

I also work out every day for about an hour of lifting weights. And have a bunch of friends that we're really into hiking mountains with tents Bear Grills style. We start one early morning with a 1-2 hours train ride to get to were the mountain is then start hiking up, then set up tents where there are lots of other hikers spreading tents. Spend a great night and then the next morning spend some time and go back.

At winter we go skiing/snowboarding which is also great - get with a group of friends and rent a cabin for 1-2 days.

When the summer comes we go to the sea side - it's a 2.5 hour drive from the capital, where I live.
I also have a group of friend that we go to casinos and play poker/blackjack/roulette. Since when we were 16 in highschool we were really into it, we go fake IDs and started playing the casinos every single day for 7-8 hours when we were supposed to be at school or after school. We were making pretty good money like 10 grand a month per person, not bad for a bunch of 16 year olds. But remember poker is 80-90% skill and 10-20% pure luck, while blackjack and roulette are basically luck. So poker is more for playing with opponents and beating them while blackjack and roulette are more for an adrenaline rush/thrill betting and wandering if you'll win or not and getting happy when you actually do hit it big. And the big plus is that in the casinos the food and drinks are free so you can just have fun. Just don't get addicted if you lose. Remember if you consistently make money like we did there is no problem but if you just lose and lose money you should't go.

I also love playing tennis and go with a friends a few times a week to play - we pay 10-15$ per hour for the court and usually 2 hours is enough to be completely exhausted.


I'm not a big club going kind of guy but we do make house parties with 20 friends. Drink, light up a hookah, maybe some weed and just have fun.


This summer a few friends and I found a great deal on skydiving (with a site kinda like groupon).


I'm also really into krav maga and a training with weapons. So I go 3 times per week to do sparrings and at a gun club to shoot with guns.

I also go to a yoga class 3 times per week. Great for relaxing and the class is basically me and 20 other girls that are not the same every day.








Basically my point is that you should go and do activities. This is a way to find new friends. If you're into hiking - go to a hiking group/club and you'll meet new friends. If you're into traveling - find cheap trips to Europe or inside the US or else, you're usually with a group of other people and you'll make friends. If you're into movies join a movie club. If you're into working out start going to a gym 3-6 times per week and soon you're be friends with the other regulars. If you're into cars and fixind them find a car-fixing club or sth like that. If you're into tennis you can join a tennis club and learn to play and become friends with the people there. If you're into martial arts join a club and you'll soon become friend with the other people there when you become a regular.



You can just search online for croups/clubs that are into the same things that interest you. There are sites like meetup.com or just google. Also look at the clubs/croups in your school/university. If you're into it join the sports team or photography club.

And definitely browse through groupon and such other sites and look for great deals for unexpected activities. Like if you find skydiving for 100-200$ just go for it. And as I said look for cheat trips to Europe or other states in the US - you can really easily google for "best deals for trips to Europe/US" and go for it. If you have the money go once every month or once every 3-4-6 months.



You can also start an online business. If you can program or have programmer friends - make a smartphone app - some cool game it takes almost no money to create it and if you do good you can actually make some money.
Or start a youtube channel about a topic you're familiar with or a comedy channel where you make people laugh, or a top 10 list/ 25 facts kind of channel or reviewing stuff channel. You'll meet lots of new people that way - if you grow your channel to have tens of thousands of subscribers - that's thousands of people you can talk with on social media platforms and organise meet ups and make lots of friends. You could also start a blog about the topic, but youtube is easier and you only need a camera/smartphone camera/webcam and free video editing software.


Just figure out what you really want to do. Ask yourself if you had 10-100 million and you never had to worry about money or getting a job what would you do? Traveling, making music, painting, creating something. And go for it.


One last tip - leave your headphones at home. It you're at the gym or hiking or doing some other activity and you have your headphones in you ears and you listen to music - you'll get closed off in your world and won't meet any new cool people. If you leave them at home you'll be more observant of others, people would approach you easily - to just start a conversation with you.



It's a bit long of a post, but I hope it helps you. If you have any questions just ask and I'll answer what I can.



- X