What the hell is the difference ?????

[DKD]

I once had an interaction with a girl where I texted her the night I met her and got no reply.

Then I called her a day later, and got no answer. I shot her a text in lieu of leaving a voicemail, and she texted back apologizing for not answer but saying she hadn't realized it was me.

A few days later, I tried calling her again. Again, no answer. I texted her again, and again she texted back later.

One week after first meeting her, I called her. Again, no answer. I left a voicemail. She called me back, complained that she had nothing to do that night, and I invited her over to have dinner and drinks with me in my apartment, and a few hours after she came over, I took her as my lover.

Persistence. It's the difference between the men who want it -- and get it -- and the men who don't.

Can someone please throw light on the difference between persistence, and coming off as needy. I'll be honest. When I read Chase's article, this entire part, I thought he was coming off as needy, but then he used the word persistent. That has got me all confused. What is the difference between being persistent and needy when it comes to girls ??

I'm new at this, so do forgive me if this is a stupid question.

Cheers.

 

[Tyme2k]

I think this is something that takes a long time to calibrate. Sometimes you push it too far, sometimes not enough. I believe eventually and once you have abundance this becames easier and natural. Not worth wrapping your head around.

In this specific situation you called instead of sending needy texts, this put you in her thoughts. She then had a free night and told you right then. Easy pickings. Sometimes this happens other times it doesn't. I have not yet completely figured it out, but with time and experience comes clarity.