What to do after being a jerk? / Sex

[Lawliet]

Hey seducer bros,

Got two questions today!

As you might know, I've came across scenarios where I ask compliance, and push for it like a jerk.
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1. What should we do after being a jerk? (breaking social rule / asking too much compliance and get no)

2. What should we do when we pushed a girl off the edge with tension?
Ex. Escalation too soon

Thanks,
Lawliet

 

[ray_zorse]

Well firstly stop obsessing over this one interaction, a year-long flirtation by Facebook Messenger is no reliable yardstick and does not generalize into how you should act in situations. In that thread I advised not to refer to the drama and your response was "should I just apologize then", I mean NO, don't refer to it haha.

BUT, yes we often act like a jerk especially when we are getting calibrated. According to Chase, when you realize you fucked up, own it, but don't supplicate. Avoid the word sorry and instead say something along the lines "I realize that I acted like a jerk and made you uncomfortable, I shouldn't have done that". And then, try to turn the negative into a positive: "Let me make it up to you by buying you an icecream. Let's go" and grab her hand and lead her to the icecream shop. But obviously this has to be done in the moment you realize you fucked up, if you overthink it/bring up past fuckups it shows you're overinvested -> unattractive.

Guys who correctly acknowledge their fuckups without supplicating are pretty rare and it should be a big attraction booster. Her emotions go down and up -> she becomes more mentally invested in you. I often find that after conflict with my girlfriend that I handle correctly, she becomes much happier and more compliant.

Ray

 

[Flames]

You need to be 80% jerk and 20% nice.

What I mean with that is never apologise or supplicate, but occasionally drop the nice guy in there. Especially when she does something you like/want.

If she gets upset at something you did then that's her problem not yours. Remember that, sometimes she might not even be upset she's just throwing a shit-test at you and/or having a bad day.

If she's completely in uncompliant then drop her until she is.

Sounds harsh but thems the rules

 

[Lawliet]

Hey bros, thanks for the quality stuff. Thanks for that elaboration Ray. Just saw this now. And thanks flames for that hard and solid truth about setting hard rules for all.

What about escalating and she pulls away?
Going too much too soon. Sex related

Lawliet

 

[Estate]

Lawliet,
The question is very vague... can you expand on the situation you are experiencing frequently to give more context?

For example. If you were to meet someone after a few drinks and we're feeling a little bold. If the next time you meet you are sober and "Mr. Nice" it's going to be odd for her.

 

[Lawliet]

Lawliet,
The question is very vague... can you expand on the situation you are experiencing frequently to give more context?

For example. If you were to meet someone after a few drinks and we're feeling a little bold. If the next time you meet you are sober and "Mr. Nice" it's going to be odd for her.

Well to elaborate, I've come across a couple girls who seemed really warm to me, and was asking me questions, trying to keep the conversation going. Then, I teased them (still calibrating my teases) and suddenly they act cold. They move away and socialize with their friends. So I thought that was hilarious.

Or sometimes when we insult them unintentionally etc. is what I meant.

What about the sex?
Escalating too fast! Touching her and she pulls away!

More elaboration!
I was teasing this girl, "Are you ok?" and put my hand on her forehead but she backs up.

What should we do here after she resists to escalation / touch?

Lawliet