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As a new poster here, I have to say I'm grateful that I've found all these articles to read. Before I begin, I'd like to give some background.
I'm a 23 year old, employed as an AT&T Tech Support Agent. I work five days a week, from 3:00 to Midnight. Furthermore, for all my life I've been a Nice Guy. Nervous? Check. Awkward? Check. Waiting for the perfect girl? Check. I'm the guy who will become friendzoned and hardly show up front and willing commitment to a woman. The unfortunate part with this is I've been content with this until now. I realize I'm gonna have to be more of a risktaker in order to get what I want.
So I've decided to work on my conversation skills, and slowly get rid of that approach anxiety. For practice, I decided to talk to a woman at my job. She's not skinny, but her weight is in the right places for me. We've flirted with each other for a number of days, and I don't see it as more than just flirting to make the job less stressful, but I do like her. Problem is it's at work and we don't sit next to each other. In fact she recently started sitting all alone by herself to avoid getting teased by two of her guy friends (at least that's what her friends told me), so the best I could do is, while on the clock, talk to her in a chatroom. The obvious problem with this is everything we do on the computer is recorded and the higher ups can see this, so flirting outright was a big no-no. So I had to bring up a subject and use "politically correct" words to get a conversation going (it was about Game of Thrones), then eventually I popped the question "We should talk more about this off the clock".
She said "Maybe".
Okay, as I learned here "Maybe" is most likely a polite way of saying "No", so I deescalated the tension with a joke and our conversation went on as normal. I decided to not pop the question again because I felt making her nervous during work would've been bad, but ever since I asked that, she has been a lot more flirty with me when she passes by my cubicle. She works to get my attention even when I'm engaged in conversation with callers, and she leans closer to me. Just overall more "bubbly".
In the moment, my thought process was "I gave her a show of interest, now I'll just wait and see how it escalates on it's own". The problem here is at the end of the day, I'm not sure how to look at it. She is naturally flirty, so maybe I just brightened up her day and want(ed) more reception from me. Or maybe I'm missing the "green light" she's trying to signal, or maybe this is all just a normal day and I'm making a big deal out of nothing.
Right now, I'm using my two days off to work on being more attractive, but as far as the aforementioned girl goes, should I persist?
I'm a 23 year old, employed as an AT&T Tech Support Agent. I work five days a week, from 3:00 to Midnight. Furthermore, for all my life I've been a Nice Guy. Nervous? Check. Awkward? Check. Waiting for the perfect girl? Check. I'm the guy who will become friendzoned and hardly show up front and willing commitment to a woman. The unfortunate part with this is I've been content with this until now. I realize I'm gonna have to be more of a risktaker in order to get what I want.
So I've decided to work on my conversation skills, and slowly get rid of that approach anxiety. For practice, I decided to talk to a woman at my job. She's not skinny, but her weight is in the right places for me. We've flirted with each other for a number of days, and I don't see it as more than just flirting to make the job less stressful, but I do like her. Problem is it's at work and we don't sit next to each other. In fact she recently started sitting all alone by herself to avoid getting teased by two of her guy friends (at least that's what her friends told me), so the best I could do is, while on the clock, talk to her in a chatroom. The obvious problem with this is everything we do on the computer is recorded and the higher ups can see this, so flirting outright was a big no-no. So I had to bring up a subject and use "politically correct" words to get a conversation going (it was about Game of Thrones), then eventually I popped the question "We should talk more about this off the clock".
She said "Maybe".
Okay, as I learned here "Maybe" is most likely a polite way of saying "No", so I deescalated the tension with a joke and our conversation went on as normal. I decided to not pop the question again because I felt making her nervous during work would've been bad, but ever since I asked that, she has been a lot more flirty with me when she passes by my cubicle. She works to get my attention even when I'm engaged in conversation with callers, and she leans closer to me. Just overall more "bubbly".
In the moment, my thought process was "I gave her a show of interest, now I'll just wait and see how it escalates on it's own". The problem here is at the end of the day, I'm not sure how to look at it. She is naturally flirty, so maybe I just brightened up her day and want(ed) more reception from me. Or maybe I'm missing the "green light" she's trying to signal, or maybe this is all just a normal day and I'm making a big deal out of nothing.
Right now, I'm using my two days off to work on being more attractive, but as far as the aforementioned girl goes, should I persist?
