What to do when fwb wants to go out?

[Sub-Zero]

I recently lost a fwb because i refused to do anything other than fuck. We fucked, sex was good, and she always wanted to see me after that, but she wanted to go out. I told her let's just chill at home, and she keeps saying she had a great time last time, but that is not all that she is looking for.

So we stopped talking because i wanted to do what i wanted to do. Think i was wrong? Any thing i could of done differently?

 

[Troy]

We fucked, sex was good, and she always wanted to see me after that,

Good job on the sex part. You gave her awesome sex and she kept looking for more. +1Money

but that is not all that she is looking for.

Ask her what she is looking for, maybe she wants you as a boyfriend, or a friend (she can continue to fuck). This is a power struggle, you want one thing and she wants another thing. So either you give her what she wants or she gives you what you want. When you find out what she wants then you will know how to move forward. What if she wants you as a boyfriend (why she wants to go out with you) and you only want to keep her in the fwb position? You might have to let her go and find a another one who wants the same thing.

she wanted to go out.

If you did the above steps and she says " we just go get food " I'd say go out with her. What's the harm in that? You are the man and if she does /wants something you don't want then let her go. I don't see the sense in wasting a woman's time if I am not ready for a commited relationship. If that is the case, smile and get another girl more compatible.

Troy