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What to do when you are a late bloomer virign who have game?

Witcher

Cro-Magnon Man
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Hi

Don't be fooled by the title, it's not the illusion of competance.

I'm speaking here about me and other who could be in the same case, because i don't find answers in any article on girls chase ( something very rare cause every aspect of seduction/dating is treated). And ihope that we will find a solution and process to deal with it. What i'm spekaing about ?

Late blooming and late verginity.

Look i'm now in my mind twenties, but i'm still a virign and never realy have a "girlfriend" or had "first kiss". I have friends female friends girls who with i "flirt" etc etc. And even if i study game and know who to use some of it in real time i can't get past the "romancer" stage. i have also my own caracter (talkative vibe little teasfull , as robert Downey Jr) do and a life and hobbies. So i dont have great probleme to make some girls "attarcted/interested " in me and this pretty easily. But i still cant get past that, and have girls also go on auto rejection or loose simply interest.

i think that deep down , even if i'm a pretty confident guy in life situation, i have this compelxe of inexperience holding me back because girls of my age have some or many experience and i do'nt how to handle it if he "closing" and "seduction" part comes. And the fear of loosing face make the job!!!!

So i want to know what would be the best solution to go when you are in my situation, what sould be the best process to fellow?

-Losing veriginiyt quickly with an escrot?
-Try tio have a girlfirend the "traditional way" first just to get some training?

So if anyone here had a solution ad ideas for people in this case. because i thinbg the game/communication skills are not the thing to work one, because even if i handle some of them nad fundmentals this inexperience hold back.
 

Lord Byron

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Witcher,

I wouldn't let your virginity become an excuse for not improving your fundamentals and game. Many guys around who are older than you will also be virgins. If it's a really big deal for you, an escort may be the way to go to get it out of your system. However, each day that you put off improving yourself is going to be a day regretted in the long-term.

Be proactive with your situation. If, from what it sounds like, your stumbling block is the period of time between having women attracted and closing things out with her, focus on that area! Build yourself a process that you can consistently test and refine, and see what works and what doesn't work with getting her into bed with you. I can guarantee that if you intentionally focus on what to do between getting her from attracted to you and sleeping with you, you'll get it sorted.

Don't fall victim to a virgin-victim mentality. The first few times you escalate, things may not go so smoothly. But if you continue to work at it, you'll get there and be giving her an unforgettable sexual experience. Just don't use being a virgin as an excuse to not improve and transform yourself into someone more desirable. Your case is the same as a 20 year old virgin, plus a few more years. Being in your mid twenties isn't a special case. You're more experienced at life and probably have advantages over a younger man, so don't let your age get in the way of working things out.

I think this article would benefit you: https://www.girlschase.com/content/tappi ... -new-girls

Keep on keeping on,
Lord Byron
 

Drck

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In my opinion, it is all relative. It just might be your personality, maybe you are just a loner who doesn't really desire company of woman. Maybe you have high expectations from girls.

How much does it bother you that you haven't slept with woman? If too much, go with escort, get it out of your system.

If not that much, don't push yourself. Take it easy, slowly. Go to strip bar, talk to girls in there. Get a massage couple of times. Start dating different women. You don't have to move too fast with the girl, it is just dating, just talking, doing things together until you get more comfortable. Don't look at seduction as if it was fast race to nail that girl.

If you are anxious, work on relaxation, meditation. If you have social anxiety, go between people, work on assertiveness.

Some people also might have deep guilt about sexuality, or they are ashamed of their body. If that is the case, try to change it. Go to the beach, go to the pool, learn to walk with just swim suit between people. I know most people probably hate bodybuilding, but imagine what kind of confidence a guy must have to step up almost naked in front of hundreds of people and pose, show his body. Not everyone can do that even with good looking body.

IMO you need much more exposure to girls than seduction knowledge...
 

PrettyDecent

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Hey Witcher,

What it sounds like to me is you're getting girls interested, but you're not sleeping with them, yeah?

Are you inviting girls home with you? And are you physically escalating with said girls when they're in your home?

This is your remedy: invite girls home. Eventually you'll find a girl who digs you enough to go home with you, and will be receptive to sex. Invite those girls who you're getting interest from.

~Nick
 

Witcher

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PrettyDecent said:
Hey Witcher,

What it sounds like to me is you're getting girls interested, but you're not sleeping with them, yeah?

Are you inviting girls home with you? And are you physically escalating with said girls when they're in your home?

This is your remedy: invite girls home. Eventually you'll find a girl who digs you enough to go home with you, and will be receptive to sex. Invite those girls who you're getting interest from.

~Nick
Yes you got it Pretty, but the i will make it a little clearer :

For the home, it's a little tricky , i live in north afrcia and people livre in their parents home util their thirthies, and for girls its when they marry someone, and most of the times they can't go out the night.

But tthe probleme is not here, i have difficulty with the closing parts, Kissing, Escalating, sexual vibing. It seems because fo my inexperience i feel creepy and don't know how to do them in smooth manner. i Dont knbow how to act sexual wihtout beign creepy. And most of the girls i "attract" are from my social circle. And i always thing tha if i miss, things could go in some bad directions.
And for cold aproache , i have a little probleme too, i think to myself , ok i attarct her , close her, but hiow do i will proceed when i the kissing time comes? I know this is bullshit , because i will not gain experience if i dont practice, bu my pride always win, i thuink it alos about having a sarcity mentality.

Ais i told you , i'm most of the times cofident, i have my hibbies and life, and i'm niot chump!!

I want to know the best process that i should fellow o get out of this.
 

Witcher

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Any other advices about kissing, sexual esclalation for my case?
 

PrettyDecent

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Nope. Just go do it ;)

~Nick
 
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Witcher

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I was reading the article on male verginity
http://themodernsavage.com/2008/09/30/t ... e-virgins/

and i foudn this quote that resume my mental blocage around dating and seduction:

This girl really likes me and I really like her. She’s an amazing person and definitely long term relationship material, quite possibly THE ONE. I know that if I asked her, we could be dating right now… but, herein lies the problem. I’ve never had sex with anyone and if I end up Marrying this girl then I will have only had sex with one woman my entire life. I want to at least have sex with multiple women in my life. Therefore, I will not pursue this girl until I’ve had sex with other women.

Any help about how to get over this posenous mindset?
 
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