Sir! Me and my girlfriend had almost a prefect relationship. And what i knew that she liked me more than i liked her. And sometimes she wanted to have sex more than i wanted. But, one time she fall ill, she had a fever, so we couldn't have any sexual activity for almost 15 days. And after that, first she start being shy with me, then, not wanting to have sex for a while. And then clearly stated not to have sex anymore. Whenever we talk about love, romance, she still agrees that i still love her a lot. But when it comes to sex, she behaves like i am the most unknown person for her in the world. Please tell me what would be the possible reasons behind it, and what i can do to keep my relation.?
what to do when your girlfriend stop liking sex with you?
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She's not sexually attracted to you anymore.
That means you fucked up somewhere. Without more information it's hard to say exactly where you fucked up. If you write a detailed report of what happened and when, then I am sure that myself or some other member will be able to point it out to you. But in general what happens is guys get needy and dependent and fail to lead. Women only like strong, dominant, independent men. So if she stops having sex with you, it can be a test basically. If you act like you don't care then this wins you a lot of points. If you begin to supplicate then this loses you a lot of points.
The right thing to do when she stops having sex with you is either (1) cut her off or (2) persist to sex. This latter option, which I have used often with success, takes a fair bit of calibration, because you won't want to be accused of making her do something she doesn't want to do. However, it can be the only way to pass her tests sometimes. If you attempt to negotiate then you automatically look weak, needy and supplicating. It's also never a good idea to get into a logical discussion about why she should have sex with you (and it sounds like you've been doing this).
Another possibility is she's withholding sex as a manipulative device. See this article.
Anyway, it's not recoverable from here. NEXT and move on.
Ray
That means you fucked up somewhere. Without more information it's hard to say exactly where you fucked up. If you write a detailed report of what happened and when, then I am sure that myself or some other member will be able to point it out to you. But in general what happens is guys get needy and dependent and fail to lead. Women only like strong, dominant, independent men. So if she stops having sex with you, it can be a test basically. If you act like you don't care then this wins you a lot of points. If you begin to supplicate then this loses you a lot of points.
The right thing to do when she stops having sex with you is either (1) cut her off or (2) persist to sex. This latter option, which I have used often with success, takes a fair bit of calibration, because you won't want to be accused of making her do something she doesn't want to do. However, it can be the only way to pass her tests sometimes. If you attempt to negotiate then you automatically look weak, needy and supplicating. It's also never a good idea to get into a logical discussion about why she should have sex with you (and it sounds like you've been doing this).
Another possibility is she's withholding sex as a manipulative device. See this article.
Anyway, it's not recoverable from here. NEXT and move on.
Ray
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What I do to not get in this situation is I make the relationship very sexual, but in a smart way. You don't get anywhere by saying "I'm horney", your wording should be "You make me so horney!" or "When you walk around in that outfit, you just makes me so hard.." Implement this with a strong leadership and it should help. So if the problem is that she doesn't feel sexy anymore, this can help. Also, if you're bad in bed (by making it all about you), then she doesn't feel like having sex because it feels like a chore. Try asking if you can go down on her, because you like to watch her have an orgasm. (Don't have to be true, but it could help. Personally I love watching women scream out of their lungs because of me.) You didn't give that much information, so it's hard to say what the reason is. But most times it's because the girl feel neglected in the bedroom, you don't lead well or she has a problem with her self image. Telling her she's pretty or beautiful won't help, you have to make it sexual. The drawback of this is that she can get the feeling that you only think about sex, if you take it too far. There's a lot of articles on leading and how to be good in bed on this site, so you won't have a problem finding information on that.
I would at least give this a try before dumping her if you really like this girl. If all fail, leave her. There's enough guys not having sex in relationship, don't be one of them.
-TC
I would at least give this a try before dumping her if you really like this girl. If all fail, leave her. There's enough guys not having sex in relationship, don't be one of them.
-TC
You need to provide more detail on the beginning of the relationship and up to that point. Otherwise no one can help you, we are in the dark here.
This reminds me of something that happened to a guy. His girlfriend stopped fucking him because she had found another, newer cock, and "it's not really cheating if I don't have sex with both of them". Could this be what is happening here? Maybe. Probably not though. As I said we have no way to tell.
In any case the most likely best course of action would be to next, apart if the problem is a serious medical condition.
This reminds me of something that happened to a guy. His girlfriend stopped fucking him because she had found another, newer cock, and "it's not really cheating if I don't have sex with both of them". Could this be what is happening here? Maybe. Probably not though. As I said we have no way to tell.
In any case the most likely best course of action would be to next, apart if the problem is a serious medical condition.
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Maybe she got an STD cuz she banged someone on the side.
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ray_zorse said:
This.
There's something out there called "Beta-ization" and a key part of this is when in a committed relationship a woman starts to lose interest in, and gets bored, of having sex with the man she's committed to. She'll make excuses to not have sex that are non-medical. Medical reasons are of course ok, but if it's not medical and you don't nip it in the bud right away, you've given leeway for her to deny you sex further onwards in your relationship.