Socializing What to say when a girl asks "Why do you like me?"

[SomaRuiz]

I've had girls ask me this before. I know it's a test but I have no idea how to respond.

Something like "I just like you for who you are", or "you don't ask the heart for an explanation", etc... Doesn't seem convincing to them. And I kind of feel like saying something that they don't see in themselves or that everybody tells them is just as unconvincing. Like if I say she's pretty, for example.

Maybe it's an attainability thing, like if they think I'm out of their league, they start to wonder why I'm even talking to them when I could be talking to a "more special" girl. In which case I guess it would be like the example in the "When women test men" article where she says "What are your intentions with me?" or something like that. But I don't know either how to adapt the response in that article for the question I mentioned.

So, is there a good general answer, or do I need to know the girl and what they like hearing?

 

[pks391]

"Your eyes have this(small pause) enchanting allure to them" give her a sexy smile and look into her eyes while saying it
"There is an air of adventure/uniqueness about you, its just a sense, i cannot put it to words"
You could also mention any quality which stands out in her. But you would have to be a good observer for that.

 

[SomaRuiz]

Okay, that's good, but it doesn't answer what I asked about what if it's a quality she doesn't like/see in herself? Is there a way to tell?

For example, I know a girl who has somewhat of a high-pitched voice. I really like it because I think it's cute, but she says she sounds like a 13 year old. Should I bring it up if she asks why I like her?

 

[pks391]

Okay, that's good, but it doesn't answer what I asked about what if it's a quality she doesn't like/see in herself? Is there a way to tell?

For example, I know a girl who has somewhat of a high-pitched voice. I really like it because I think it's cute, but she says she sounds like a 13 year old. Should I bring it up if she asks why I like her?

You need a bit of practice to develop this skill. You should be able to observe something in a girl which sets her apart from the rest, to the extent where it becomes natural for you. Like Chase's article on the 'Cold Read' concept.
It also involves saying it in a way which makes her feel like "Yeah wow, i knew i was _____ but he noticed it.....hes good."
Having a way with words...
Like for instance, the girl you spoke of with the high pitched voice.....you could frame the sentence like......you have a very cute voice.....have you ever tried doing a voice over? acted in a drama???? you would make a cute character in a play....

 

[Richard]

Her: "Why do you like me?"
Me: "I haven't made up my mind that I do yet."

Playful tone, a head-cock, and smile.

 

[Zoro]

Depends on the mood at the moment and what kind of relationship you want. I'll assume this is not a casual or FWB relationship.

If it's fun and light hearted I might say...

"Like you? Wait you think I like you?!" In a teasingly way

Or

"Mmm dat ass!" And spank and grab her ass like a cave man.

If she asks again and/or it's a serious curiosity, you'll want to address it because she may be concerned about her value to you.

So I might talk about whatever we connect on emotionally, because that's genuinely what will attract me to a woman in a way she can relate.

I might also talk about attractive qualities she has like eating well, takes care of herself, embraces her femininity, etc.

I'd probably cap it off with a sexual remark once I feel shes satisfied with the answer to keep it light hearted and communicate sexuality is definitely an attractive part of her.

 

[SomaRuiz]

Okay, I think I get the idea.

Though this was coming more from an instance when I told the girl outright that I liked her.

Should I still answer like you guys suggested or am I better off just not telling girls that at all?

 

[pks391]

Okay, I think I get the idea.

Though this was coming more from an instance when I told the girl outright that I liked her.

Should I still answer like you guys suggested or am I better off just not telling girls that at all?

Never start off by telling a girl you like her outright viz. "I Like You"
Your fundamentals i.e. your voice tone, body language, touch, eye contact and words should make this obvious to her. It should be implied to her that you like her this way.

 

[Seven heldens]

You essentially at this point have to qualify her, as she wants to know that you like her for more than her looks. Say something about her personality that you like, but you can also compliment something about her look that is not as sexual such as her eyes.

 

[Lawliet]

Anything flies actually.
Just not answering directly is key.
Depending on how secure the girl is with you, you can qualify her or you can tease her.

Secured Girl: Why do you like me?
Guy: (smile) Do I?

Insecured Girl: Why do you like me?
Guy: I like your walk, there's something about it that gives off an elegant stride that compliments your personality.

By the way, if a girl asks you this, prepare to move fast.
Probably not a high school thing, but she'll be ready if you play your cards right. Attraction is peaking.