What would an Arrogant man do in this situation?

[thedude]

After thinking on why I've been struggling in NYC I've determined a few things...

1) I didn't go through an arrogant confidence phase and because this I revert to being too considerate, too nice when I need to stand up and go hard for the thing I want even if it is at the expense of others(or appears to be).

2) Simple tactical screwups from shear laziness(specifically with texting), this will be fixed pretty easily

3) I lack a general, "warmness" that Hector describes in his latest videos about being "nice". A friend of mine has this and although he's 47 with gray hair he has lots of women into him(he hasn't been sleeping with many of them lately but he has his own adjustments to make)

On arrogance, this happened last night.

I was about to leave my friends and go home with my standby girl N from the bar we'd been at.

I see some coworkers from a job I was recently fired from I go say hi, a few words are exchanged.

Then one more coworker ends up behind me, her name is Stevie. She's an Obese lesbian cunt with a chip on her shoulder.

To get some insight on her character, see this short convo

Me: Man that black woman was beautiful
Stevie: Please don't womanize while I'm here

She's behind and says because I'm in her way

"Hey Brandon can you move the hell out of my way?" (in a dick tone, not joking)

Now I had already hugged and said bye so I was already going but...

The arrogant man would have torn her to shreds no?

But what I did was just move and leave...

your thoughts

Edit #1: On further reflection I'm not a complete wet noodle now, I've done dominant shit before but perhaps instead of going full asshole all the time, I can calibrate, I bet I have enough experience to play it right.

Example of me being a good dick

My friend is trying to play a song with his singer at an art gallery

This dip shit victor and his friend won't shutup, even after my friend tries to quiet him.

Me: Hey can you guys shut the fuck up?

They did haha

Edit #2:

The situation that really brought this home to me was this.

I'm having brunch with a bunch of people for my friend's birthday, yadda yadda talking eating.

This beautiful waitress appears and I gotta talk to her somehow someway.

I see an opening, I walk over and wait for her to walk by...

I say excuse me...

Me: Excuse me , I know you're working but I gotta say you're beautiful, here's my card.

Her: O thanks, What do you do?

Me: A bunch of shit right now(kinda meh response in my opinion)

Her: Ok thanks,(something like that)

I was rushing this whole thing, this was the f ear "She's working, Ican't take too long, I'm being a bother," <shit

And because that it wasnt fun for either of us, haven't heard back from the beautiful serbian woman.

 

[Chase]

Brandon-

Do the opposite, but make it look like you're doing so for a social reason.

e.g.:

• [Brandon saying goodbyes to coworkers]
  
  UG: Hey Brandon can you move the hell out of my way?
  
  Brandon: [pretends to not hear her, makes his goodbyes take longer]
  
  UG: Hey Brandon -- MOVE!
  
  Brandon: [to UG] Hold your horses. The building's not on fire. [returns to goodbyes, then turns to go]
  
  UG: Out of my way!
  
  Brandon: [leaves slowly, smiling and waving to friends/ignoring UG as she shoves/stampedes past]

In general, when people try to rush you rudely, just put the brakes on. "Yeah sure, I'll do that... s.l.o.w.l.y..."

Chase

 

[thedude]

Will do Chase, thanks!