What's the best time to send the recconecting text to girls ?

[Witcher]

Hello everyone,

It's nearly the end of the year and I would want to reconnect (and test) with some Girls I have lost touch or cuted contact with. I want to do that by sending them the once per year reconnecting text advised by Chase in the article: and from the Ebook: How to Text A Girls and It's origin article.

However I 'am a little confused on the best time to send since there no mention of it, especially between these two:

1-Before the new Year EVE (means the following days)
2-The first week/month of the New Year

I also want to know if it's okay to do it via Facebook for the girls that are in my Extended Social Circle.

All other suggestions and feedbacks are welcome.
Thank You in Advance.

 

[BetaBoy]

If you were planning to something with them I don’t see why not inviting them to it.

 

[Seppuku]

Hey Witcher,

Like any standard invitation for a date, you should send your text a few days before an available dating slot. Allow for a couple of days of back and forth, then two days before your available date slot you invite her. It is counterproductive to set a date more than three days away.

All in all, identify your available timeslot, and send your reconnect text 5 days before. Their New Year's even plans being most probably already done, it's probably better to wait for early January.

Seppuku

 

[Witcher]

Hey Witcher,

Like any standard invitation for a date, you should send your text a few days before an available dating slot. Allow for a couple of days of back and forth, then two days before your available date slot you invite her. It is counterproductive to set a date more than three days away.

All in all, identify your available timeslot, and send your reconnect text 5 days before. Their New Year's even plans being most probably already done, it's probably better to wait for early January.

Seppuku

Thank You Seppuku for this great advice. Applying it I came to this following interrogation:
1.What to talk about in the back and forth period.
2.How long should the conversation be per day? I feel that I'm either talking too much or too little with girls.
3. What to talk about? I always feel confused and go with the flow sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't.

Thank You bro!

 

[Seppuku]

1.What to talk about in the back and forth period.
2.How long should the conversation be per day? I feel that I'm either talking too much or too little with girls.
3. What to talk about? I always feel confused and go with the flow sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't.

Easy.

1. Small talk. How has she been? What did she do for the New Year? What's new since last time? Etc... You then pick up on her answers and make her expand.
2. Nothing too serious. Nothing too heavy. You match her frequency. If she gets chatty, just make her talk. If she doesn't, then just maintain a few convos a day.
3. See 1.

Then after you have a little rapport, about two days before an available time slot, send her "it would be nice to grab some drinks soon" or similar. Gauge the answer. If it sounds definitely positive ("OK!", or "sure!") then continue with "How about [your time slot here]?"

If it sounds ambiguous ("Let's see how it goes") don't ask her out yet. It usually means she doesn't feel comfortable yet. Just maintain the back and forth for now.

If you get a "I will let you know" sort of answer, you need to avoid getting trapped here. See what I wrote in this post.

If she comes with excuses, then try again in three months!

Seppuku

 

[Witcher]

1.What to talk about in the back and forth period.
2.How long should the conversation be per day? I feel that I'm either talking too much or too little with girls.
3. What to talk about? I always feel confused and go with the flow sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't.

Easy.

1. Small talk. How has she been? What did she do for the New Year? What's new since last time? Etc... You then pick up on her answers and make her expand.
2. Nothing too serious. Nothing too heavy. You match her frequency. If she gets chatty, just make her talk. If she doesn't, then just maintain a few convos a day.
3. See 1.

Then after you have a little rapport, about two days before an available time slot, send her "it would be nice to grab some drinks soon" or similar. Gauge the answer. If it sounds definitely positive ("OK!", or "sure!") then continue with "How about [your time slot here]?"

If it sounds ambiguous ("Let's see how it goes") don't ask her out yet. It usually means she doesn't feel comfortable yet. Just maintain the back and forth for now.

If you get a "I will let you know" sort of answer, you need to avoid getting trapped here. See what I wrote in this post.

If she comes with excuses, then try again in three months!

Seppuku

Your post about "I will let you know" saved me more than once! One thing I have an SP using what you gave, for the back and forth period, should it be one stretched convo that you resume over time the 2-3 days, or is it more like 2-3 conversation that you start and finish?

You also seem to use Text and FB messenger in a very different way? What are the main differences?

Thank you !

 

[Seppuku]

Your post about "I will let you know" saved me more than once! One thing I have an SP using what you gave, for the back and forth period, should it be one stretched convo that you resume over time the 2-3 days, or is it more like 2-3 conversation that you start and finish?

No hard rules here only guidelines. It's how you feel it, nothing scientific. Make it natural and smooth.

You also seem to use Text and FB messenger in a very different way? What are the main differences?

What? Where are you taking that from? Text and FB, it's the same. And for the record I'm very barely using FB messenger, mostly Whatsapp. It doesn't matter, texting is texting irrespective of the platform used.

 

[Witcher]

Your post about "I will let you know" saved me more than once! One thing I have an SP using what you gave, for the back and forth period, should it be one stretched convo that you resume over time the 2-3 days, or is it more like 2-3 conversation that you start and finish?

No hard rules here only guidelines. It's how you feel it, nothing scientific. Make it natural and smooth.

You also seem to use Text and FB messenger in a very different way? What are the main differences?

What? Where are you taking that from? Text and FB, it's the same. And for the record, I'm very barely using FB messenger, mostly Whatsapp. It doesn't matter, texting is texting irrespective of the platform used.

You actually answered the question! it was just an assumption since I use text and FB Messenger very differently. In FB I usually have girls from my social circle or extended social circle with whom I have usually a casual conversation about various topics. But I recently reduced this since I noticed that it was a form of avoidance for no asking the girls out so I started to use FB Messenger as texting tool, things are going a lot better!

Thank's man!

 

[Witcher]

Hey Witcher,

Like any standard invitation for a date, you should send your text a few days before an available dating slot. Allow for a couple of days of back and forth, then two days before your available date slot you invite her. It is counterproductive to set a date more than three days away.

All in all, identify your available timeslot, and send your reconnect text 5 days before. Their New Year's even plans being most probably already done, it's probably better to wait for early January.

Seppuku

Sep,

Been now like one year of using your way of texting with girls from the Reconnecting text to the "I will let you know" and I can say that I doubled the number of girls I'm getting on date all this looking smoother!

However, I still have a little SP. How many "texts in average should be in the Rapport/Back and fort phase? It seems to me that I'm spending too much time in it before asking her. Since many times I slip into "long" conversations that die and ends up in either seen or "Not seen" but not answer with the girls getting colder in me after who were initially very warm.

Thanks man!

 

[Seppuku]

Witcher,

How many "texts in average should be in the Rapport/Back and fort phase? It seems to me that I'm spending too much time in it before asking her. Since many times I slip into "long" conversations that die and ends up in either seen or "Not seen" but not answer with the girls getting colder in me after who were initially very warm.

There is no such thing as an "average number of texts". You need to spend the minimum possible amount of time texting. But if it's from online dating, you do need to reach to some minimum amount of comfort before asking out. My general rule of thumb is to wait that she starts moving out of her initial reserve and open up a bit, or even better, when she starts asking you private questions (the "hook point"). But if this moment doesn't seem to come, you still need to make a move, it's still better than waiting forever.

In general you need to learn to calibrate to your own experiences. I learned this through my own trial and error.

Seppuku

 

[Michal]

Witcher,

How many "texts in average should be in the Rapport/Back and fort phase? It seems to me that I'm spending too much time in it before asking her. Since many times I slip into "long" conversations that die and ends up in either seen or "Not seen" but not answer with the girls getting colder in me after who were initially very warm.

There is no such thing as an "average number of texts". You need to spend the minimum possible amount of time texting. But if it's from online dating, you do need to reach to some minimum amount of comfort before asking out. My general rule of thumb is to wait that she starts moving out of her initial reserve and open up a bit, or even better, when she starts asking you private questions (the "hook point"). But if this moment doesn't seem to come, you still need to make a move, it's still better than waiting forever.

In general you need to learn to calibrate to your own experiences. I learned this through my own trial and error.

Seppuku

And if you make the move and she stops responding? Maybe better term would be "breaks her texting frequency / response time patern". I accidently made a move like that too soon, before setting any rapport, and now I am wondering whether it is possible to recover from that. My assumption is that it is possible with some low effort text.

 

[Seppuku]

What I mean is I normally wait to see her open up to the chat, if possible even reach the point where she starts asking question. It is always better to get a minimum of rapport / comfort before asking. But if you can't reach that point after some reasonable time, it is better to make a move than just giving up - like on last resort. Some times you discover that she was actually waiting for you to make a serious move (asking her out).

In seduction it is much better to do things right in the first place. The "recover" strategies have low odds of success. But yes, if you need to recover from a mistake, low effort text is the way to go.