FR Whats the problem here? (College Game)

[Kaida]

Wanna preface by saying my college is massive (40k+ population), so its less social circle than normal. I regularly find people I’ve never seen before

Heres a recent text interaction I had with a girl (we just had a flirty talk in person)

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Her: *Sends video of her large stuffed animal*

Me: Lol its bigger than you

Her: Lmfaoo he’s cute though

Me: His owner is too
Me: wydd

Her: *Puts laugh reaction on first message”
Her: chillin still. might walk to the field around 10 like I normally do lol.

(its 7pm right now)

Me: gotchu. I’m still studying rn. But we should chill I was finna watch a disney movie or something

Her: only disney movie I can watch over and over is high school musical and teen beach

Me: bet lets do it. I’ve never watched high school musical

Her: No way!!!

Me: lol ik i need to. come over and watch it wimme

Her: Come overrrrrr

(felt it slipping here but I usually push till I get a no)

Me: yep. chill and watch hsm, no pressure

Her: wait where even is yo dorm

Me : [DORM], its only about 5 mins from yours

Her: chileeee

Me: tryna slide, never watched hsm be4

Her: hmmm lmfao
Her: I’m finna walk to the field

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I just didn’t reply after that.

I get a lot of interactions like the one above with girls. I push till the end (make the ho say no) and if they don’t comply I go ice on them / lower investment to not reward bad behavior.

Around 40% of the time they come back once they see other girls talking to me in person, so its not a terrible strategy. I’ve fucked quite a few girls this way (some very beautiful ones too in fact)

But I know theres a better way to finesse it.

Theres a friend I have that is less flirty and “close-oriented” then I am and yet has been able to isolate a lot of girls I’ve wanted somehow.

And for him it’s like some of these girls are still chasing after him a little bit even if he doesn’t close / jump on escalation windows. But with me its like either I fuck or the girl is cool off me. And even after I fuck its like some of them get cool off me.

It’s like I pull up a picture of a girl I didn’t close with, and he’ll say some shit like “Oh yeah, I slept over at her dorm twice in her bed, we didn’t do anything though.” like what? If I was in that situation I would’ve been beat her doonies down lmao. It’s somewhat rare for me not to close with a girl in my room.


I was hoping a new strategy would just click with experience and analyzation, but I don’t seem to be seeing the best way. Maybe I’m treating this too much like cold approach

What am I doing wrong?

 

[Kaida]

Upon further thinking, I have a few ideas as to what the problem is but I dont want to limit the advice given if any of the pros see something else.

I’ll say what I think it is after others respond

 

[POB]

I was hoping a new strategy would just click with experience and analyzation, but I don’t seem to be seeing the best way. Maybe I’m treating this too much like cold approach

What am I doing wrong?

Do an event date with her,
then seed the pull,
then pull to your place:

Know what, forget the movie
Come and join me for a walk
I wanna go and buy some groceries to make (insert finger food)
We can grab drinks too, gonna be fun

 

[DarkJedi]

I think overall you're missing a bit of the "make her chase" aspect in your seductions.

You seem to be relying on fundamentals, dominance and social circle/preselection things, and that have been working very well for you in most cases. Kinda going full steam ahead and getting the lay. You've shown all the cards, not high investment from the girl's side I feel.

Your friend on the other hand seems to be giving more space, letting her do some of the work. Being chill. Being chill also builds trust.

 

[Kaida]

@POB

Do an event date with her,
then seed the pull,
then pull to your place:

Know what, forget the movie
Come and join me for a walk
I wanna go and buy some groceries to make (insert finger food)
We can grab drinks too, gonna be fun

Yeah, I’m going ti start doing that and report with results. I’ve only invited girls straight home thus far, hopefully this’ll crack the harder cases. Thank you!



@DarkJedi

I think overall you're missing a bit of the "make her chase" aspect in your seductions.

You seem to be relying on fundamentals, dominance and social circle/preselection things, and that have been working very well for you in most cases. Kinda going full steam ahead and getting the lay. You've shown all the cards, not high investment from the girl's side I feel.

Your friend on the other hand seems to be giving more space, letting her do some of the work. Being chill. Being chill also builds trust.

Yess, this is exactly what I was going to say. I’m not building as much investment / letting her chase as much as I should. Its done well thus far but I can do better.

Girls that are very warm in person arent as hot once they leave my presence, likely because I’m not anchoring the attraction enough. I’m just leading leading leading