when a girl calls you a pretty boy, but still fucks you

[mindful]

What's up guys,

this just recently popped in my head when I was thinking of the different things girls have said to me over the years and recently.

I was not content with my google search on the topic so hear I am making a post about it. I've always taking the "pretty boy" comment in a negative way when it comes from a girl. However, I have fucked the girls that have told me this.

Now, I admit that I do look young for my age, and is the general consensus when playing the "age guessing game" with girls. I've done everything I possibly can to rid myself of this, I have a cool haircut, I grow facial hair (a little past stubble since I like this look), dress well.

The only thing that I feel like still hinders me in this respect is I'm still a skinny guy although I work out and have noticeable muscle on my arms and such. I am 5'8" 140 lbs. I've weighed as little as 118 in college.

I would like to be in the 150-160 range for weight, and it's not far-off and largely in reach. I could probably get there in ~3 months time if I gain weight at a healthy pace (1-2 lbs a week). I've also come to the conclusion that being skinny also effects my psyche, like I don't feel as manly as I should or sexually appealing to women.

Any thoughts?

 

[Franco]

mindful,

I was not content with my google search on the topic so hear I am making a post about it. I've always taking the "pretty boy" comment in a negative way when it comes from a girl. However, I have fucked the girls that have told me this.

Keep in mind if she still fucks you, there's a very good chance that she "likes" pretty boys.

I usually see this when a guy has more of a "metrosexual" style, rather than very dominant/alpha/aggressive style. That's not to say one or the other is better or worse -- I'm actually somewhere in between metrosexual and alpha/dominant in both my fashion and my demeanor. I've been called a pretty boy before, but that was also from girls who were flirting with me!

The only thing that I feel like still hinders me in this respect is I'm still a skinny guy although I work out and have noticeable muscle on my arms and such. I am 5'8" 140 lbs. I've weighed as little as 118 in college.

I weigh ~145-150 right now, and I'm 5'10. So it definitely doesn't stop you!

That being said, I purposely go for an extremely lean, toned/ripped look. So I actually look quite good with my shirt off -- almost like lead male character from Japanese anime. So don't stress too much about your weight and focus mostly on how lean/toned you look!

Cheers,

Franco

 

[lostnumber]

Honestly? If you are getting laid that is what really matters. I try to get to the gym when I can, but I doubt there is a poster here who takes the gym seriously and can't outlift me. I'm 6'4 and 195 and the most I've ever put up on a bench press is 165 for a few reps. And that was before I blew my shoulder out

Are you strong enough to pick a girl up and manhandle her in the bedroom? If so thats really all you need. Anything else is just extra for your physical and psychological wellbeing.

That being said, your physical and psychological well being are super important, so if you find your confidence suffering I'd agree that its worth putting the extra time in at the gym. Just understand that the actual impact its going to have on girls is not huge (assuming you are in decent shape already). A good looking guy with a six pack who can do 100 sit ups is hot. A good looking guy with a six pack who can 200 situps is... Pretty much the same really. There are significant diminishing returns to being in shape, for most girls at least.

Hell I dont even have a six pack. I've decided beer and good food are more important to me (at least for right now)

 

[mindful]

mindful,

I was not content with my google search on the topic so hear I am making a post about it. I've always taking the "pretty boy" comment in a negative way when it comes from a girl. However, I have fucked the girls that have told me this.

Keep in mind if she still fucks you, there's a very good chance that she "likes" pretty boys.

I usually see this when a guy has more of a "metrosexual" style, rather than very dominant/alpha/aggressive style. That's not to say one or the other is better or worse -- I'm actually somewhere in between metrosexual and alpha/dominant in both my fashion and my demeanor. I've been called a pretty boy before, but that was also from girls who were flirting with me!

The only thing that I feel like still hinders me in this respect is I'm still a skinny guy although I work out and have noticeable muscle on my arms and such. I am 5'8" 140 lbs. I've weighed as little as 118 in college.

I weigh ~145-150 right now, and I'm 5'10. So it definitely doesn't stop you!

That being said, I purposely go for an extremely lean, toned/ripped look. So I actually look quite good with my shirt off -- almost like lead male character from Japanese anime. So don't stress too much about your weight and focus mostly on how lean/toned you look!

Cheers,

Franco

Yeah she still fucks me so obviously I'm doing something right. The comment itself just never sits well with me, maybe it's an ego thing. I also don't consider myself a dominating/aggressive person... which also stems from the fact I have been skinny the better part of my life and not "macho" in my personality. Combine that with the fact that I was a "nice guy" for a lot of my life too and never had much balls with women until i was 24/25.

It's actually been hard over the years to try and become more aggressive or even appear that way to women, have a more hardened demeanor where i ooze more of a sexual vibe. It's still a mental hurdle I need to overcome but luckily I have still seen a good number of success in my dating life.

I'm intrigued that is your weight/height. Also, gives me a sense of relief lol. Do you have any tips for becoming more toned/lean? I mainly do heavy lifting right now and I wouldn't consider myself lean/toned at all. I still think I need more muscle before I attempt that aspect of working out.

 

[lostnumber]

Yeah she still fucks me so obviously I'm doing something right. The comment itself just never sits well with me, maybe it's an ego thing. I also don't consider myself a dominating/aggressive person... which also stems from the fact I have been skinny the better part of my life and not "macho" in my personality. Combine that with the fact that I was a "nice guy" for a lot of my life too and never had much balls with women until i was 24/25.

Mindful,

One idea I would throw out there is to give combat sports a try. I'm a skinny but reasonably proportioned guy right now at 6'4 195, but when I was in highschool I was 6'4 and about 155, and had serious body image issues. I ended up going out for wrestling and I've continued that with Jiu Jitsu in my later years. I would say that the psychological edge I get from thinking "Yeah I could beat that guy up" is a real thing, and has helped compensate for my lack of athleticism or muscle mass.

 

[mindful]

Yeah she still fucks me so obviously I'm doing something right. The comment itself just never sits well with me, maybe it's an ego thing. I also don't consider myself a dominating/aggressive person... which also stems from the fact I have been skinny the better part of my life and not "macho" in my personality. Combine that with the fact that I was a "nice guy" for a lot of my life too and never had much balls with women until i was 24/25.

Mindful,

One idea I would throw out there is to give combat sports a try. I'm a skinny but reasonably proportioned guy right now at 6'4 195, but when I was in highschool I was 6'4 and about 155, and had serious body image issues. I ended up going out for wrestling and I've continued that with Jiu Jitsu in my later years. I would say that the psychological edge I get from thinking "Yeah I could beat that guy up" is a real thing, and has helped compensate for my lack of athleticism or muscle mass.

Sounds like you are every girls dream at 6'4"

I've thought about combat sports. So I'm glad you mentioned it. Yeah I've never had the mindset that "I can beat that guy up", because I've generally been skinny and weak compared to most my peers... and this has definitely poured over into women and my aggressiveness with them. However, it's not so bad at this point in my life, because I don't swing my dick and compare myself to who I can or can't beat up like its status in HS to get into fights or be "tough".

 

[lostnumber]

Yeah she still fucks me so obviously I'm doing something right. The comment itself just never sits well with me, maybe it's an ego thing. I also don't consider myself a dominating/aggressive person... which also stems from the fact I have been skinny the better part of my life and not "macho" in my personality. Combine that with the fact that I was a "nice guy" for a lot of my life too and never had much balls with women until i was 24/25.

Mindful,

One idea I would throw out there is to give combat sports a try. I'm a skinny but reasonably proportioned guy right now at 6'4 195, but when I was in highschool I was 6'4 and about 155, and had serious body image issues. I ended up going out for wrestling and I've continued that with Jiu Jitsu in my later years. I would say that the psychological edge I get from thinking "Yeah I could beat that guy up" is a real thing, and has helped compensate for my lack of athleticism or muscle mass.

Sounds like you are every girls dream at 6'4"

I've thought about combat sports. So I'm glad you mentioned it. Yeah I've never had the mindset that "I can beat that guy up", because I've generally been skinny and weak compared to most my peers... and this has definitely poured over into women and my aggressiveness with them. However, it's not so bad at this point in my life, because I don't swing my dick and compare myself to who I can or can't beat up like its status in HS to get into fights or be "tough".

I highly encourage you to try it. You'll be surprised at how much this stuff is hardcoded into your DNA. Its kind of like, why do women like a guy who has big muscles? Do big muscles actually mean much at all in modern western society? Unless you belong to an African tribe and are hunting live game and fighting with spears your physical skills are unlikely to have any relevant impact on your success in life. But still we're programmed as humans prefer certain physical attributes

Its the same thing when it comes to masculinity and confidence being correlated to being able to handle yourself in a fight. The odds that you'll actually get in a fight and NEED to use your skills are vanishingly rare if you're in a good living situation. I've been wrestling/grappling on and off for years and I can count the number of times I've had to beat someone up on zero fingers so far. But the psychological edge is very real

 

[Michal]

The comment itself just never sits well with me, maybe it's an ego thing. I also don't consider myself a dominating/aggressive person... which also stems from the fact I have been skinny the better part of my life and not "macho" in my personality.
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It's actually been hard over the years to try and become more aggressive or even appear that way to women, have a more hardened demeanor where i ooze more of a sexual vibe. It's still a mental hurdle I need to overcome but luckily I have still seen a good number of success in my dating life.

Hello,

I just read what described bellow and it might seem as if the assuptions I make are true and that I know that this is the case, but it was meant merely for you to consider.. anyways here it is....


As you menrioned the issue might be ego thing - what I suspect is the "boy" part of that comment. I dont think this sits well with any guy unless he is trully and completely confident and sure of himself. Maybe you are conflicted and unsure what it means to be a man on the subconscious level and therefore are not completely sure you are a man deep down, but on a logical level you think you are because you are 25+ of age. I think nowadays men are more bombarded with how they should behave to be "real men" while women (at least in USA) seem to be spared of this. Overall, if it does not sit well with you, it means it is "loaded" with some bad connotation.