When a girl I close ask me, "do you do this often?" What do I respond?

[kristian]

I have made some progress in daygame. Having a handfull of dates every month and from time to time having a perfect night where everything just clicks and the girl end up in my bed.

The sex then is amazing and sometimes they fall a little crazy for me. I guess I am finally putting some of the pieces together

But after ending in my bed and after having some amazing sex they eventually ask me.

Do you do this often?

I sometimes say. Me? No, I'm a nice guy, in a joking kind of way. Then they smile and say no you're a bad boy I don't fool me. (So at least I am not being boyfriend material anymore )

Or sometimes I just smile.

But the thing is; they want an answer. They know there not the only one, so I say that I just go with the flow, and if there's a vibe why not just explore it.

The thing is, the more she falls or the more impressed with my smoothness she seem, the more she wonders how many girls there have been I have these kind of interactions with. I've only had 3 day game lays, but on dates and even after a successful approach I still get this question.

So what do I answer? And what do you answer?

I want them to know that I am not looking for a girlfriend, but I still like them and they're still special and we will have a great time together. I am just not that type of guy. The thing is I don't want to say it directly, but rather have them understand this.

 

[foggy]

Say yes!

Women are asking you that to determine your level of confidence.

...Just don't get into specifics about exactly how often. That's bad.

You could even be vague and say something like... "you don't even know the half of it"

 

[Seppuku]

Hey man,

If you're asked this question, that's a good thing, it means you have some game.

You can't say no of course, that's chickening out to her frame and non congruent to your own lover frame.

I used to stay evasive or vague. Now I answer with an obviously too crazy yes answer. It's a yes, but at the same time too obviously too crazy, so she's not sure if you're serious or not.

Examples from recent past:

Her: How many...
Me (interrupting her): any question starting by how many is a wrong question.

...

Her: How many girlfriends do you currently have?
Me: 6. One for each day of the week. But on the seventh day, I rest, like the Lord.
Her: Haha ok

...

Her: How many girls did you bring in this room?
Me: Two per day. One for breakfast, and one for dessert right after dinner, before sleep
Her (smiling): Ok

It's a lot of fun!

Cheers,
Seppuku

 

[kristian]

I used to stay evasive or vague. Now I answer with an obviously too crazy yes answer. It's a yes, but at the same time too obviously too crazy, so she's not sure if you're serious or not.

I tried being funny about the answering that question, but sometimes girls still want a serious answer. So I have been experimenting with the following answer:

I am just a social kind of guy. If I find someone interesting and I am in a talkative mood Ill just start a conversation and see what happens. We need to acknowledge each other more in this country. I just feel like people are too concerned about themselves and forget to see how many awesome people there are out there.

The girls that I usually go for (travellers, artistic type of women), love this answer. Once they agree, I just start talking about something else and we don't need to ever talk about it anymore.

The thing is, being from Norway and direct approaching women, makes you stand out from 99,9% of the guys out there. Women have never experienced someone just stopping them on the street like that, they feel they need an answer, because they never had an experience being approached this way.

 

[Seppuku]

Hey Kristian,

I've never been to Norway. Are you in Oslo?

I am just a social kind of guy. If I find someone interesting and I am in a talkative mood Ill just start a conversation and see what happens. We need to acknowledge each other more in this country. I just feel like people are too concerned about themselves and forget to see how many awesome people there are out there.

Sounds good to me. I would even make it shorter, leaving the "explaining bit" out, because it sounds like justifying yourself:

"I am just a social kind of guy. If I find someone interesting and I am in a talkative mood Ill just start a conversation and see what happens."

(let her fill in the rest herself)

But that's me, you know best what's appropriate in your context. It's a good answer anyway. You don't say No (incongruent), or straight Yes (player). It's indirect and she figures out the story herself. Just what you need.

Cheers,
Seppuku