When a girl throws herself at you. . .

[Black]

There was a little bit on this on an article but I couldn't find it again . had to do with frames I think. . .

Anyway, it's a simple question:
Girl starts touching you or flirting hard out of the blue - and you are blindsided, in fight-or-flight and not in control of the situation anymore (and blow it).

For example: that girl in social circle suddenly calling me "hot", cupping my pecs and saying "c'mon" I could do the same to her - in front of at least 4 others, in a public place, in broad daylight. I didn't know how to react because I didn't know what was the joke all about (most likely about me being shy) - but then it turned out she had been for real.

Another girl, total nutcase, started groping my biceps at a bar when her boyfriend was going to arrive any minute. I did well to reject her but I was too exaggerated and I think it made me look awkward in front of others.

Others (inexperienced/crazy/whatever) start to push things, usually when backed by friends:
"Why are you over 30 and not married?"
"Why don't you have a girlfriend?"
"Am available. . ."
"Yeah, you should go out with her!"

All these frame things HARD for a "yes or no" kind of answer. . . which is exactly what I don't feel like giving.

 

[Mr. oblivious]

Just don't act over excited, remain calm and cool and if you like what you see isolate and escalate.

No need to make anything complex.

If you don't the person or want them for layer plant a seed or use the pre-selection

 

[Richard]

Frame-reversal does the trick here, as do other framing techniques.

No matter what a girl does (to show interest anyway) it should never blindside you - you should expect it, or have been doing it to her already.

A girl touches you out of nowhere, if you think she's cute:

"Hey! I know you think I'm attractive but that doesn't mean you get to touch me for free! Jeez. You women, always trying to objectify me!"

If she starts to flirt with you hardcore:

"You're just trying to talk your way into my pants, eh? Well I'm onto you missy and it sooooo won't work"

Take their action and make it a conscious frame - they might not even realize what they're doing (and they probably won't) so when you call them out on it, and frame it like I did above then it makes for a hardcore sexual chase frame.

"Why are you over 30 and not married?"
"Why don't you have a girlfriend?"
"Am available. . ."
"Yeah, you should go out with her!"

Again, each of these would get a different response on whether or not you think the girl is cute, you wanna sleep with her, you want nothing to do with her, etc.

"Why don't you have a girlfriend?"

I can't find a girl that will put up with my incessant neediness, and clingy(ness) issues. (say this confidently with a laugh... because it comes out sarcastic so girls know you have the opposite qualities)

"Why are you over 30 and not married?"

Same as above.

"Yeah, you should go out with her!"

No she shouldn't - I'm high risk.
or
You see that! Our friends are trying to push us away from them.


All the above responses spark intrigue from a girl and set a good precedent for you to attract them (if that's what you're trying to do).

-Richard

 

[Black]

Thank you.
I'll try to memorize some version of those for the time being. . . had the rabbit in the headlights effect happen too many times already.

 

[Estate]

I actually don't think this has anything to do with "game" really, it's just how some people are, infact it the antithesis of someone who might be out-going but is really lacking social savvy.

For example, guys and girls who are in relationships are often quick the throw out the "So why are you still single...." sort of lines, and be chomping at the bit to offer you dating advice... but of course in the 2nd case, it's NOTHING they would do themselves if they found themselves single in the morning and in both cases (and I've dealt with this alot as I remained the solo-single guys in a certain social group I was in) it's a touch of jealousy and a way of trying to make themselves feel better. They like to showcase they are somehow superior to someone who is single, yet it comes from a real insecurity I always think... they see someone like me, having fun, being single by choice but they need to impose the whole "We are all nearly 30! You are supposed to be married/engaged by now and not doing so is not part of "the plan"".

As for women who come on strong. You know, some women just don't have much game. And they lack options. It happens a lot, they'll do what guys do, the clock is ticking, they are single, they'll suck it up with a few cocktails and come on to the next guy they see VERY strongly. They don't REALLY care who he is, but they'll convince themselves how great he is.