When attraction does not expire

[shaneawi]

I understand that attraction expires and you need to move fast with women or you get friendzoned. But in some cases girls will give me approach invitations or signals of interest and sometimes I'm busy at the time or just not interested enough to approach her. But the girl still seems to show interest.

For example there was a girl in my class who at the beginning of the semester I challenged and teased and was dominant with during a conversation.(Bad boy traits) But I never even spoke with her again because I had other women in my life at the time. Throughout the entire semester I saw the girl sneaking side glances at me and even trying to tease me playfully in front of the whole class.Whenever there was a class exercise she would hover close to me.

I was probably in the friendzone already but I thought she would be upset that I didn't do anything with her. Why do some girls continue to take interest in you months after you didnt take action with her?

 

[HellAtlantic]

I think a girl in your class qualifies as "social circle". I consider my female coworkers who I haven't made a move on "social circle". Social circle allows, or rather doesn't penalize, slower moves. I think the "attractions expires" is more like seeing a girl at a bar. You don't have the whole nite to just sit around making eye contact with her every so often and not making a move, after a while she'll auto reject and focus her attention on to the next guy hoping he'll have the balls to approach. But social circle, where you are in frequent contact with the same ppl, operates a little differently. At the end of the day if you're an attractive guy girls will always secretly admire you from afar, it's not like you magically stop looking good to them. If she has this much interest in you why don't you take her out? You don't have to marry her. If she's not what you're looking for you can always use her network of female friends to expand your options.

 

[JimmyB]

Yeah I'll second what He'll is saying. It's more like "if you're gonna make a move, make it quick" don't linger or your chances nosedive. With social circle you both know you'll see each other again so there's no rush and there's always a possibility. Now if you saw this same girl at a bar and wanted to hook up, you would be best to act directly and seal the deal. There will be a spike in attraction at the outset and then a slow decline of you don't close (probably). If you sleep with her a whole different set of relationship variables come into play, but she will know where you stand lover-wise and attraction will remain. Also, every girl is different. This girl may really have a thing for you more than most, hence her continued efforts at your attention

 

[shaneawi]

The reason why I didn't take action was I was sleeping with two other girls and I just didn't really want to follow up with her. I also thought that I was already in the boyfriend(provider) category since we both were in class together so I thought it would take forever to sleep with her so I didn't even attempt to. I probably should have though