When girls pin you socially

[Lawliet]

Hi seducer bros,

It's been awhile since I'm here. School, work and hard approaching... finally some relax time
Glad to be back

Check!

In chess, when your opponent pins your king, that's a check.
If it's a pin on your king and another piece, then it's up to you (forcefully) to sacrifice that piece so your king lasts another turn.
Consider that socially.


1. Girls early on asks if YOU want commitment
Let's say you're on first date and she looks at you and says

"Hey, do you mind if I go and see other guys?"
Usually, it's the girl going for committment, but at the same time, some guys would like their gf to not see other guys. (Serious / LTR w/ ONS)
So here, (let's assume you like her and consider her potential gf...) how would you respond?

2. At a club / Bar / social event

Girl: Leave us alone!
Let's say you approach a group of girls at a club and they say upon approach (perhaps before you even say anything)
"Leave us alone" or "Go away"
This case, assuming fundamentals and approach was done right (other girls are fine with you), it's a power situation and the leader of the girls feels you're a good mark to tool you to show her amazing powers.

How would you respond?
Walk away? That's weak.
Confront? That's reactive and weak.
Bitter and pinched? Yeah...still dead.


Hope to hear your insights, bros!
Lawliet

 

[Lawliet]

Anything?
And also when girls say I have a boyfriend upon date ask.

 

[Howell]

1. Girls early on asks if YOU want commitment
Let's say you're on first date and she looks at you and says

"Hey, do you mind if I go and see other guys?"
Usually, it's the girl going for committment, but at the same time, some guys would like their gf to not see other guys. (Serious / LTR w/ ONS)
So here, (let's assume you like her and consider her potential gf...) how would you respond?

If it's a first date and she asks you that she's testing you. Why would she be thinking of other guys with you this early? So the best thing to do would be to brush it off. Ask her "how many are you thinking at once?" or joke about how you've been thinking about making blinders for women (like what you put on horses), and sell them to jealous men. Doesn't really matter all that much what you say. Just don't take her seriously or at face value and maintain a playful frame. Cuz she's just be silly anyway with such a question. You can always just ignore the question too, if you don't think being playful is the right approach for that situation. Don't overthink it though -- it's usually just a poorly calibrated shit-test on her part.

2. At a club / Bar / social event

Let's say you approach a group of girls at a club and they say upon approach (perhaps before you even say anything)
"Leave us alone" or "Go away"
This case, assuming fundamentals and approach was done right (other girls are fine with you), it's a power situation and the leader of the girls feels you're a good mark to tool you to show her amazing powers.

How would you respond?
Walk away? That's weak.
Confront? That's reactive and weak.
Bitter and pinched? Yeah...still dead.

It's unlikely your approach or fundamentals were all that impressive if this happens. They may have been okay, but you could most likely be doing better. But if it happens, you can do the same as the first one. Brush it off with a cool, low-effort joke, or just ignore the girl who said it and talk with one of the other ones briefly, and probably not "too" directly -- though it depends on the situation. If you aren't worried about their reactions though all of these solutions are just common sense, default reactions of yours to them acting uncool or tryhard -- that is, trying hard to get a reaction out of you. The law of least effort is on your side as long as you stay nonreactive and don't let it mess with you. Don't be dependent on other people's reactions and maintain your own frame. The easiest way to do this is to realize how little of a fuck you actually give, and to realize how socially uncalibrated she's being by reacting to your friendly, inclusive attitude that way. She`s the weird one, not you.

Howell