When girls want attention specifically from you

[DarkKnight]

Hey guys,

A little background in order to bring this into context. I have trained my fundamentals really well, so a lot of time I get interest from the get go. I am not bragging, I worked like hell for this.

Anyway to the point in matter. I notice that girls try to grab attention (surprising I know), I usually waste no time with putting the interaction forward and screen for compliance. When a girl balks or obviously resists simple escalation I next them without being a jerk. I have become especially wary of flirty girls who are over the top with touching. Nothing new under the sun there. What I do notice though is that these same women can become incredibly persistent to the point of obsession with mindgames, trying to cockblock in a posessive way and those kinds of silliness which I try to avoid. How do you get these people off your back, especially in social circle situations where you cannot go superblunt as much as I would prefer? Usually I am an assertive guy but even I know that I cannot go Tony Montana in every situation. I would be a little more flexible with girls with who I believe there is real interest, but attention seekers I see the same as social leeches. Because in a way they are. Also when these girls "auto-reject", despite not being really interested in the first place. Oh boy, prepare for some negativity then.

Thanks.

 

[Chase]

DarkKnight-

That's a quality problem! Girls competing for your attention who are miffed enough when they don't get it that they go 'scorned woman' on you.

There are two very different approaches you can use here:

• 1. Don't piss them off in the first place. Give them just a little bit of attention and be a little nice / slightly flirty with them. Like the busy guy who is nevertheless a little bit more attentive than someone who is just being polite with them. Yes, they are leeching... but a little recognition of them goes a long way in terms of not making enemies who will then try to sabotage you.

• 2. Make them auto-reject but then pull them back. It is possible to turn around girls you put into auto-rejection. Very often when you do so, even if such a girl was not interested in you before, she becomes interested in you once you've brought her back. Part of the process in that article I got from A2daMIR, a nightclub bouncer with exceptional fundamentals who would frequently (accidentally, he's said) put girls into auto-rejection, then pull them out of it and sleep with them after.

You might want to focus on #1, while keeping #2 around in case of accidents.

(or perhaps still occasionally use #2 semi-intentionally when you run into a really cute girl who is only seeking attention from you at first)

Chase

 

[DarkKnight]

Nice in-depth reply there chase. And that's why I love you man. I bought One Date out of sheer appreciation of the massive amounts of value that you have brought. But I digress.

I get your point, so I should be a little more considerate with handling the feelings of others despite knowing what they are on about. Never did I think that becoming a "higher value" man would come with such responsibility. I guess this is the new reality.

I should keep point 2 in mind.. I think that happened with me in the past. Accidentily and I couldn´t really point my finger on what happened except for increased investment from the girl.

 

[Chase]

Cheers DK

Never did I think that becoming a "higher value" man would come with such responsibility. I guess this is the new reality.

Yes. As your value goes up, more and more people begin to pin their hopes and emotions on you.

When your value is lower, few/no people do this. But increasing value really means your power to do things and influence things in the world is going up. Other people start to hope they can make a connection with you, make an impression on you, build a relationship with you... and can be thrilled if they succeed or bitter if they don't.

You actually have to be a lot 'nicer' as a high value guy than you do as a low value guy. Lower value guys can get away with being more of an asshole, because no one pays too much attention to what they think or how they treat people. High value guys have all eyes on them.

Chase