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When I lose my Frame/Mindset and Blow up at Girls.....

Paulie Walnuts

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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Yes I'm aware this is conducive of creepy/stalker behavior, I'm not sure why it happens to me every once in awhile but....

So I posted about how I went on this date Thursday (before my awesome double pull this weekend :)), girl was my type, super short (5 ft.) brunette white girl with an amazing ass who had her shit together. Things seemed to go pretty well and we were talking about seeing each other again when I dropped her off at her car (I wrote about this in my "Girls online after date" post here in the General Forum).

She never replied to my text the next day or today, however when I got home I saw she was on the app and it annoyed me, so I hit her up and was like "Wow haha, if you're not interested the least you could do is say so". She blocked me! Yes I'm quite aware women do this on a regular basis especially if you don't have your fundamentals locked down tight (and even if you are a sexy man, sometimes there's just bad days or girls that you can't close), I dunno though... I got fucking pissed and totally freaked out; lost my temper and texted her that she was "A fucking bitch", then I called her FOURTEEN TIMES JUST TO BE ANNOYING (in the moment it seemed like an amazing idea.......), then texted her something else about being a bitch and how she should have said that to my face....

I'm not sure where this anger stems from but I'm pretty sure I still harbor a lot of bitterness and resentment towards women from high school (which I'm trying to change), it has negatively affected my reputation in the past when I did this to multiple girls and it's hard to get away from being "That douchebag guy that can't seem to let go when he gets rejected". I started doing a lot better with women in college and when I started partying and running events and now with GC techniques and mindsets I'm doing even better than before, but I think that bitterness and deep seated spite for the female gender still gets to me sometime (I want to change this to become a great lover of women).

She doesn't live around me but her cousin goes to my school.... We don't know each other but I'm sure this will negatively impact my reputation again somehow, and even if it doesn't I HAVE GOT TO GET AWAY FROM THIS KIND OF BEHAVIOR...

Also this hasn't happened to me in a long time, probably a year and a half maybe longer; I feel like I'm slipping back rather than moving forward :/, my skills and fundamentals are getting better and my mindset is typically fine but then this happened.

Anyone have advice for dealing with the mindset? Typically when rejected in person I do the Tyler RSD "Call me ;)" thing or if it's over text I generally just don't reply and delete the text so it doesn't piss me off. It's been a long time since I got angry like this.
 
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Whizzy

Cro-Magnon Man
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Whenever you get angry or think you'll say something you shouldn't, as I'm sure a little voice in your head says "this is a bad idea", take a deep breathe and do a few pushups. After a bit of time try just taking the deep breathe and then eventually you wont even need to do that either. This way it burns off a bit of your anger energy and you can keep a cool head ;)
 
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